Overnight, the once sweet and happy marriage broke down, and the tragedy of family deterioration was staged, which is embarrassing.
With a "snap", the teacup in his hand fell to the ground and shattered. Lu You looked at the letter of divorce handed by his mother, and his heart was like a knife. He reluctantly took the book and trembled and signed his name on it.
Outside the window, the autumn breeze is chilling and chilly.
In the blink of an eye, Tang Wan changed from the happy wife of the newlywed Yan'er to a homeless widow. The sweet bits and pieces of the past turned into a sea of tears. The mother-in-law's letter of resignation made the couple, who should have grown old together, separate the two places, and separated heaven and man forever.
"Mother-in-law, the pears are not fully ripe, your old man is biting carefully. Zeng Shen's wife persuaded him with all his might.
Zeng Shen is like a mirror in his heart, who he should please and who he should leave, it is clear at a glance. In order to be filial to his mother, he decisively chose to divorce his wife. The mother-in-law glanced at her wife coldly and walked away.
His wife's tears rained down, and her mournful cries echoed under the eaves.
The two stories have different styles, but they are the same, and the problems of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are like small gravel, silently ruining families. We need to face it squarely and solve problems with wisdom so that beauty can bloom in every home.
1. No matter how close the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, you must keep your distance
Shallot smiled and handed the soup bowl to her mother-in-law, and said sweetly: "Mother-in-law, you taste it first, I bought this medicinal herb in the most famous pharmacy in Donghua City, and it is very replenishing."
The mother-in-law's face was very unsightly, she held her breath, thinking that the shallot was deliberately finding fault and deliberately making her unhappy.
If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are too close and the details of life overlap too much, it is inevitable that many contradictions and grievances will arise. Keeping a certain distance and being safe is the best policy.
"Three feet, three feet, three inches" treatment
1。 The living distance is kept at a distance of three feet
When Xiaofang first married her husband, her mother-in-law enthusiastically let the young couple live in her own home. At first, Xiaofang felt that the mother and son had a deep relationship, and they must be very happy to get along in the future. However, within a few days, the different living Xi between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law caused a lot of controversy over the icelist.
Xiaofang realized that her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lived under the same roof, and sparks would inevitably fly.
2。 Leave three feet of independent space in money
When he first bought the house, Xiao Li insisted on only paying half of the down payment, and the other half was paid by his parents-in-law. She understands that her in-laws' money is not her own after all, and it will cause a lot of right and wrong in the future.
Sure enough, every time she repaired the house, her mother-in-law had to count her down.
3。 Verbally concede three inches
"Auntie, I think I put a little more salt in this dish, you see ......" was only halfway through the sentence, and Xiao Wu regretted it. Let's just let this be her true feelings, but it won't help to say it, it will only embarrass her mother-in-law.
She quickly changed the subject and talked about something that everyone was interested in.
1. The role positioning of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
"Daughter-in-law, aren't you still an outsider, you will have to rely on yourself in the future. Mother-in-law's words pierced Xiaohong's heart. She tried her best to play the role of a good daughter-in-law, but her mother-in-law still regarded her as an outsider.
Little Red had red eyes, tears rolling in her eyes.
Nor can a mother-in-law ask a daughter-in-law who is newly married to be fully dedicated to the family. The daughter-in-law needs time to adjust to the new life, and the mother-in-law needs to put herself in her shoes.
2. Communication skills and how to get along
"Mother-in-law, do you think that I am not diligent and thrifty enough to keep the family? I promise that in the future, I will pay attention to saving expenses and cherish every penny of the family. Xiao Yang explained to her mother-in-law softly, and her mother-in-law nodded.
Thinking more from the other party's perspective and resolving dissatisfaction is the key to dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
3. The role of other family members
The father-in-law advised his son: "Your mother is old, straight-hearted, and speaks hard. Daughter-in-law Newcomer, it's normal to not handle it well. You have to talk to her more and let her get used to it.
Other members of the family should also play an active role in resolving conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
During the holidays, Xiao Wang went home to visit his parents. The mother-in-law enthusiastically entertained her daughter-in-law Xiaomei with hometown specialties, but Xiaomei was displeased. She felt that her mother-in-law always liked to show off her good cooking skills and deliberately embarrassed her.
After eating, she complained that the dumplings inside were not cooked enough. The mother-in-law was so angry that she blushed and complained about how her son-in-law married such a wife.
Analyzing this case, Xiaomei's reaction was indeed a bit excessive. But as a daughter-in-law, in the face of unfamiliar hometown dishes, it is inevitable that she will feel a little out of the way. The mother-in-law should put herself in the shoes of her daughter-in-law and guide patiently; The daughter-in-law should also learn to be considerate of her mother-in-law's kindness, open her heart, and actively adjust herself.
Through the analysis of typical cases, find out the crux of the problem, and give solutions to the problem, which can help us better deal with the complex relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
1. A thousand days are good, it's better to smile
Xiaofang serves her mother-in-law carefully and looks forward to being praised. Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law only nodded coldly, and turned her head to praise the neighbor's aunt. Xiaofang's eyes were red, and her mother-in-law regarded her as an outsider after all.
Second, it is necessary to go both ways and be calm
Xiao Wang returned home like an arrow, but found that his mother-in-law treated him coldly. Only then did she understand that to maintain the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both parties must work together, and you can't expect only one party to support it.
3. Don't expect the other person to treat them as your own
"Your mother is your mother, I am me, she can treat you like a pearl in the palm of her hand, but she may not treat me like this. The father-in-law analyzed it like this, and Xiao Li came to his senses.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is based on complex human nature and family, which needs to be resolved by both parties with heart and wisdom. If handled properly, the family will be warmer and more happy.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been worrying. It is rooted in ancient Chinese family traditions and is also based on the intricacies of human nature.
We can't simply judge every case by "right" or "wrong". Because behind this, it is full of emotions and interests that the characters are involved in each other.
History cannot be repeated, and reality needs us to open up. Only by understanding each other in the depths of their hearts and resolving misunderstandings can mother-in-law and daughter-in-law bear the fruits of harmony and beauty.
There is no standard answer to this question, but we can still accumulate wisdom in practice. If both parties are sincere, they will be able to find a way to resolve their grievances and build a harmonious family.
Let us work together to resolve the problems left over from the past and move towards a bright future together.