#文章首发挑战赛#
My name is Xu Duan and I am 42 years old. A few days ago, I happened to meet an old lover I hadn't seen for a long time - Wu Pearl. We've known each other for over twenty years. At that time, we were still college classmates, young and passionate. Our relationship has never been broken, but later we each had our own families, and we chose to leave each other's lives.
Years have passed, and time has erased the passion we once had, but the moment we met, everything came to mind. We asked each other about each other's current situation, and I found out that Wu Pearl was now a lonely woman. She told me that her marriage was not happy, and I was deeply entangled in my family.
Wu Pearl invited me to her cabin, and we relived the emotions of the past. As if it were yesterday, we are once again one. That night, we indulged in this long time until dawn. However, the dawn of the morning shone on my face through the curtains, and I felt all over my body ache. I tried to move, only to find that I had been silent for a long time. I looked at her face next to her, and deep regret welled up in my heart.
I realized that I was no longer the young and vigorous teenager I was. I now have a family and love my wife and two lovely children. How can I be sorry for them? I should go back to my wife and give her a safe home.
After some thought, I silently left Wu Pearl's hut. This time, maybe we'll never see each other again. From that moment on, I vowed to work hard to change myself and cherish the happiness I have now. When I got home, I relented and decided to have a good talk with my wife. There's nothing that communication can't solve.
"My dear, I have something to tell you. I said in a sincere tone.
"What's wrong? You're so serious, what's wrong?" asked his wife, Xiaohong, alertly.
"That's right, I met a person......" I candidly told her about my encounter with Wu Pearl.
Xiaohong listened to my narration quietly, and then was silent for a while. "I can understand how you feel, after all, we have been married for so many years. However, I hope you will be able to understand me as well. We have two children and they also need a complete home. Xiaohong said softly.
I looked at Xiaohong's gentle gaze and couldn't help but feel distressed. Her dedication and tolerance to me is something I can't ignore. I held her hand tightly and said solemnly, "Xiaohong, I understand. We will definitely work hard to run this family well and give our children a happy environment to grow up. ”
Little Red smiled and nodded, and we hugged each other tightly. At this moment, I felt that the contradictions and regrets in my heart gradually dissipated. I believe that in the days to come, we will face the difficulties and tribulations of life together and create happiness that belongs to us in the family.
As time passed, Xiaohong and I gradually left Wu Pearl's affairs behind, and our lives returned to their former peace. Commuting to and from work every day, busy and fulfilling. Xiaohong and I cherish each other more and have established more tacit understanding and mutual support in the family.
However, just when we are immersed in family happiness, a small contradiction creeps in again.
One day, I returned home with a tired body and mind and saw Xiaohong sitting on the sofa silently crying. I hurried over and hugged her tightly.
"What's wrong with you, dear?" I asked anxiously.
Xiaohong raised her head with sobs, tears flashing in her eyes: "Don't you know? Your parents blamed me for being pregnant today, saying that I was an uneducated woman! They said a lot of ugly things in front of me, which made me feel hurt, and you? You didn't even speak out to defend me!"
I listened to Xiaohong's accusation, and a wave of anger suddenly surged in my heart. My parents were very traditional people and had always had a conservative attitude towards our marriage, which bothered Xiaohong all the time. I know the importance of communication, but I can't help but get angry.
"How can they treat you like this?!" I was furious, "They should respect you, respect our family! I have communicated with them many times, why do they still treat you like this?!"
Xiaohong raised her head, tears still hanging on her face: "They are like this, they think that they can put on the shelf of adults if they are elders, so I should swallow my anger." I, I feel that our family, is not recognized by them......"
I squeezed Red's hand tightly, tightly. "Honey, you know, I love you, and only you are the most important thing in our family. We can try to communicate with the attitude of our parents, but we can't let them affect our well-being. We want to hold on to our families for our future. ”
Xiaohong's tears slowly stopped, she nodded lightly, and bit her lip: "Thank you, you always give me strength when I am most helpless." ”
I took a deep breath, "Let's face this together, we have to establish our own principles and bottom lines. Our family, no matter what the outside world thinks, we want to prove it to them with our actions and happiness. ”
Xiaohong listened to me quietly, and her eyes gradually flashed with hope. We hugged each other and tacitly understood that family harmony requires us to work together.
