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My name is Feng Qunying, a native of Guizhou, 49 years old this year, I like to dress up as hipsters, and I have "fashionable" white hair, and I joke that I look like I am 29 years old. However, I am a leukemia recovery patient.
When I was a student, I originally had excellent grades in Xi, but in junior high school, I became a scumbag because of my superstitious belief in the "uselessness of reading".
After graduating from junior high school, I plunged headlong into the bustling metropolis. is like a desperate Sanniang, starting as a factory worker, upgrading all the way to fight monsters, opening clothing stores and barber shops. After getting married, he and his husband opened a shoe factory and an online store.
But just when I was ambitious to open a Western restaurant, a diagnosis of leukemia stopped my pace of rushing forward.
The doctor said that I would have to go to see Lord Yama for three years or three months for the shortest. But I didn't accept my fate, and I have lived for 4 years after the bone marrow transplant, and I believe that I will live to see my son start a family.
(I love to laugh)
On Chinese New Year's Eve in 1974, I was born into a rural family in Guizhou. I am the fifth oldest in my family, with three older sisters and an older brother and a younger brother.
In addition to farming, my father also did a cattle business, that is, he bought calves or lean cows, and then sold them when they were big and fat, so as to earn a certain difference in price.
My mother is also diligent in farm work, and the family has hardly broken off chickens, ducks, melon seeds, peanuts, etc. Our brothers and sisters have never been short of food and clothing.
Although I was only in the first grade at the age of 8, I had very good Xi grades from elementary school to the first year of junior high school, and I was "someone else's child" in everyone's eyes.
However, one night in my second year of junior high school, I saw a newspaper wrapped in noodles on the table, with an article titled "The Uselessness of Reading", and now I can't remember what was written at that time, I guess I didn't understand the true meaning of the article at that time. For some reason, from that moment on, I felt at ease with my Xi and felt that reading was useless.
(First color photo taken at the age of 15)
From then on, I began to get tired of studying, and my grades plummeted Xi. Both teachers and classmates thought that my Xi had dropped because of my playfulness. In this way, I barely finished junior high school.
At the end of 1990, my classmates and I came to Panyu, Guangdong Province to borrow a friend's ID card to work in an electronics factory. It's hard to work 8 hours a day at one stop. In the dead of night, when I was exhausted, I would feel homesick and cry when I thought about it.
It was a particularly difficult time. Because I joined the company just before the year, and it was not yet time to pay my salary, my father gave me 100 yuan to save money.
Around the Spring Festival, I ate instant noodles for half a month, so much so that for many years afterward, I wanted to vomit when I smelled the instant noodles.
After the year, I finally paid my salary, a total of 160 yuan, I kept 60 yuan for living expenses, and sent 100 yuan home to my father.
Gradually, I began to meet some friends and gradually Xi the life of part-time work. Every month, I will send home the money that is left over from my expenses.
(When I got my first job in Guangzhou)
I remember that I received 300 yuan for a month's salary, which was the most time, and I said how happy I was. I lived on the top floor of the three-story bed in the factory dormitory, and carefully pressed my salary under the pillow before going to bed at night.
When I woke up the next day, I found that the money was gone. Maybe I've been able to bear it since I was a child, so I didn't cry, and I went to borrow money from a friend for breakfast. They looked at me as if I was nothing, and thought I was joking.
Later, I saved up money and bought a point-and-shoot camera, and in my spare time, I took pictures of my co-workers and helped them wash them out, so as to earn some pocket money.
After working in an electronics factory for more than a year, in March 1992, I transferred to work in an electrical toy factory in Panyu, Guangdong. Although you have to work overtime, the pay is higher.
I worked very hard, and after half a year, I was promoted to the team leader of the production workshop.
(Me and my mother)
From 1992 to 1998, 6 years, from 18 to 24 years old, all my best youth was left here. Here, I also started an unforgettable love.
When I was 20 years old, there was no shortage of suitors around me, but at that time, I was willful and free, and I never thought about falling in love. By chance, I met him.
He was two years older than me, but he had a lot of life experiences. Although I wasn't pretty at that time, I was cheerful, honest and free-spirited, and we were attracted to each other and came together.
He changed my life plan. I was going to go back to my hometown, but for him, I decided to stay in Guangdong.
However, after knowing him for less than two months, he returned to his hometown of Chongqing for work reasons, and we began a long-distance relationship for four years.
In the past four years, we have relied on correspondence to share each other's lives and work, and to express our thoughts. He always wanted me to quit my job and come to him. But I have my own ideas, I want to be self-reliant first and then start a family.
