My classmate's daughter Xiaoli is about to get married, and my classmate didn't have any cash or car, so he bought a house for Xiaoli.
The prospective son-in-law knew that Xiaoli's dowry was a house, so he was not happy at that time, not to mention that my classmate married his daughter's house, but he was too calculating.
The two families were very unhappy because of the purchase of a house, and my female classmate directly persuaded her daughter to break up.
Let's listen to the story of my classmate Zhang Fangjia.
Zhang Fang's own statement
My name is Zhang Fang and I am 54 years old, and my daughter's name is Wang Li and I am 30 years old.
My daughter talked about a boyfriend Xiaogang last year, and the two of us talked for a year, and we both felt that it was very suitable, and our parents felt that the two children were not too young, so they were ready to start the spring next year and handle the children's marriage.
When the two families discussed the marriage of the children, we asked Xiaogang's family to pay a bride price of 60,006 and buy three gold and one diamond for our daughter.
I said: The bride price is a formality, and our local customs are so many, and you can't wronged my daughter. We will not keep this money, and in the future, as a start-up fund for the life of the young couple, we will add another 100,000 yuan to our daughter as a pressure gift, and then buy a car for our daughter.
Xiaogang's mother said: Our family just bought a wedding house for our son, and the loan was more than 800,000 yuan, and we can't get the bride price of 60,006, or we will give 30,000 8, right?
You don't want to buy a car, their wages are not high, and they can't afford to buy a car, so it's better to take out the money for buying a car, and let the young couple decorate the house well, and the house will be decorated better, and their little couple will live comfortably.
As soon as I heard my in-laws say this, I felt a little uncomfortable, and I said: Let's pay for the decoration, but is the house added to Xiaoli's name?
As soon as the in-laws heard the name added, their faces changed, Xiao Gang hurriedly played a round and said: Auntie, the house has been bought, and now it is my name, it is too troublesome to change the name again, Xiaoli and I are going to grow old together, Auntie, you can rest assured, we will live a good life after we get married.
Since my son-in-law said so, I didn't insist on adding my name anymore. The down payment on the house cost most of his parents' savings, and if I insisted on adding the name, his parents would not be happy.
I saw that my son-in-law still cared about my daughter, so I took a step back and said: The bride price is 30,000 8, as long as the two children live smoothly, it is better than anything else.
The mother-in-law saw that we agreed to a bride price of 30,000 8, and she was very happy at the time, and said to us again and again: You can rest assured, Xiaoli will treat her like a daughter when she marries, and the two of us have no daughter, only one more daughter.
The bride price was reduced to 30,000, we did not insist on adding the name to the house, and the in-laws did not mention the decoration fee again, and the marriage was decided.
I thought that the young couple had a short working time, no savings, and the pressure of repaying the mortgage after getting married, and that buying a car was a consumable item, and that it would take money to move, so we didn't plan to buy a car for our daughter.
My husband and I discussed that we wanted to marry our daughter with more cash so that she could have a more comfortable life after marriage, but my husband had a different opinion on my proposal.
My husband said: Nowadays, young people don't spend more money to buy less, it is better to buy a house for their daughter before marriage, we buy her a house in full, and ask her to borrow a little money for the decoration money, so that she will not spend money indiscriminately, she also has the confidence to live in her in-law's house, in case the two of them can't get by, the child also has a way out.
I heard that my husband was reasonable, so I called my daughter on Sunday, went to the sales department not far from our house, and bought a quasi-existing house for my daughter.
As soon as the contract was signed, the daughter happily called her son-in-law and asked him to come and see her newly bought house.
My daughter's phone call was made in front of me, and the son-in-law over there heard that my daughter had bought a house and would need a loan for renovation in the future, so he blew up at that time.
He yelled at his daughter, "What do you mean by your mother?" Why did you buy you a house before you got married? Aren't you calculating our family?
You know that the money for the decoration of the new house has not yet been settled, and now that you have bought a house, what should we do about the decoration of the wedding room?
My daughter said: Aren't you happy that I am marrying a house of more than 1 million yuan? Let your mother find a way to decorate the wedding room, and I did not promise you the decoration fee for your family.
The son-in-law said: Didn't your mother promise to marry 100,000 yuan and a car? Isn't the money for buying a car plus the money for the dowry enough to decorate a new house? Now that your mother has bought you a house, can they still give you cash for the dowry? You still need a loan for the decoration of your house, how much pressure will your married life be!
I listened to my son-in-law keep talking about marriage, but I was so angry that I snatched my daughter's phone and scolded my son-in-law with my head and face.
I said, "You say I'm too calculating, is it your family's calculation or ours's calculation?" You made a down payment on a house, and you didn't write my daughter's name, why did you let us pay for the decoration, and why did you let my daughter pay off the mortgage after marriage?
I married my daughter a house, you know that the house is not your share, and you start to worry about your daughter's marriage again, will you calculate, or will we calculate? I have to think about your marriage with my daughter, so be it.
After hanging up the phone, I looked at my daughter and said: Are you still married to such a man?
The daughter said with tears in her eyes: Xiaogang is usually very good to me, I didn't expect him to be such a person, I will think about it.
It's been a week since we bought a house for our daughter, Xiao Gang hasn't called her daughter again, and my daughter hasn't contacted him again.