Back home, Xiaohong and I worked hard to run our family. We treat life happily every day, but one day, I suddenly received an email from Wu Pearl. In her letters, she told me about her confusion and loneliness. She said that she had never forgotten me and still had a deep love for me. I looked at this passionate email, and the entanglement in my heart came flooding up again.
I hesitated whether to respond to Wu Pearl. Looking at her fond memories of the past in the letter, I couldn't help but fall into a conflict. I know I can't forget the emotions we once had, but I can't hurt my family and live up to Xiaohong's dedication to me.
I decided to be honest with Red and tell her about the email. Xiaohong was silent for a moment, took a deep breath, and asked, "How deep are your feelings for her?"
I told Xiaohong that it was the passion and desire that used to be, but now I only love her alone. Xiaohong listened quietly, with a hint of disappointment and sadness in her eyes. She picked up the postcard drawn by her son, stroked the brush marks on it, and whispered, "The children we once raised, how much they need a healthy family." ”
I looked at Xiaohong's eyes, and my heart was full of guilt. I love her, but I can't erase the thoughts of the past. This family has been unable to return to its original purity and integrity.
The days continued to flow, and although we still lived a close and harmonious life, I knew that there was a rift in the family. In the dead of night, I always secretly turned on the computer, looked at the emails sent to me by Wu Pearl, and then ushered in the self-blame and pain of the morning.
By chance, I met a therapist, Wu Dongze. I told him about my inner conflicts and confusion. He gently told me that it's human nature, but to handle your emotions correctly and don't let bad decisions hurt the people around you.
I learned a lot from the therapist's words. He reminded me to cherish my current happiness and not to use my former love as a tool to hurt my family. So I decided to bury these thoughts and entanglements in the deepest part of my heart and focus on running my family.
Seeing how I was reinvigorated, Xiaohong slowly opened up. We have regained the warmth and tacit understanding between husband and wife. Little Red suggested that we go on a trip together so that the children can feel the beauty of the world in a new environment. I readily agreed, and our family of four embarked on a warm and pleasant journey.
Xiaohong and I regained our family balance and trust in each other. However, fate does not seem to be willing to give us peace. By chance, I discovered a truth that made my heart ache. It turns out that Xiaohong has been hiding a big secret from me.
One night, I was home alone and accidentally opened Xiaohong's drawer and saw a letter. Curiosity drove me to open it up and read. I was shocked by the contents of the letter. It turned out that Xiaohong once had a son, but when she was young, she was forced to give him to another family to raise for various reasons.
I can't imagine why Red was hiding this from me. My heart was filled with anger and pain. Why did she not trust me, why did she keep such an important matter from me? Is it her attachment to this son that makes her worry that I will change my mind?
I couldn't deal with this fact calmly in my anger. When Xiaohong came home, I didn't control my emotions and told her what I had discovered. Xiaohong looked at my angry appearance, lowered her head, and tears welled up in her eyes.
"I'm sorry, Xu Duan, I've always felt guilty and helpless about this matter. I wanted to tell you, but...... But I never found the right time. Xiaohong explained in a trembling voice.
"Why didn't you tell me sooner? We are husband and wife and we should trust each other. I asked angrily.
Xiaohong held my hand, choked up and said, "Xu Duan, I know I was wrong. But I have also been trying to find this son, I want to meet him, I want to give him a complete family. ”
My anger gradually turned into deep heartache. I remembered the inseparable attachment that Xiaohong once revealed when we were about to divorce. I could feel the struggle and pain in her heart.
"Xiaohong, I know you've been working hard. I can understand your feelings, too. But we can't lose the happiness we already have because of this. I relented and whispered.
We hugged each other, tears intertwined. Although there are still contradictions and pain in our hearts, we decided to face this problem together and find our long-lost son together.