(Older leftover girls who still love to take pictures)
I wish I had a craft to make a living and then think about getting married. In 1998, I quit my job and went back to my hometown to learn tailoring.
During those extremely busy months, I didn't contact him. When I went to his hometown to see him again, his attitude and look told me that he was no longer the same person.
I couldn't see the future of each other, and I didn't cry hoarsely or cry, and turned around and set out on the way home.
I went back to my hometown and opened a clothing store in town. While earning money, he accompanies his mother.
When I was 26 years old, my 62-year-old mother died of illness. So I left the town and went to the city to learn how to barber and open a hairdresser.
At that time, most of the girls of the same age were married, and I became the older leftover girl.
(31-year-old me and 29-year-old him)
It wasn't until I was 31 years old that he showed up.
He worked as a pattern maker in a shoe factory in Guangzhou, two years younger than me. A friend of mine introduced us to a co-worker in his factory. Even though we are more than 1000 kilometers apart, the hearts of the two of us are getting closer and closer.
The next year, after I became pregnant, I reacted more strongly during pregnancy, because I often complained in front of him about things at work, so we kept conflicts and often quarreled. I told him that for the sake of the child, the two of them should be separated for a while and calm down.
I sent my 4-month-old daughter back to my hometown, asked my mother-in-law to take care of me, and then returned to Guangzhou to start her old job as a hairdresser, opening a hairdressing shop, and refining my hairdressing skills.
During that time, he always gave me living expenses and often brought me what I liked to eat. He said to me, "If we work hard for the sake of our children, we can't do it, and we will be separated when the time comes." "I listened and secretly rejoiced.
In this way, the two-year Cold War came to an end, and then our relationship got better and better. It seems that two people in love have to give time and space to each other in order to harvest and grow.
(I'm pregnant)
The child kept throwing it to grandma, and I always felt sorry for her. When my daughter was 3 years old, I brought her to Guangzhou and took her with me. In order to take better care of my children, at the age of 36, I switched to shoe wholesale and opened an online store.
In 2013, I registered my own brand and my income gradually increased. At the age of 37, I had two more treasures, but I couldn't take care of my two children, so I thought about it and sent my 4-month-old son back to my hometown temporarily.
When I was 38 years old, we bought our first home with a down payment of 140,000 yuan, and finally had a home of our own. I also bought a car in the second half of the year.
Because the efficiency of the shoe factory is not very good, my husband resigned and worked with me.
At the beginning of 2014, we bought a small shop in the county, and the business became more and more stable, and life was getting better and better. I picked up my son to go to kindergarten in Guangzhou, and I also took my parents-in-law to Beijing to play, which can be regarded as fulfilling one of the old people's wishes.
At this moment, I seem to understand the meaning of life's endeavors.
(I sent the baby back to my hometown)
My husband, who has been making shoes for decades, has always been his dream to open his own shoe factory, and I support him very much as my wife.
In March 2014, my husband partnered with a friend for the first time to open a factory for only 7 months, but he lost more than 100,000 yuan. He was unwilling, but the shoe factory that opened again the next year was still empty. All of a sudden, the factory's losses and debts have reached 500,000, which is unexpected.
That year, the business of my stall also got worse and worse, and finally I had to sublet it out and only do online at home.
Despite the loss of money and debts, my husband didn't want to be a deserter, so in the end we decided to work hard again and invested the 200,000 yuan I got from the transfer into the factory. In order to take care of the children, we rented a house near the factory.
But it was too difficult to make our own brand, so in order to keep the shoe factory alive, we began to take some orders of imitation brands.
After several months of hard work, the factory finally improved, moving from 200 square meters to 500 square meters, and I also decorated my office.
At that time, leaving work at one or two o'clock in the morning was the norm in my life. Staying up late for a long time became one of the triggers for me to develop leukemia later.
(Let's walk around)
Fortunately, the hard work has finally paid off. In 2017, we finally paid off our debts.
Being debt-free and light, walking around is a way for my husband and I to relax and treat ourselves. I also started to learn how to stink, and I had to dye my hair every two months or so. And frequent hair dyeing also laid a hidden danger for my leukemia two years later.
In 2018, we bought a new house near the factory and couldn't wait to move in it not long after the renovation of the new house. This may be one of the important reasons why I developed leukemia.
This year, we made an exception and did not go back to our hometown for the New Year, and the family drove to Sanya. Facing the vast and boundless sea, I felt my own insignificance for the first time.
On the beach, looking at the "sand cake" that my child gave me, a special birthday, a special cake, I shed tears of joy on the "cake". In those days when we were completely relaxed, it felt like all these years of perseverance were worth it.
