I often hear people say: "Time is a woman's biggest enemy, and all the national colors and fragrances are no match for the destruction of time." ”
For women who are born with a love of beauty, the brilliance and beauty on their bodies seem to be bound to youth and youth.
At the age of budding, he is always full of infinite self-confidence, can happily embrace beauty, and chase the love he wants.
And with the passage of time, while his youth is no longer there, he is powerless to grasp the man's heart, so he can only let it flow away in a hurry.
But there are also some women, not like flowers but more like wine, the more they go through the baptism of time, the more they can exude a unique mellow fragrance.
Women who can really be infatuated by men until they get old, they actually have one characteristic: they know how to manage themselves.
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Good at self-management and outstanding temperament
Beauty is a scarce resource at all times, and it is precisely because of its scarcity that countless people flock to it.
Women who have always been sensitive to beauty tend to do everything they can to groom and dress themselves up to please themselves and others.
But such superficial beauty is not the core essence of it, and no one can rely on the picturesque appearance to firmly grasp the heart of a man.
No matter how beautiful the country and the city are, it will fade with time, and people will always get old and ugly one day, at most it will only be delayed.
The beauty that is truly incorruptible is the temperament that a woman exudes from the inside out, and she is good at self-management to make her beauty last forever.
As Colton puts it:
"Beautiful looks can indeed attract countless admiration, but if you want to really keep them, you must have a beautiful soul. ”
Actor Li Ruotong, who was born in 1966, is now close to the age of sixtieth birthday, but there is no trace of aging.
The reason why "Little Dragon Girl", who once became popular because of her appearance in "The Condor Heroes", still has such a perfect image is inseparable from her self-discipline.
She is very keen on fitness, and she is also very particular about her diet, never overeating, and strictly controls her figure.
It is precisely because of this persistence that she can always maintain the most perfect state to show others, and at the same time live more chic and comfortable.
It can be seen that a person's temperament will not fade with time, but can make himself more charming in the immersion of the years.
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Manage your goals and live your dreams
I once watched a street interview, where the host randomly selected a number of girls and asked them the same two questions.
The first is how much money men should have three years after graduation, and the second is what their biggest dream is.
In the previous question, the answers of these girls were very exaggerated, the lowest said that there should be 500,000, and the highest even felt that it should break one million.
And the second question, and many girls have reached a consensus, that is, to add a rich and handsome person to live a worry-free life.
It is true that these questions and answers are not serious and are suspected of hype, but they also reflect the psychology of women to a certain extent.
That is, in the eyes of many women today, it is natural for a man to make money to support his family, and it is best for him to be only responsible for "being beautiful as a flower".
It is precisely because of this kind of psychology that many women themselves have turned themselves into men's accessories, and they cannot survive without the convenience of the other party.
It is true that achieving financial freedom is the ultimate life pursuit of countless people, but the process is the key to the problem.
A woman who relies on men to maintain a luxurious life will one day face old age and decay, if a man changes his mind, what will happen to him?
Musk once said: "There is no shortage of beautiful women in the world, what is lacking is a woman who has a clear understanding of her life." ”
Whether it is a man or a woman, after all, you have to rely on your own ability to live, so that you can walk steadily and do not have to be afraid.
Only a woman with a clear goal and willing to work hard for her dream will radiate a dazzling light and touch a man's heart.
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Manage your emotions and live an optimistic life
It is said that women are made of water, and compared with strong men, women are indeed the weak side and more sensual.
When the same thing happens, women tend to have more emotional ups and downs, rejoicing at good things and tears with sadness.
Especially in the face of setbacks, women are also more likely to fall into emotional anxiety and internal friction, and often self-doubt and denial.
According to the survey data, women account for 68% of patients with depression in mainland China, which is much higher than that of men, and the prevalence of depression in women is about twice that of men.
This is due to the unique physical and psychological characteristics of women, and at the same time, they are more likely to have emotional problems after childbirth, menopause, menstruation, etc.
James once said, "Emotions are the weather of the mind, and they can change everything outside." ”
The key to determining a woman's superiority is whether she has the ability to manage her emotions and whether she can be consistently optimistic.
Positive women can always easily filter out the tediousness of life and not burden themselves with extra stress.
Whether they are happy or sad, they can also maintain their high spirits, dispel the excess haze with their smiles, and move forward bravely.
This trait will not only motivate yourself to forge ahead, but also imperceptibly influence the people around you, making men haunted by their dreams.
With them, I will always unload the extra burden, and savor this tranquility and beauty with all my heart, which will never be forgotten for a lifetime.
The so-called long-term never get tired of it, this kind of enthusiasm for life is the highest level of charm of a woman, and it will never fade.
The writer Daisaku Ikeda once said, "Happiness is not given by others, but is built up in one's own life bit by bit." ”
Vigorous love is certainly fascinating, but the long-term love can often touch a man's heart more.
In the world of love, don't take each other too seriously, but should manage everything you have first.
Because what can really keep a person is not tears and flattery, but one's own excellence and excellence.
When you become a better version of yourself, you will find that age is no longer a shackle, but a gift that makes you more beautiful and free.