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My name is Li Xiaomei, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married for three years. My husband Wang Xiaoqiang is an engineer in a foreign company in our city, and his personality is relatively introverted and steady. My husband and I were college classmates, so we naturally got together after graduation.
The days passed plainly and happily day by day. My best friend Zhao Xin and I often go out for tea and talk about our lives and relationships. Shin Shin and I were high school classmates, and now she works in a clothing store and is a lively and cheerful girl.
"Xiaomei, look at you, you are the embodiment of happiness!" Today, I made an appointment with Shin Shin to meet at a café, and as soon as she saw me, she happily said, "It's great to have a stable husband and no worries in life!"
"How can it be as simple as you think?" I smiled and said, "Actually, Xiaoqiang is a person, sometimes the desire to control is quite strong, I feel a little restricted, not very comfortable." ”
"What kind of control, tell me?" Xinxin was interested when she heard it.
"For example, what clothes I wear and what books I read, he has to ask about them, as if I will be taken by others. I said with a little reluctance.
When Xinxin heard this, she pouted and said, "Hmph, man, it's all like this, you don't pay attention to him, what you like to wear, what you like to see, what's the matter!"
I smiled and didn't say anything more. In fact, I understand that Xiaoqiang has such a desire to control because he loves me, but it does cause me a lot of pressure.
At this time, Xiaoqiang sent a message saying that he was off work and came to pick me up at the café. I looked at the time, said goodbye to Shin Shin, then went to get my coat and stood at the door of the café waiting for him.
Xiaoqiang's car arrived quickly. When I got in the car, he looked at me with a frown and said, "Why are you wearing so little? Isn't it cold outside?"
I wore a shirt with jeans today and I thought it looked good. I explained, "It's very heated in the store, it's not cold. ”
Xiaoqiang was noncommittal, started the car and drove home. I could tell that he was clearly not happy with what I was wearing. It's really distressing for me to be so controlled in this kind of small thing.
The two of us didn't say a word all the way. When I got home, I went to take a shower. When I walked out in my pajamas, Xiaoqiang was sitting on the edge of the bed looking at me, with a somewhat complicated look in his eyes
I saw Xiaoqiang looking at me with complicated eyes, and I suddenly had a bad premonition in my heart.
"Why aren't you wearing leggings today?" Xiaoqiang asked with a frown.
I was startled and looked down at my pajamas, which were indeed not wearing the leggings that I usually wore when I went to bed.
"Didn't you wear leggings before, why didn't you suddenly wear them today?" Xiaoqiang's tone was a little excited, "Did you go out and mess with someone, and you have something to hide from me?"
"I just think the pajamas are good, and it doesn't matter if you don't wear leggings. I explained.
"It's okay, I don't know what you're doing when I'm not home!" Xiaoqiang raised his voice.
"What do you mean? Don't you believe me?" I also got excited, "Just because I don't wear leggings, you're questioning me for going out and messing around, what do you think I'm going to be?"
"I didn't say you were messing around, but you would make me think you had something to hide from me. Xiaoqiang still spoke in a bad tone.
"Wang Xiaoqiang, you are a big man, I will go out to have tea with friends, you will be suspicious. I said with red eyes, "I married you just to live a free life, but I didn't expect you to even care what underwear I wear!"
"I'm for your good, this society is chaotic, I'm afraid you will be deceived. Xiaoqiang also raised his voice and said.
"Am I not an adult? Do I need your constant supervision?" I couldn't hold back the tears that welled up in my eyes, "Do you know how hard I've had a hard time like this?"
Xiaoqiang saw that I was crying, his face softened, and he came over to hug me, but I pushed him away.
"Forget it, I'll sleep in the living room today. I wiped my tears and walked out.
"Xiaomei, I'm sorry, it's me who is not good. Xiaoqiang said behind me.
I ignored it and went straight to the living room. I was very aggrieved, I was so good to Xiaoqiang, how could he distrust me like this?
"Xiaomei, I'm sorry, I really know it's wrong. Xiaoqiang looked at me apologetically.
I was silent, still angry with him.
"I will never restrict your freedom again, and I will respect whatever you want to do. Xiaoqiang continued.
