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My name is Li Xiaohong, I am 28 years old and I am married to my high school classmate Li Xiaoming. We got married after graduating from college, and after we got married, I gave up my job to focus on my husband and children. Xiao Ming works as a salesman in a foreign company and is very busy at work, but he is very good to me and my children.
Our marriage is also considered a happy one, although life is dull, but the relationship is stable. Until two years ago, Xiao Ming suddenly suffered a stroke and was paralyzed in bed. I was cooking in the kitchen that day, when I suddenly heard a loud noise from the bedroom, and I ran over to see that Xiao Ming had fallen to the ground and couldn't speak. I hurriedly called an ambulance, and Xiao Ming was taken to the hospital.
The doctor said that Xiao Ming's brain blood vessel ruptured and needed long-term bed rest. I was devastated, watching my energetic husband become a patient who couldn't take care of himself. But on second thought, I am his wife, and now he needs my care and companionship the most. So, I resolutely decided to quit my job and take care of Xiao Ming at home full-time.
At first, my heart was full of guilt for Xiao Ming. I blame myself for not being able to find out about his illness in time and for not being able to prevent it from happening. Every day, I was busy taking care of Xiao Ming's daily life and eating, while he could only lie quietly on the bed, occasionally letting out a moan or two.
"Xiaohong, I'm sorry to make your life so hard. "Once, Xiao Ming said to me suddenly.
I quickly took his hand, "What are you talking about, I'm your wife, this is what I should do." The most important thing is that you take care of your body as soon as possible. ”
I'm starting to feel that life is so hard, and I miss the busyness and fulfillment of my work. But I can't bear to leave Xiao Ming alone at home. I started to get irritable, sometimes
Sometimes he loses his temper with Xiao Ming for no reason. Later I realized that I had to adjust my mindset and not let negative emotions ruin the home.
"Xiaohong, Uncle Wang is really nice. On the way home, Xiao Ming said suddenly.
"Yes, others seem to be kind. I chimed in.
"You have to talk to him a lot to release the pressure. Xiao Ming continued.
I was a little surprised that Xiao Ming would say this, but I still nodded: "Okay, I know." ”
From that day on, I would often visit Uncle Wang. I found that Uncle Wang was very talkative, and every time he would tell me some interesting life stories, which made me forget about my troubles in reality for a while. Uncle Wang would also tell me the story of his love with his wife, which made me realize the value of family again.
"Xiaohong, you must cherish your relationship with Xiao Ming. "Uncle Wang always told me like this.
"I know. "I'll nod my head too.
However, I didn't notice the change in Xiao Ming's heart. He began to watch me silently as I went out to visit Uncle Wang, his eyes full of worry and uneasiness.
"Xiaohong, have you been going to Uncle Wang's house a little too often recently?" One day at dinner, Xiao Ming suddenly said.
"Yes, I feel like you've been running to him all day lately, and we've both spent a lot less time talking. Xiao Ming said with a frown.
I was a little heartbroken by his question, but I still explained: "Maybe I've been bored lately, so I often go to talk to Uncle Wang." But that doesn't stop me from taking care of you. ”
"I didn't say it affected taking care of me. Xiao Ming sighed, "It's just that you're too close to him, and I'm a little worried." ”
"Worried about what?" I'm a little confused.
"I'm worried you're going to like him. Xiao Ming's eyes were full of worry.
"What! How could I fall in love with an old man!" I quickly denied it, "I just think of him as a friend to talk to." ”
"That's good. Xiao Ming nodded, "As long as you still love me." ”
I saw the uneasiness in Xiao Ming's eyes, and a trace of guilt welled up in my heart. I decided to go to Uncle Wang less often in the future, so that Xiao Ming could no longer be suspicious.
However, my relationship with Uncle Wang has gone beyond the scope of friends. I find myself unconsciously missing the time I spent with him and looking forward to each day. Uncle Wang is like a light in my life, allowing me to find the happiness I have not seen for a long time.
I don't know how to define that feeling, but I don't want to give up. I will try to find an excuse to go to Uncle Wang's house and talk to him for an hour or two. I will even hide the real reason why I went to visit Uncle Wang in front of Xiao Ming.
"You're going to look for Uncle Wang again today?" One day at dinner, Xiao Ming asked me again.
"Well, I just sent some homemade snacks. I replied vaguely.
"Really, why do I think you're wearing a lot more beautiful clothes than usual?" Xiao Ming stared at me.
"You're thinking too much. I looked away, not daring to look at Xiao Ming.
"Little Red, look at me. Xiao Ming raised his voice, "Do you like Uncle Wang?"
I retorted in a panic: "No! I only have respect for him, how can I like it!"
"Then explain why you go to him so often, and hide the real reason from me?" Xiao Ming's eyes were filled with anger.
I was speechless, and tears couldn't help but burst out of my eyes: "I'm sorry, it's me who is not good, I shouldn't hide it from you." I choked up.
"So, you're really in love with him?" Xiao Ming looked at me with disappointment in his eyes.
I nodded, tears blurring my vision.
Xiao Ming was silent, and after a long time, he said sullenly: "If you really love him, stay with him." I'm a cripple, and I'm only going to drag you down. ”
"Don't say that!" I hurriedly grabbed Xiao Ming's hand, "I swear, nothing happened between me and Uncle Wang, I still love you the most!"
