The mothers who gave birth early and those who gave birth later are also middle-aged, and their lives are completely different

Text/Ting's mother

When I went to the school for a parent-teacher meeting on Friday, I found that the mothers of some of Tingting's classmates were older, with gray hair and looked a little vicissitudes;

After chatting and chatting, I realized that those parents who are in good shape often give birth to children with two limited rooms earlier.

My classmate Liu Qing gave birth to a child relatively early, and now her child has graduated from college and started working. At that time, she continued to go back to work after giving birth and taking maternity leave, and her mother-in-law helped her take care of the child. And I gave birth to Tingting at the age of 31, and when I gave birth, my in-laws were relatively old, and there was basically no way to help. So I had to do everything myself, and then I had to quit my job and go home to be a stay-at-home mom. Now that Tingting is only in her second year of junior high school, I sometimes feel exhausted and overwhelmed.

With the progress of society and the change of people's concepts, more and more women choose to have children at the age of 30 or even later. Of course, there are also some women who choose to become mothers in their 20s.

These two different choices make them have a very different experience in middle life. Below, we will explore the differences between mothers who have children early and those who have children later in middle age from multiple perspectives such as physiology, psychology, and economy.

1. From a physiological point of view

Mothers who give birth later may face more health problems in middle age.

A woman's fertility gradually declines with age, especially after the age of 35, making it more difficult to conceive and increasing the risk of miscarriage.

In addition, advanced maternal age may also be at risk of complications such as gestational diabetes and high blood pressure. And mothers who give birth early have relatively low risks in middle age.

Of course, this does not mean that mothers who give birth early can completely ignore their physical health, and it is still very important to maintain a good Xi lifestyle and regular medical check-ups.

2. From a psychological point of view

Mothers who give birth later may face more psychological pressure in middle age.

This is because they need to take care of their children at the same time, but also face the double pressure of work and family. Especially when children enter puberty, there may be problems such as rebellion and disobedience, which will bring great trouble to the mother.

And mothers who give birth to children early are in middle age, and their children have grown up, and they can pay more attention to their lives and career development.

Of course, this does not mean that mothers who give birth early do not have psychological pressure, they also need to face problems such as children leaving home and empty nests.

3. From an economic point of view

Mothers who give birth later may face greater financial pressure in middle age.

This is because they need to invest a lot of money in their children's education, life, etc. Especially when children enter college, the expenses in terms of tuition and living expenses will continue to increase.

And mothers who give birth to children early are in middle age, and their children have become adults, so they can alleviate some of the financial pressure.

Of course, this does not mean that mothers who give birth early will fall into poverty, as long as the family income and expenditure are reasonably arranged, they can also live a happy life.

4. From the perspective of interpersonal relationships

Mothers who give birth early may have more social opportunities in middle age. This is because their children bring a lot of interaction with friends and relatives, allowing them to have more social occasions.

In middle age, the social circle of the children is relatively small, and their social opportunities may be relatively few.

However, this does not mean that mothers who have children later will be lonely, and they can expand their social circle by participating in various activities and making new friends.

Through the above analysis, we can see that there is indeed a certain difference between mothers who give birth early and those who give birth later in middle age. However, this does not mean that one option is necessarily better than another.

Everyone's situation is different, and the key is how to make the most suitable choice for yourself according to your actual situation.

In conclusion, whether you have a baby early or later, there are pros and cons. The key is to make the most suitable choice for yourself according to your actual situation.

Whichever way you choose, keep a positive mindset, cherish every moment you spend with your child, and spend as much time with your child as possible.

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