When I came back from the trip, I went to learn to drive and get a certificate, and I went to learn pastry to prepare for opening a Western restaurant. However, before the dream began, there was a problem with the body.
(I'm learning pastry)
I found that I love mouth sores very much, and the same place is good and long, and it is good and good, and it is good and long I always felt uncomfortable in my throat, and at first I thought it was a fire, drinking herbal tea and taking medicine had no effect, and I slowly began to have a low-grade fever.
On the twentieth day of the lunar month in 2018, according to the custom, we have to go back to our hometown for the New Year. The third sister I married far away from Henan and her family also went back to reunite with us. So I asked my husband to take the two children back to my grandmother's house first, and I stayed in Guiyang, wanting to accompany the third sister's family to play around.
On the day I arrived in Guiyang, I had a fever of more than 38 degrees, but I didn't pay much attention to it, and after going to a small hospital nearby for an injection, the fever subsided somewhat.
But in those days, I was a little uncomfortable during the whole process of playing, so I didn't continue to play, and asked the third brother-in-law to send me back to my hometown. I thought I was tired, just take some medicine and rest.
During the Chinese New Year, I have been taking medicine and going for injections, but I just can't finish the Spring Festival without knowing the taste.
(Sick one month before traveling)
After the Chinese New Year, I returned to Guangzhou to continue my pastry class, but I still didn't feel well and still had a low-grade fever. At this time, I already felt that my body was a little abnormal, because the throat inflammation could not be bad for so long.
So I went to a nearby hospital for a blood test, and when the results came out, the doctor said that the condition was not good and asked me to be hospitalized for observation, but I refused.
The next day, I went to another hospital in Guangzhou for a check-up, but the doctor also said that the condition was not good and asked for an inpatient examination. At this time, I was mentally prepared.
I was admitted to the hospital on 20 February 2019 and was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia five days later with 64% cancer cells in my body.
The doctor told my husband that if the results were not good, I would have to go to see Lord Yama for three years or three months.
Although my family hid it from me, I guessed most of it. However, I am an optimist, and I feel that even if I am sick, I should not be pessimistic and hopeless, no matter what. Besides, I am not in bad physical condition except for throat inflammation, and I am confident that I can overcome the disease.
(Confirmed leukemia with the first chemotherapy)
I thought that as long as I actively cooperated with the treatment, chemotherapy a few times, and then strengthened exercise, recovery should not be a big problem.
However, by the end of the first course of treatment, I still had 24% of the cancer cells in my body. This indicates that there is no remission, as only less than 5% is considered remission.
So my husband went everywhere to register with a big hospital and consult a well-known professor. The professor told him: "This disease has a high cure rate, your wife is only in her 40s, and she can be cured in her sixties and seventies." ”
At that time, we heard that there are two well-known hospitals in China with a high cure rate, but bone marrow transplantation is necessary for radical cure, and we chose one of them with a higher praise rate. However, a bed was hard to find, and after several setbacks, I was finally admitted to the hospital.
The day I was admitted to the hospital was April 16, 2019, and I remember it very clearly because there was another big event that happened on that day. When my husband was going through the admission procedures for me in the hospital, two employees who were distributing goods in our factory warehouse were taken away by the police. The reason is that there is infringement of the high-imitation products made in our factory.
(Cut the long hair)
Later, my husband also entered the detention center, was sentenced to two years of imprisonment outside of prison, and was fined 60,000 yuan.
We finally paid for our quick success and luck. At this moment, no matter how cheerful my personality is, I can't laugh anymore.
My second sister stayed in Guangzhou to take care of me, and the children were sent to live in school. After entering the hospital, I saw a lot of leukemia patients in the main ward, and I suddenly felt enlightened. They seemed to be calm, as if they were suffering from a common cold and not a terminal illness.
Maybe it's because of the environment, or maybe it's because of the mentality of taking a salary, but my treatment is surprisingly good.
At the end of the first chemotherapy, the cancer cells were relieved, and after 2 courses of consolidation, I was successfully admitted to the transplant chamber.
My family, from my brother, sister, younger brother to husband and daughter, all did matching, but none of them were all matched, and finally the doctor selected my brother's semi-compatible bone marrow.
On September 19, 2019, the bone marrow transplant was completed, and my brother became the one who gave me a second life.
(I can't keep my hair, so my husband helps me shave it)
I walked through the hell gate in the transplant pod.
Before I went to the transplant pod, I had a major chemotherapy treatment, and my immune system had to be completely destroyed and rebuilt.
My throat was stuck in my throat, and I didn't dare to swallow or spit out, and if I coughed, it would bleed. And my stomach hurts like a fire every day. For more than a month, I barely ate, couldn't even drink water, and relied on nutrient infusions to save my life.