Only then did I speak: "Then will you be suspicious in the future, and casually question me for going out and messing around?"
Xiaoqiang hurriedly said: "I promise that it will never be in the future." I know I was wrong this time, and I always suspect that you have a very bad relationship with us. ”
"Tell me, then, why do you always doubt me, and do I have anything bad about you?" I looked at Xiaoqiang and asked.
Xiaoqiang lowered his head and said, "No, you are very good to me, but I have a problem with myself." Maybe it's because I'm more introverted, and I always want to control you by my side, I'm afraid that if you have too much contact with other people, you'll stay away from me. But this kind of thinking is wrong and will make you feel uncomfortable and aggrieved. ”
I nodded: "Of course I know that you are like this because you love me, but loving someone should not limit her, but should understand her and trust her." If you do this, I will feel that our relationship has become a cage and I have lost my freedom. ”
"You're right, I'm so selfish. Xiaoqiang said with red eyes, "I promise to give you complete freedom in the future, you can see whoever you want, do whatever you want, and I respect your choice." Our feelings should be based on equality and trust. ”
Seeing him admit his mistake like this, my heart softened: "Fool, I won't leave you, you don't have to be so worried." As long as you give me a little space and don't doubt me all the time, our relationship will last longer. ”
"I see. Xiaoqiang held my hand tightly, "Give you space, don't doubt you, this is the direction I will work towards in the future." It's my responsibility as a husband to make you feel at ease. ”
"Well, let's start over. I finally smiled.
Since that day, Xiaoqiang has really changed a lot. He no longer asks me what I wear, he no longer restricts me from seeing my friends. Even on weekends when I said I wanted to go shopping alone, he readily agreed.
I happily said to Shin Shin, "My husband has changed a lot, he is no longer so controlling, and our relationship is getting better and better!"
"Look, I'll tell him to leave you alone. Xinxin smiled and said, "Men, you should let women be free, so that your relationship can last for a long time." ”
"yes, thank you for that suggestion, otherwise I wouldn't know how to communicate with him. I laughed.
After that quarrel and communication, Xiaoqiang and I have a stronger relationship than before, because we have established a new foundation of equality and trust.
Sometimes arguing isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it can promote understanding and communication.
One day, I told a few girlfriends that I wanted to sing, so I mentioned it to Xiaoqiang. He thought for a moment and said, "Then you pay attention to safety, don't sing too late." ”
I smiled and said, "Got it, don't worry, I'm not a child." ”
Xiaoqiang nodded: "Well, you go and have fun." ”
When I got home, Xiaoqiang was still waiting for me in the living room, and when he saw me coming back, he said, "How is it, are you having fun?"
"Super happy!" I gave him a big hug, "I'm singing so loud that my voice is hoarse, you can come with me next time." ”
"Okay, let's go together next time. Xiaoqiang said with a smile.
I happily thought that Xiaoqiang had really changed now, and he used to absolutely disagree with me going out at night. Now he not only agreed, but also took the initiative to ask me if I was having fun. That's trust and support.
A few days later, Xiaoqiang said to me again: "Honey, I'm going to go on a business trip for a month next month, and it's okay for you to be at home alone, right?"
"It's been a month, and that's kind of missing you. I coquettishly said, "But it's okay, you can go without worry, I can do it alone." ”
"I'll miss you, too. Xiaoqiang hugged me and said, "I believe you can handle yourself, you are already a very independent woman." ”
I smiled and nodded. Xiaoqiang's change made me feel that he has matured a lot and trusted me more.
A month later, on the day Xiaoqiang returned, I excitedly went to the airport to pick him up.
"Welcome back!" I gave him a big hug.
"I'm back. Xiaoqiang also hugged me tightly, "You are home alone this month, have you taken good care of yourself?"
"Of course, I'm doing well, don't worry. I said happily.
Xiaoqiang smiled and nodded: "It's me who is too worried, you are already a woman who is in charge alone." I will always trust you and support you in the future. ”
I feel warm in my heart, and Xiaoqiang's growth has also made me grow a lot. Now we will maintain this relationship with more understanding and trust.
We held hands and started a new journey. This time, we will explore the wider world and experience a richer life together.
