I have been living at my son-in-law's house for 8 years. During this period, I have always had a good relationship with my son-in-law, but recently something happened that made me feel unhappy.
It happened when the son-in-law recently bought a house. He borrowed a large sum of money from me, saying it was for the payment of the house.
However, it didn't take long for me to find out that my son-in-law didn't really spend the money to pay me back, but instead moved to a bigger house and didn't use the money to pay for the house.
At this moment, my son-in-law suddenly said to me, "Go back quickly, I think you are getting more and more uncomfortable here." I was even more stunned by these words, and I didn't know why my son-in-law would speak to me like that.
I was sad to go back to my home, thinking about what had happened during this time. My son-in-law's attitude towards me has changed so much that I am very confused.
However, when the son went to talk to his son-in-law, the son-in-law said that we didn't need to worry about their family anymore.
I don't understand why he has such an attitude, after all, I have always treated him like my own son.
Subsequently, he began to distance himself from my son and me, and would not even let us see the children. My son and I felt very distressed and helpless about this.
We tried to communicate with my son-in-law many times, but he always avoided and rejected our conversations, which made my son and I very disappointed.
My son and I decided to make a decision, we will not take the initiative to find our son-in-law, but wait for him to take the initiative to find us, we need to let him know our attitude, and we also need to give him time to think clearly.
None of us wanted to give up just like that, but we didn't want to force my son-in-law to make any choice he wasn't willing to make.
Now, my son and I are waiting for our son-in-law's decision, we don't know what the future holds, but we are no longer as accommodating as we used to be.
We continue to wait for this day to come.
The past days seem to be beautiful, but in fact, the heart is like a knife. My son-in-law's words filled my heart with sadness and anger.
I didn't expect my son-in-law's attitude towards me to change so much.
During this time, I began to reflect on my role in the family. I felt like I was supporting them materially, but was there any other place where I wasn't doing well enough? I started to reflect on my words and actions, and I began to wonder if I was doing something wrong.
Just when I was confused about all this, my son suddenly made a request to me that he wanted me and my son-in-law to make more sacrifices for the family, including transferring a property in his name to them.
I was very shocked and chagrined by this request. I never expected my son to make such a request of me.
I feel that my expectations and dedication to my family are far beyond what I can bear.
Soon, I packed my bags and prepared to go back to my parents' house. I could feel that my heart was full of disappointment and grievances, and I felt that all these years of hard work and care had become meaningless.
I must calm down first, talk to my son-in-law properly, and figure out the ins and outs of the matter. After all, my son-in-law's family and I have not had a holiday over the years, and at first I was still a little uncomfortable with their family's lifestyle, and it took time to get used to it.
On the way back to my parents' home, my heart was extremely heavy, and I kept thinking about all these years along the way.
Moreover, my eldest daughter-in-law is happy every time she sees the situation in my house, is she colluding with her son-in-law to kick me out of the house?
In any case, it may be a good thing for me to go back to my parents' house this time, so that my son-in-law and my sons know that I also have my bottom line, and I can't blindly accept it passively.
Hopefully I'll figure it all out when I get home.