In the dictionary of our life, there are many easy-to-understand sayings and proverbs, although these words and sentences do not seem to have much literary brilliance, but behind the concise and concise words, there are countless generations of Chinese sons and daughters of the accurate summary of life.
Therefore, after experiencing some setbacks, many adults will be particularly fond of sayings similar to their own circumstances, and some will even take these sayings as their own family motto, leaving them to be remembered by future generations.
Image: Stills for posterity
1. Men are sexless and steelless, and women are sexless and hairless
This proverb may be unfamiliar to many people, because the words look at the past, it is easy for readers to think about it, after all, the color is also, the first time to see this proverb readers, if there is a conjecture about the relationship between the sexes, it is also human nature.
However, our Chinese nation has a long history, and classical Chinese has been monopolized for thousands of years, and many common sayings are actually written on the basis of classical Chinese, and this sentence is the same.
The "sex" in this sentence is not the relationship between the sexes in our modern text, after all, the ancients were more traditional, and the relationship between the sexes will definitely not be as direct as now, and the words will be more subtle, such as going to Yunyu together, the emperor favoring the concubine, etc., so in this sentence, "sex" definitely does not refer to the relationship between the sexes.
According to the ancient classical Chinese format, "sex" is more appropriate here to explain character and ambition.
We all know that a person's personality is gradually formed in infancy, and this subconscious personality will affect many choices in a person's life, and what kind of ambition a person, coupled with the dominance of the character, will evolve into different life courses.
Image: Stills from infancy
Second, men are asexual and steelless
In the history of thousands of years of feudal dynasties, the patriarchal clan in the mainland ruled for too long, and the dominant position of men in the family and society could not be shaken. Therefore, as men, their character and ambition are deeply related to the development of a family.
In ancient times, men wanted to support a family, and the main ways were as follows: participating in the imperial examination, joining the military, and doing business. The latter two did not choose many people in ancient times, and if it wasn't for the fact that the family was particularly poor, or the people who were particularly passionate about the military, normal people would not have taken the initiative to go to the front line in ancient times.
After all, the military management of almost every dynasty is not so proper, and many soldiers and soldiers are not even paid enough to support their families, and they also have to face great danger to their lives, so in ancient times, in addition to the hard indicators must be enlisted, few men will take the initiative to become soldiers.
Image: Stills from ancient soldiers
Doing a small business to make ends meet was already the most common way out for many families in ancient times, and if the time came right, some could even become nouveau riche and become wealthy businessmen.
After all, only by becoming an official can you let your family and clan get shelter, and only then can you have the possibility of multiplying from generation to generation.
No matter what kind of survival method, as long as a man has his own ideas and his own direction to persist in his efforts, even if he can't succeed, he can make the family survive.
Image: A still from a Song Dynasty official
However, if you meet a man with a timid and timid personality, then the family will suffer a devastating blow. Everyone is criticizing Fan Jin, who is still taking the imperial examination at such an old age, seeking fame, and he doesn't even have rice at home, and he doesn't know how to work.
But from another point of view, we have to admire Fan Jin's persistent character, suffering so much sarcasm and being abused by his father-in-law, he never thought of giving up the imperial examination, and finally won the Jinshi, and the chicken dog ascended to heaven.
may be in the eyes of many people, Fan Jin is too brainless and doesn't know how to be flexible, since he can't pass the exam for so many years, then change careers.
The picture comes from the Internet: Fan Jinzhongju
In fact, in today's rapid social development, most men are more impetuous, and because of the good social environment, they basically will not experience too many setbacks, so it is difficult to quiet down and persistently complete a thing.
Some boys have changed several jobs not long after they come out of society, and such frequent tossing and turning cannot make people's personalities and experiences precipitate, and naturally they will not be able to perform brilliantly.
Therefore, as a man, the most important thing is to have a strong character and know how to persevere, so that he can be as strong as a steel bar, not too cowardly, and will be bent at a little wind and rain.
Image: A still from a man quietly finishing an event
3. Females are sexless and seedling
Not only men must have character, but also women, although the system of male superiority and inferiority of women made many women in ancient times have a low social status, obeying their fathers at home, marrying from their husbands, and following their husbands when they die, this kind of feudal etiquette has harmed many women, but if women have character and insist on their own ideas, even in the feudal society under various constraints, they can live a new self.
For example, Minglan in "Know", her external performance made the enemy mistakenly think that this was a harmless little white rabbit who could be hurt at will, but only Minglan knew her bottom line and knew what kind of person she wanted to marry, so she would refuse the affectionate son, a doctor with a stable income, and would not hesitate to marry Gu Tingye, who was married for the second time.
Picture: Minglan married Gu Tingye for the second time
And Minglan 's cousin Shulan is a negative teaching material, Shulan's family is rich, married to a showman but was pinched to death, has no character, can only cry and compromise, and even her mother's family took out a rich marriage to satisfy her husband and mother-in-law, but in the end she was compared to a Qinglou woman. Fortunately, in the end, Shulan finally woke up and decided to resolutely reconcile and jump out of the fire pit.
In addition, women in ancient times were not burdened with the burden of providing for their families, but they needed to have children, which was also a very difficult task. If a mother is strong, characterful, and assertive, then the children she educates must be relatively independent; on the contrary, the daughters educated by mothers like Lin Xiaoniang will be greedy, jealous, and scheming, and her son is cowardly and has little pursuit.
Picture: Stills of Lin Xiaoniang's daughter
Through this proverb, we can find that women were not overly neglected in ancient times, although parenting education at that time was not as important as it is now, but our ancestors had foresight, if a woman has no character, no assertiveness, then they are unable to survive independently, just like the seedlings in the field, delicate to rely on external forces to survive, it is impossible to blossom and bear fruit and see the rainbow.
This sentence is still useful to the present, people in the busy rhythm of life, often lose their own character, compromise in the mortgage, car loan and children's education, this sentence is to remind us, no matter what life is like, whether you are a man or a woman, you must stick to your own character, in order to go wider and wider.