As a parent, do you really know your child?
Why do children gnaw what they see, why do they catch what they see, why do they go where they are uneven, why are they so stubborn, and why do they like to challenge the strong......
I believe that there is no parent in the world who does not want to help their children grow up healthily, but because they do not understand the growth code of their children, many times they unknowingly curb the potential development of their children.
There are many critical periods in a child's early development.
When a child shows certain characteristics, it is considered wrong by the parents and is rudely interrupted or stopped.
As a result, the imperfection of the development of some aspects later, or the formation of some bad Xi, delayed the precious opportunity for growth.
The sensitive period is the password for a child's growth
"Critical Help" discusses the sensitive periods that children aged 0-6 years show at different stages and how to give children the help they need during critical periods.
Understanding the critical period of children's different developmental periods is like finding a key, listening patiently, understanding children's behaviors, and providing appropriate help to them, and striving to create an environment suitable for children's development and promote the development of children's abilities.
As our child's self-awareness develops, we will find it more and more difficult for our child to get it done.
When the child reaches about 2 years old, for example, every time he has to press the elevator button, if the family presses him, he will cry and have to press it again before he stops, Montessori called this stage of the child "stubborn sensitive period", and the state of the child's stubborn period should continue until after the age of 3 and a half.
In this example, the reason for the child's stubbornness is actually that he does not know the relationship between his height and the height of the elevator button, and he will cry and fuss if he can't reach it.
When the child has gone through some encounters, the child will gradually understand the relationship between things and things, as well as the relationship between things and people, and know what he can change and what he cannot change.
The sensitive period is the password for the child's growth, and only by mastering the password can we understand the child, understand the child, and help the child when the critical period comes, so that a seed can grow into a towering tree.
Parents are more collaborative, but don't interfere
The child's growth needs a process, in which the child will go through a lot, when he is going through each step, parents should not stand by and be more cooperative, but do not intervene.
For example, when a child reaches the age of three and is very curious, he will ask you why when he sees anything, and he wants to try it when he sees someone doing an experiment.
At this time, you should assist him and help him prepare the materials he needs, but when the child imitates the experiment, you should not help him on the sidelines, and do not accuse him of being wrong or wrong.
You should let him operate on his own, use his imagination, maybe he can get more success, we don't want to be exactly the same as the imitation experiment, we want the child to use his brain in the process, exercise hand-eye coordination.
Therefore, in the process of children's education, we must cooperate and guide them in a timely manner, but never use your thinking to interfere with him and fix him.
How to provide critical support during critical periods of your child's development
A child's growth is only once, and if parents can't find and correct the problems in time during the child's growth, then the impact of these problems on the child may take a lifetime for the child to make up.
However, if parents can do the following three things, they can effectively help their children.
1. Give your child freedom within a certain range.
If a child's physical and mental freedom is deprived, they will use any opportunity to experiment with it, and thus become like a wild horse, which can be as harmful as possible.
In this case, we need to calmly guide our children to follow the rules of the group, and at the same time give them the freedom to explore and develop.
2. Don't step on the five misunderstandings of love.
While loving their children, parents should pay attention to avoiding the following misunderstandings: do not act as a seeker of love in the parent-child relationship, do not transmit their weakness and powerlessness to their children, do not be anxious parents, do not be a servant of children, do not love children with paranoid psychology, and do not overprotect children.
What children need is for us to use the right love to improve their mental health. Help your child build a healthy personality.
3. Parents need to help their children build a sound personality.
For example, parents should lead by example and tell their children not to blindly follow the trend and to be themselves;
Parents should guide their children to have empathy for others, not to be self-centered, and to look at problems from the perspective of others;
Parents should cultivate their children to have a healthy psychology, be optimistic and confident, have good living Xi, and have a correct three views.
Write at the end
There is a normal reason behind all the abnormal behavior of the child.
Only by tolerating the child's bad emotions and giving the child a chance to vent will the child be willing to accept calm guidance.
Children who are mentally strong are not physically developed as they are mentally strong, so we need to stop and observe what kind of demands are hidden behind each behavior and emotion of the child.
Help your child return to normal.
The handling of family relationships also affects the development of children.
The mental state of the main member of the family who is raising the child directly determines the child's early development.
A child's relationship with a significant other person determines his initial interpersonal relationships and affects his or her ability to interact with society in the future.
Pay attention to the physical and mental development of children, make appropriate concessions for children's development, pave the way for children to obey parental management, and give children the freedom of development on the premise of love.
Give your child the freedom to explore within the appropriate boundaries.