When we got home, Little Red and I had a difficult conversation. We sat in the living room, face to face, communicating our inner contradictions and confusions.
"Xu Duan, I know that you have always been very responsible for your family, but I have endured too much. Xiaohong said, her eyes revealing helplessness and exhaustion.
"I know I'm sorry for you, I'm sorry for the kids. However, we must not only see the problem, but also the possibility of change. I tried to explain.
Xiaohong was silent for a moment, then raised her head, tears glistening in her eyes. "Xu Duan, it's not that I don't trust you, it's just that I've been hurt too deeply. We used to be so sweet and so in love, but now we have become strangers and can no longer have a real emotional connection. ”
I took her hand and whispered, "Little Red, I promise, I will change, and I will try to rekindle the flame of love in our marriage." ”
"You've said it countless times, but will it be empty words this time?" Xiaohong's voice trembled slightly.
I held her hand tightly and said in a firm tone, "I swear, not this time." We can go to marriage counseling together and seek professional help. Together, we can work together to rediscover the happiness of the past. ”
Xiaohong sobbed silently and did not speak. I knew her heart had been wounded too deeply, trust had been broken, and it would take time and effort to repair it again.
In the days that followed, Xiaohong and I started marriage counseling. We communicate face-to-face, listen to each other, and try to understand each other's feelings. Gradually, we began to rebuild bridges of trust and emotion.
However, just when we thought everything was going to get better, an unexpected piece of news broke our peace.
During a routine check-up, Xiaohong was found to have an early disease. Doctors say that if treated promptly, there is hope for a return to health. However, the cost of treatment is huge, which is undoubtedly worse for our family, who are already financially strapped for it.
I looked at Xiaohong's pale face, and my heart was like a knife. I knew I had to do everything I could to help her and give her the best treatment.
However, the financial pressures of my family left me feeling helpless. I started working hard and working overtime in hopes of making enough money. At the same time, I also tried my best to borrow money from relatives and friends to raise funds for Xiaohong's treatment.
As the days passed, I kept going back and forth between work and seeking funds, trying to give Xiaohong hope. However, as time went on, I felt more and more tired and under a lot of stress.
I looked at Xiaohong's figure on the hospital bed, and my heart was like a knife. All of this is my own doing. I'm sorry for her, I'm sorry for the family. However, I can't give up, I have to stay the course.
Back home, Xiaohong and I worked hard to run our family. We share the chores together, support each other, and give our children endless love and education on their way to growth. In addition to my busy work every day, I always try to find time to spend with them and try my best to be a qualified husband and father.
However, as time went on, our families faced new difficulties. As his son Zhang Peng grew up, his personality began to become rebellious. He often disobeyed us and quarreled with us. My son became more and more dissatisfied with me, complaining that I worked too much and didn't have time for him. I felt helpless and bitter for his reproach.
Xiaohong also entered menopause, and her mood became erratic. She often gets angry and argues with me over trivial things. We are constantly arguing over trivial matters, and we gradually lose the ability to communicate.
These quarrels gradually made the family atmosphere tense. I knew that arguing was not a good solution, but I couldn't control my emotions. I was thinking about how to change the situation and find family harmony again.
Just as I was in a state of confusion, I received a call from an old friend who invited me to a family communication training session. I signed up for the course with the mindset of giving it a try.
During the course, I learned many skills and methods related to family communication. I learned that arguing only complicates the problem, and that listening and respect are the keys to family harmony. I decided to change myself, starting with me, to listen and understand the thoughts and feelings of my family.
Xiaohong and I started trying to solve problems through communication. We sat down, listened to each other, and tried to understand each other's situations. Gradually, we begin to slowly open up and communicate our inner thoughts to each other without reservation.
Zhang Peng saw our efforts, and he began to gradually open his heart and be willing to communicate with us. We sat together as a family of three to discuss problems, share happiness, and build a closer parent-child relationship.
After time and hard work, the atmosphere in my house has gradually calmed down. We learned to understand and tolerate each other, to understand