"But your heart has flown away. Xiao Ming removed my hand, "I can feel that you are staying by my side now out of responsibility and guilt, and it is no longer out of love." ”
I cried even harder: "Give me a chance to make amends, and I'll fall in love with you all over again." ”
"Don't push yourself. Xiao Ming said calmly, "You should live the life you want." Let's get a divorce, you go to your true love, I won't stop you. ”
"No!" I almost subconsciously shouted out the word, "I can't leave you, I will only love you alone in this life!"
Xiao Ming looked at me and wanted to say something, but in the end he just sighed: "I'm tired, you go out first." ”
I know that Xiao Ming has been disheartened, and it is useless to say anything. I left the bedroom crying and decided to go directly to Uncle Wang to explain the matter.
"Uncle Wang, I'm sorry that I've come to you so often during this time. I said to Uncle Wang with red eyes.
"Did something happen?" Uncle Wang looked at me with concern.
I told Uncle Wang everything about the quarrel with Xiao Ming just now.
Uncle Wang sighed: "Xiaohong, I can understand your feelings, but you shouldn't betray your marriage." ”
"I know it's wrong. I choked up and said, "But I really can't control myself, can you let me stay with you?"
"No, you can't. Uncle Wang decisively rejected me, "You are fragile now, but I can't destroy your family." You should go back to Xiao Ming. ”
I cried and fell into Uncle Wang's arms, I knew he was right, but I still didn't want to give up.
"Shhhh Uncle Wang patted me on the back, "You and Xiao Ming have gone through so much, we will definitely be able to go back together."
"You and Xiao Ming have been through so much, we will definitely be able to get back together. Believe me, relationships need to go through a run-in, and as long as there is still love between you, you will definitely be able to get through it. Uncle Wang looked at me kindly.
I nodded and wiped away my tears: "You're right, I can't just give up. I'm going to go back and communicate with Xiao Ming. ”
"Go, child, and everything will be fine. Uncle Wang smiled and watched me leave.
Back at home, I took a deep breath and pushed open the bedroom door. Xiao Ming lay on the bed with his back to me, motionless.
"Xiao Ming, let's talk. I sat down on the edge of the bed and whispered.
"There's nothing to talk about, we're out of the question. Xiao Ming's tone was indifferent.
"No, as long as you are willing to give me a chance, we will definitely be able to get back together. I choked up and said, "It's not good for you or me to be separated, we've been through so many years, and we can't just give up." ”
"I gave you a chance, but you still chose to betray. "Xiao Ming still has his back to me.
"It was just an impulse, and I swear I'll only love you alone in the future. I pleaded, "You said you wanted me to find my own happiness, but my happiness is by your side." ”
"Are you sure? I'm a waste now, and I'm just going to drag you down. Xiao Ming's tone finally softened.
"I never saw you as a drag!" I hastened to say, "I voluntarily chose to be with you, and I am willing to spend my whole life taking care of you because I love you." ”
"Really?" Xiao Ming finally turned around, his eyes shining with hope.
"Really!" I shook his hand, "Give me a chance to start over, and I'll show you how much I love you." ”
Xiao Ming was silent for a while, and finally nodded: "Okay, let's start again." This time, you can't live up to my trust again. ”
"I promise!" I hugged Xiao Ming excitedly, tears welling up in my eyes again, but this time out of joy.
From that day on, I returned to taking care of Xiao Ming. I take him out for a walk, tell him funny stories, and cook his favorite meals. We'll also chat and reconnect with the good old days. I know it will take time to rebuild trust, but as long as we still love each other, we will get through it.
Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, but as long as we don't give up easily, we will always see hope. this
This experience taught me that the most valuable part of a relationship is mutual understanding, tolerance and trust. When we encounter difficulties in life, we must not blame the other person first, but think from the other person's point of view.
One day, Xiao Ming suddenly said to me, "Xiaohong, I want to go out for a walk." ”
I was a little surprised, and quickly asked, "Have you gotten better?"
"Nope. Xiao Ming smiled, "It's just that I haven't been out for too long, and I want to go outside to blow the wind." ”
I nodded, "Okay, then I'll push you around the yard." ”
"Hmm. Xiao Ming's eyes showed some expectation.
We slowly walked in the garden, and the neighbors also came to say hello when they saw Xiao Ming. Xiao Ming always had a smile on his face, and I knew he must not have been so happy in a long time.
"Thank you, Red. On the way home, Xiao Ming said suddenly.
"Thank me for what?" I asked, puzzled.
"Thank you for taking care of me these days and allowing me to regain the joy of going out again. Xiao Ming looked at me seriously.
I was a little agitated and squeezed his hand: "This is what I should do." I'll take you out for a walk often in the future. ”
From that day on, I would regularly take Xiao Ming for a walk in the neighborhood or go to a nearby park for a sit. Xiao Ming's mood is getting better and better, and our relationship is getting closer and closer.
However, I know that Xiao Ming's heart will still be eroded by jealousy and suspicion from time to time. Whenever I mentioned that I was going to the supermarket or going out to run errands, he would look at me nervously, for fear that I would go to Uncle Wang again.
I can understand Xiao Ming's emotions, after all, I have betrayed his trust.