The difference in acquaintance: Wang Xiaofei and Big S "fell in love at first sight", but Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi were "in love for a long time"
Wang Xiaofei, a wealthy businessman in Beijing, met the popular actress Da S for the first time in a high-end club located in the central business district.
There has never been a shortage of socialites around Wang Xiaofei, but only Big S makes him shine, and his uninhibited and rebellious temperament and femininity are different.
And Da S himself was completely shocked when he came to Wang Xiaofei's club for the first time.
From the crystal lamp at the door to the famous paintings on the wall inside, every corner is shining with a different light.
Before she saw Wang Xiaofei in person, she was already full of curiosity and fantasy about this mysterious rich businessman.
In this way, the two parties fell in love at first sight and began to rapidly enhance their relationship. After only 5 dates, the two confirmed their marriage, and the lightning got the certificate to complete the marriage. This combination of top rich people and actresses was a sensation at the time.
However, during the same period, another couple, actors Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi, experienced completely different love moments in their lives across the sea. They came together without hurry.
At first, Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi only met by chance during the filming of the costume drama. Although they get along day and night, the two only maintain a colleague relationship without any ambiguity.
A reunion after many years begins the story of their love. This time, Chen Xiao seemed to have a different affection for Chen Yanxi, and took the initiative to pursue and express his heart.
And the other party also readily accepted, and the two officially established their relationship at this time.
It can be seen that love at first sight is completely different from long-term love, the former burns quickly but is easy to disappear, while the latter can withstand the test of time and truly enter the palace of marriage.
Love is uncertain, and only when both parties slowly understand and get along can they find a true confidant.
Character determines fate: Big S is strong, Chen Yanxi is tolerant
Big S has the temper of a star, and she is Xi to growing up in the palm of everyone's hand. Even if he marries far away to Beijing, he is still used to doing his own thing. She couldn't stand the weather in the north, couldn't accept her mother-in-law's discipline, and didn't want to be held back by her husband's career.
So she chose to stay away from all this and return to her hometown of Taipei.
This decision is undoubtedly a heavy blow to Wang Xiaofei's marriage, and they broke down after only a few years of growing old together. As a woman who made a choice in her relationship, Big S didn't apologize much, she still went her own way, and soon found a new home.
In contrast, Chen Yanxi has a very different realm on the emotional road. She is no longer a simple girl, but a demure woman who does not hesitate to give up her career development for the sake of her family.
In order to better accompany her husband and children, she reduced her workload and devoted herself to the family. Even though the environment in the north made her very uncomfortable, she chose to be patient and compromise.
Even if the outside world has mixed evaluations of Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi, she never cares. In the face of doubts, she was able to deal with them calmly and resolve the crisis with wisdom. She knows her husband's temperament well, so she soothes his heart when he is thundering.
She knows the needs of her children, so she takes care of them like a pearl in the palm of her hand. It is this kind of silent dedication that has created the cornerstone of their relationship over the years.
Therefore, character determines fate, which is fully confirmed in the choice of Da S and Chen Yanxi. In an emotional race, compromise is a necessary spice. Only with two-way dedication and understanding, there is no obstacle between husband and wife.
Tutoring affects a lifetime: Wang Xiaofei is perverse, Chen Xiao is steady
If a person's personality is compared to a building, then the most basic foundation is his family education and growth background. This is vividly confirmed by Wang Xiaofei and Chen Xiao.
Wang Xiaofei was born in a wealthy family but has been in the middle of the family since he was a child, and the picture of his parents arguing and the lonely life of studying abroad have become a distorted part of his character. After his mother started his business, he soared, but he also raised him into an arrogant and extreme rich second generation.
This may explain why he is always not super heavy on the emotional road, afraid of giving, and eager for freshness. He has too many psychological wounds that need to be filled by external recognition.
So the women around him couldn't stay for too long, and even Big S couldn't stand this impermanence.
Chen Xiao was born in a family of ordinary civil servants, and his parents have taken care of him since he was a child, giving him warmth and care. They taught Chen Xiao to be humble and enterprising, and to develop a sunny, cheerful and steady character.
Although the temptation in Vanity Fair is everywhere after joining the entertainment industry, Chen Xiao has never forgotten his roots and always adhered to his original intention.