After restoring trust with Xiaoqiang, I feel that our lives are more colorful.
One day, I said to Xiaoqiang: "We haven't traveled together for a long time, why don't we go to the beach?"
Xiaoqiang smiled and said, "Okay, it just so happens that I took annual leave, let's go live for a few days." ”
So we booked a hotel by the sea and drove there. When I got to the beach, I happily said, "How comfortable the sound of the waves sounds, let's go for a walk on the beach!"
Xiaoqiang nodded and said, "Okay, let's go." ”
I took off my shoes and walked hand in hand with Xiaoqiang on the beach. The sea breeze was blowing in our hair, and I breathed deeply into the seaside air and felt extremely relaxed.
"It's like we're going back to the days when we were dating. I said to Xiaoqiang with a smile.
"yes, at that time, we stuck together every day, and I couldn't tell you apart. Xiaoqiang also smiled.
"Now you've finally learned to give me a little space. I jokingly said.
Xiaoqiang nodded: "It's me who has become mature." You deserve all the trust and space I give you. ”
The trip to the beach these days was very pleasant. We watched the sunset in our hotel room, played in the water by the sea, and enjoyed the world for two.
After returning home, Xiaoqiang said to me: "This trip has shown me that the relationship between us is stronger than before. ”
"I feel the same way. I smiled and said, "After those things, we will cherish each other more now." ”
"Yes, I will continue to work hard to be a better husband. Xiaoqiang said seriously.
"I will also be a wife you can rely on. I said.
In this way, after going through ups and downs, our marriage entered a more stable and beautiful stage. Xiaoqiang and I often go out on dates and do things we like together.
One day, Xiaoqiang said to me: "Honey, I want to quit my job and start my own business, do you support it?"
I gladly said, "I fully support your dreams." Let's work together. ”
Xiaoqiang hugged me excitedly: "With you by my side, I feel more powerful." I will try to make my career bigger. ”
"Come on, you can do it. "I hugged him too.
Xiaoqiang finally started to realize his entrepreneurial dream, and I did my best to support him. Now more than ever, we trust each other and support each other's dreams. This relationship will become stronger and stronger over time.
With my full support, Xiaoqiang finally started his own company. As a start-up, the initial stage is not easy, Xiaoqiang needs to work late and often work overtime.
One night, Xiaoqiang called me and said that there was another project to rush, and I was afraid that tonight would be all-nighters again.
I understood his hard work, and said gently: "Thank you for your hard work, the company's important things are more important, you can get busy slowly, I'm fine at home alone." ”
"I'm sorry, but I don't have much time to go home during this time. Xiaoqiang blamed himself a little.
"It's okay, I understand. The company has just started and requires more time and effort from you. "I comforted him.
"I'm so lucky to have such a caring wife as you. Xiaoqiang said gratefully, "After things stabilize in a few days, I will accompany you more." ”
"Well, come on, trust you!" I gave him encouragement.
In this way, Xiaoqiang has been busy for more than a year, and the company is finally on the right track, and the business is getting better and better. That day, he excitedly said to me, "My dear, our company has finally succeeded! ”
I happily hugged him: "You did it! I knew you could." The company is successful, and you have to rest well. ”
"yes, I'm going to give myself a long vacation, let's go on our honeymoon. Xiaoqiang said with a smile.
"Great, I can't wait!" I laughed too.
So Xiaoqiang took me to Switzerland, and we spent a romantic time for two in a chalet in the Alps. On this trip, we enjoyed each other's company to the fullest.
"My dear, I will take you out on trips often in the future. Xiaoqiang said, "Thank you for supporting me in my most difficult time, and I will repay you with my life." ”
I was so touched that I gently hugged him: "Your success is also my pride." No matter what happens in the future, we will support each other. ”
After all the ups and downs, we now cherish each other more than ever. Xiaoqiang no longer has an extra desire to control, giving me complete trust and space. And I learned to understand and support his cause.
Now we are looking forward to the next stage of our lives. Perhaps, a new life will come and we will become parents of our children. In all the stories that may happen in the future, with you by my side, I have nothing to fear. This trust and understanding will make our love enduring.