**Topic: My road to marriage: 180,000 bride price and 100,000 dowry, the mystery of my mother's three years not allowed to have children**
When I married away with a bride price of 180,000 yuan and a dowry of 100,000 yuan, my heart was full of anticipation and anxiety. This huge financial burden is like a heavy mountain weighing on my heart. Is the bride price of 180,000 yuan a symbol of marriage or an invisible shackle of society?
I sat on the train heading for a distant place, looking out the window at the scenery speeding by, and the emotions surging in my heart were indescribable. This trip is not only to leave home, but also to enter an unknown world of marriage.
When I arrived at the bride's house, I found that the bride price of 180,000 yuan was just the tip of the iceberg. It's not just what I ask of myself, it's what I expect from the whole family. My parents were full of anticipation, as if they were expecting me to bring glory to the family in the future. This heavy pressure made me reflect on the nature of marriage, whether it is the mutual affection of two people, or the bond between the expectations and traditions of the whole family.
The 100,000 yuan for the marriage was originally for the comfort of the newlywed life. However, when I really started to face the new environment, I found that it wasn't as easy as I had hoped. The amount of dowry did not bring me more freedom, but became a shackle of responsibility. In this unfamiliar city, I began to wonder what my value was, whether I was an independent individual, or a woman who was troubled by the framework of marriage.
Before I got married, my mother explained, "For three years, you are not allowed to have children." "I was bothered by this sudden rule. Why wait three years? It's an invisible pressure that makes me reflect on the true meaning of marriage. Does getting married mean adding to the family quickly? I wondered, in three years' time, if I was really ready for a new life?
In my new city, I began to experience the interweaving of freedom and bondage in marriage. The bride price of 180,000 yuan and the dowry of 100,000 yuan seem to be a gift to me, but in fact they are a kind of bondage to me. And my mother's regulations are an expectation for marriage. In the midst of these intertwined disputes, I gradually realized that marriage is not simply a matter of two people, but involves the responsibilities and expectations of the whole family.
In the maelstrom of marriage, I began to think about what the essence of marriage really is. Is it an economic exchange, a symbol of the bride price, or a fit between the hearts of two people? I have found that the essence of pursuing marriage does not lie in the amount of money, but in whether two people truly love each other and whether they can face the ups and downs of marriage together.
During these three years, I learned to take responsibility and learn to deal with the pressures of marriage. And my mother's regulations have also left a deep imprint on my heart. Three years on, I re-examine myself and wonder if I'm really ready for a new life. Marriage is not a simple transaction, but a journey of common struggle. In marriage, we need to learn to choose, to choose the life we really want, and not to be swayed by society's expectations and traditions.
Three years later, I look back on this marriage journey and find that the bride price and dowry in the past are just a ritual of life. And my mother's regulations are a manifestation of my responsibility. Marriage is essentially a process of two people struggling and growing together. In the process, I gained more understanding of life, a deep experience of love, and a recognition of my own heart's true desire.
With a bride price of 180,000 yuan and a dowry of 100,000 yuan, I married to a strange city and faced the test of marriage and the expectations of my family. But it wasn't a heavy burden, but a journey that made me re-examine my marriage. Marriage is not just a contract, but a contract between two souls. In the process, I learned to take responsibility, learned to choose, and learned to truly understand the essence of marriage. With my mother's rules, I re-examined my life and found that happiness does not come from external material things, but from the inner pursuit of true love and freedom. Marriage is a journey to explore the true meaning of life, and I will continue to move forward bravely.