Chen Yanxi said with deep feeling that her husband is a consistent person. No matter how the external environment changes, the weight of his family and career in his heart will always maintain the correct proportion.
Therefore, family education and growth background determine the size of a person's pattern and the quality of temperament. Only by standing on the right path, not forgetting the original, and cherishing the family, can we not lose our way on the road of love.
This is the secret of Chen Xiao's ability to grow old with Chen Yanxi.
There is a trick to marital happiness: both parties need to be attentive and compromised
We often say that marriage is like a spiritual practice. It sounds abstract, but it's actually quite simple.
In other words, if you want to get to the end, you can't succeed on impulse alone. The sweetness of the love period and the lingering of the wedding night are just the beginning of happiness. What really tests the relationship between husband and wife is the hard work and struggle after that.
Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi are good couples on the road to happy cultivation. They supported each other and experienced countless winds and waves together. Although the process is not always smooth.
We can imagine that living together with two people with different nationalities and language backgrounds undoubtedly requires a lot of hard work and running-in. There are so many details of life to reconcile, not to mention the fact that two people often live apart because of their work.
But they overcame it all. Chen Xiao is gentle and considerate, and is willing to give time, money and affection for his wife and children. Chen Yanxi is empathetic and doesn't mind reducing her career development for her husband.
In the trivial matters of life, they are also run-in. Chen Xiao tolerates Chen Yanxi's temper, and the latter also learns to take care of her husband's emotions.
The most important thing is that in the face of slander from the outside world, the two are working together and helping each other. This is the true nature of husband and wife. Therefore, their marriage can withstand the wind and rain, and it will definitely lead them through the rest of their lives.
On the contrary, there was no such connection between Wang Xiaofei and Big S at the beginning. Big S couldn't bear the hardships of life in Beijing, and Wang Xiaofei was stumped by her career.
In the end, Big S chose to leave, which is destined to be difficult for this family business to go on.
Therefore, the secret of marital happiness is that both parties need to work together and understand each other. It's not difficult, just care more about each other in life, help each other more, and maintain it with your heart, and you can naturally grow day by day.
Life is short, and you need to grasp the present
When we look back at life, we will find that it flies by like a white horse. We are all in pursuit of so-called success and perfection, but we often forget to stop and grasp every moment with the person we love.
Wang Xiaofei and Big S are vivid examples. The spark of love they burst out at the beginning burned so vigorously, and the vows they made were even more moving.
At that time, they loved each other deeply and were willing to give everything for each other.
But time has passed, and the temptation of a successful career has led them to drift away. When I reacted, the sweetness of love was no more, and only the regret of loss remained. Obviously, I used to want to take out my whole heart, but now I can only sign the divorce agreement in a high-sounding manner.
Life is a long road, and we are all in pursuit of our perfect life. But what about the person who could have grown old with you and was inseparable? Maybe when you chase your dreams, when you look back, he is no longer there.
Therefore, we need to cherish the present moment and cherish everyone around us who spends time together. Just like Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi are still living sweetly together. Although the environment is not perfect and the process is not easy, they choose to hold hands and spend every moment of life together.
That's happiness, that's what we're supposed to be after.
Redefining happiness depends on the unity of both parties
What is a Happy Marriage?
We often have a lot of idealized images: living in a big house, traveling abroad, traveling between the two places with a luxury car...... But Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi's eight years have taught us that these are not the most important things.
The most important thing is whether the two hearts have ever been sincerely together. Whether they are rich or poor, good times or bad, can they hold hands and get through them hand in hand?
We see that Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi also had difficult times. Public skepticism, work pressure, and an unsuitable environment...... All this is enough to fatally wear out a relationship.
But they got along with each other and polished each other's halos. Chen Yanxi does not care about personal development to start a family; Chen Xiao bears everything alone before being abused by outsiders. This is what they redefine happiness.
Therefore, we do not have to demand perfection in material life. As long as there is a firm attachment in the heart, any difficulties can be turned into salt, but make the relationship stronger and more durable.
This is true happiness.
Wang Xiaofei's long-awaited material life failed to materialize, but in exchange for fierce quarrels and distancing. Therefore, happiness is only built on the basis of the deep friendship between the two parties, and two hearts need to be closely connected so that they will not drift away when the wind and rain come.