After more than a month of life and death, I finally came out of the bone marrow transplant cabin. Since then, my blood type B has become the same blood type A as my brother.
Happily, I recovered very quickly.
Luckily, I didn't have any rejection after my bone marrow transplant. However, I still followed the doctor's advice and took targeted drugs for a year to consolidate.
Because I couldn't eat during the medicine, a year later, I was only more than 70 pounds from the original 90 pounds, and I was really skinny like a terminal patient.
(I want to be a beauty at any time, hahaha)
But I was able to bear it, and I quickly accepted the fact that I was able to do so. In my opinion, if you work everything and do what you need to do, you will leave the result to God, and even if you don't succeed, you have no regrets. It is up to people to plan things, and it's up to heaven to make things happen!
All along, my husband has taken care of all the housework. I couldn't do it well, so he took me for a ride.
My husband's dedication and the care of my relatives and friends have always kept me in a good attitude. Two months after I stopped taking the drug, I was able to regain my pre-illness weight.
However, when I recovered, I was worried that my illness would return. So in addition to adjusting my mentality, I quit staying up late and made dietary adjustments.
At first, I was reading a book to make a nutritional match for three meals a day, but I felt that the knowledge points were scattered, and then I simply enrolled in a course to learn how to Xi and cook.
I also do exercise every day, running, walking, dancing, etc. Dancing in particular not only exercises the body, but also gives you a sense of pleasure, dancing when you are alone in the park or on the balcony.
(Skin rejection after bone marrow transplantation)
I've done everything I need to do, and if it's going to come back, that's how it should be. If such a result does happen one day, I can accept it calmly.
After all, I was a person from Benwu, and before I got leukemia, I already had a little gray hair, and now I am full of gray hair. Many people may think that this is a very tragic thing, but this cannot be changed, and I can only accept it helplessly. Because when I was shaving my hair in the hospital, the doctor told me not to dye my hair in the future.
But I'm still a woman who loves beauty. Sometimes I cut my hair short, sometimes I have long hair, and I wear some braids in different ways. Pick something a little more fashionable to match my gray hair. Nowadays, I feel that gray hair makes me look more stylish.
Once, I went to my daughter's parent-teacher conference, and my daughter came back and told me that her classmates said that your mother is so trendy, dyed such a fashionable hair, and looks so young, not at all like 49 years old. I laughed.
(Skinny during targeted drugs)
I think it's more important than anything else to live in the state you like and maintain the ability to perceive all kinds of happiness. And I want to continue to find my own value.
In 2020, my husband reopened the shoe factory, and we learned the previous lesson that everything that touches the legal boundary should be kept away.
I took advantage of the gap during the recovery period to enter the seminar of the Central University of Finance and Economics to learn more things and enrich myself.
In 2022, I felt that I had recovered to be like a normal person, and I had the idea of starting my own business again and opening a clothing store. My husband persuaded me: After all, my health is not as good as before, and the general environment for opening stores is not good, so many stores are closed. But I didn't listen to persuasion and insisted on going my own way, and ended up with a loss of 80,000 yuan.
I have to admit that everything in the world is changing.
(We are a family of four)
A serious illness made me deeply realize that the most important thing in life is health, and if there is no health, everything is a floating cloud.
In the past, I was desperate Sanniang, desperately making money, and when I made money, I went to buy a house, I had the first set, and I wanted to buy the second set, and I had two houses, and I wanted to buy a bigger one, and the desire was never endless.
In the past, I thought that this work would hurt my body, but I still carried it.
Nowadays, although I still have some pursuit of life, I will also have desires, but when my desires are growing, I will convince myself not to fight too hard, first to satisfy my body, not to work.
It's okay to have a house to live in, the money can't be earned, and if you don't feel well, you can rest more.
(It's been more than four years since the bone marrow transplant, and I'm in good shape)
My thoughts now are relatively simple, I hope that I can be financially independent, and I hope that my two children will go to school in Guangzhou, and they will succeed in their studies in the future, and watch them start a family. At that time, if I am still alive, I want to return to Guizhou to retire.
We always say that the world is impermanent, tomorrow or accident, and we don't know which one will come first. Now I really understand the true meaning of this sentence. Although people have a purpose in life, there is hope in life, and the most important thing is to live in the present.
I will be 50 years old next year, looking back at the girl who strode out of her hometown 33 years ago, and then looking at the road as bright as silver in the distance, I want to say that no matter what kind of script fate arranges for you, you must strive to be the best director in your own life.
Cherish the present, the future is still long.
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[Dictator: Feng Qunying]
[Editor: Smanro]
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