Xiao Ming was always neglected by his parents at home, and he felt very sad.
Whenever there is a big holiday in the family, his two elder brothers, Xiaohong and Xiaogang, will receive delicate gifts from their parents, and he can only watch from the sidelines.
He can't understand this, obviously his grades are better than those of his two elder brothers, and his etiquette is not lost to them.
Once, Xiao Ming participated in an essay contest on campus, and he fought with several top students to get the second place. He happily returned home with the certificate and prize money, hoping to exchange it for his parents' appreciation.
But that day, the parents' attention was all on Xiao Gang, because Xiao Gang's school organized three first places in the sports meeting. His awards and prize money were not worth mentioning in the eyes of his parents.
Since then, Xiao Ming has never expected to receive approval from his parents. He began to focus on his Xi, struggling and struggling. Among his classmates, he was known for his hard work.
After school during the exam season, you can always see Xiao Ming Xi alone in the classroom. He knows that only by working hard can he get what he wants.
After persevering like this for a year, Xiao Ming's results entered the top ten in the class. But even then, the reaction of parents was lukewarm. This relieved him, because he knew that his parents did not favor him.
Since then, he has gradually become independent, taking the initiative to earn money by doing odd jobs or finding teachers to make up Xi tuition. The parents are insensitive to this and seem to have tacitly acquiesced that he will take care of himself, and there is no need to care too much.
After these exercises, Xiao Ming seems more mature and stable than his peers. He has a clear plan for his future life.
Xiao Ming, who is not favored by his family, has gone through hardships to grow up, as research shows that these children face the cruelty and injustice of society earlier than ordinary people, and polish themselves to meet the ups and downs of the future.
When he succeeds, the people around him often feel unexpected. In fact, many great people in history have come through this way, their families have no expectations, society has no expectations, only they have confidence in themselves.
We should not only focus on the results, but also appreciate the mental intelligence and perseverance of these people. This is exactly the common portrayal of Xiao Ming and all the children who are not recognized by the family.
Xiao Gang has been a rebellious since he was a child. His parents often worry about his behavior, such as not getting up on time to go to school, not being obedient to do housework, and often getting into fights with others. But Xiao Gang himself thinks it's not a big deal, he hates that his parents set him all kinds of rules and want him to live like a programmed robot.
Once, his parents asked Xiao Gang to participate in summer camp during the summer vacation, but Xiao Gang himself really wanted to go to his cousin's house in the countryside to play. The two sides quarreled over this, and Xiao Gang did not participate in the camp in the end, and went out in the car alone.
More than a month later, he returned home with all kinds of rural experiences, and he gained more than any summer camp. This incident also made Xiao Gang realize that his parents' advice was not always right.
Since then, Xiao Gang has become more and more self-motivated. He started trying a lot of things that his parents didn't allow him to do, such as climbing, diving, skiing, and so on. These new experiences not only brought him a lot of fun, but also allowed him to be well-informed and accumulate rich life experiences.
Xiao Gang in real life is more attracted to him than the virtual friends he met online, who are often what his parents want him to indulge in.
In this way, Xiao Gang opened up a different world. He encounters various opportunities, discovers his interests and hobbies, and makes a group of like-minded friends. This makes him full of possibilities in life.
Compared with those who honestly listen to their parents, Xiaogang's world is obviously bigger and more exciting. He has even become an expert in a certain field, which is deeper than his parents' attainments in this area.
Of course, Xiao Gang's rebellion also caused him a lot of trouble. But he doesn't see it as a mistake, but as a precious life experience. This is all the result of his disobedience to his parents' advice and his courage to explore.
As the famous saying goes: There is only one truly serious sin in the world, and that is to let one's talents go to waste. Xiao Gang is such a rebel who does not waste talent and has the courage to open up.
Xiaohong is a lively and cheerful person, and no matter what difficulties and setbacks he encounters, he can quickly restore his confidence.
On one occasion, the school organized senior students to teach in rural areas. Xiaohong volunteered to sign up and was full of enthusiasm. But the actual situation is very different from what he imagined, the children are naughty and mischievous, the conditions are difficult, and Xiaohong falls into a trough at first.
But he wasn't discouraged for long. Through self-reflection, Xiaohong realizes that the problem lies in her own discomfort with the environment and her lack of understanding of the children. It's like getting lost in nature, it's not nature's fault, it's your own lack of preparation.
So Xiaohong began to adjust her mentality, observe the children's interests more, and guide them patiently. He also took the initiative to join the children's games and quickly mingled with them.
This transformation gives Xiaohong a great sense of satisfaction.
This volunteer teaching experience made Xiaohong truly understand that when encountering problems and failures, she should not complain about others, but see her own shortcomings. It's like a doctor diagnosing a patient's problem, and only by finding the real cause can the right medicine be prescribed.
If you blame others, there will be no solution to the problem.
Later, Xiaohong participated in a music competition, but was eliminated in the semifinals. He was not discouraged, but took the initiative to consult the judges' opinions, and under their guidance, he practiced for another three months.
A year later, Xiaohong fought again and finally won the runner-up. The whole process has been very beneficial to him.
Xiaohong uses her own experience to prove that failure and mistakes are not terrible, but valuable assets. They are the way we need to gain more experience and grow higher.
It is precisely because of those setbacks that Xiaohong has grown into a cheerful and optimistic person who is willing to accept corrections. This is also a common portrayal of all those who are comfortable facing failures.
Through the above descriptions of Xiao Ming, Xiao Gang and Xiao Hong, it is not difficult for us to find that they have many qualities in common.
The first is to be independent and self-reliant on others. Xiao Ming is not treated at home and can only rely on himself; Xiaogang doesn't listen to his parents and has the courage to explore; Xiaohong can also self-reflect and improve in the face of failure.
This independence shapes their resilient character.
The second is to be proactive and use problems and failures as opportunities to learn Xi. Xiao Ming works hard to learn Xi to change his fate; Xiao Gang regards his rebellion as an experience; Red also learns from each failure.
This allows them to quickly regain confidence in the face of setbacks and move on.
The third is to develop and innovate and constantly develop their potential. Xiao Ming plans for his future; Xiaogang opened up new areas; Xiaohong is also constantly improving in music.
This gives them a broader perspective in life and a better chance of success.
It can be said that these three qualities constitute their superior mindset and mentality. Because of this, they stand out among their peers and achieve more.
As ordinary people, we should also learn from Xi of their excellent qualities. Because only with these qualities can we be more likely not to be eliminated in the wave and achieve rapid self-growth.
Specifically, we can cultivate independence and not be overly dependent on others; Solve problems through reflection and treat failure as Xi; And actively expand yourself and explore more possibilities.
When we also have these three points, we can be like them, face the ups and downs of life, and move forward firmly.