Tang Shiyong's view of love is worrying
When it comes to love, 40-year-old Tang Shiyong always looks like "if you don't make a decision, you will be crisp". You see, she has been alone for most of her life, but her love scene is miserable, and almost every relationship ends in being played by a scumbag.
Friends advised her to change her mate selection criteria and stay away from those cynical bad men, but she didn't think so—"Huaxin can be forgiven, as long as he still loves me."
Tang Shiyong, this woman, look at the way she speaks, she is resolute and helpless, like giving up on herself. She admitted frankly that she has tried to save the scumbag again and again over the years, even if her position is embarrassing, she will never give up easily, "I really don't understand, obviously the two of them are still in love, why let go?" Tang Shiyong asked rhetorically, looking puzzled.
In her heart, love is unconditional tolerance and forgiveness, and a woman only needs to be gentle and considerate, and a man will not really abandon her.
What's even more worrying is that Tang Shiyong's mate selection criteria are simply outrageous. You see, the handsome ruffian in her eyes is often synonymous with a scumbag; The bad boy of the philistine is the embodiment of true love.
Friends advised her to stay away from such unserious men, but she scoffed - "I just like to choke enough, serious men are boring." Such a distorted view of love has made Tang Shiyong spend almost the past 40 years in beatings and reunions, but she has no intention of repenting.
Let's put it this way, Tang Shiyong probably didn't realize that this stunned view of love will be the biggest stumbling block in the second half of her life.
An intricate relationship history
At the beginning of the 21st century, Tang Shiyong, who was only in her early 20s, sparked love with the actor Yu Wenle in the youth idol drama "Youth @Y2K".
At that time, Tang Shiyong was simple and happy, and had a beautiful vision of love, until Yu Wenle empathized and said goodbye, she faintly felt that people's hearts were not ancient. The sudden death of her mother in 2009 made her even more prosperous, and she needed a person to rely on, so she chose tolerance and acquiescence.
"I firmly believe that as long as I am gentle and considerate enough, he will not leave me. Tang Shiyong comforted herself like this, and forgave the betrayal of the scumbag again and again.
In the following years, Hong Yongcheng appeared in Tang Shiyong's life. The two sparked love on the set of the costume fantasy drama "Carrying a Lover", and it didn't take long for them to return hand in hand.
However, this seemingly gentle man is also quite fancy, not only does he frequently go out to nightclubs to look for flowers and willows, but he is also photographed having ambiguous affairs with many women. Tang Shiyong still turned a blind eye, blindly believing that as long as she tolerated and spoiled in every way, this relationship could last for a long time.
There is no doubt that what tortured Tang Shiyong the most was the 9-year-long emotional kidnapping with Cui Jianbang. In 2005, the two met in the entertainment industry, and they came together naturally.
At the beginning, Tang Shiyong was convinced that this was the fairy tale version of the true love prince. She almost lifted Cui Jianbang to the clouds, obeyed her words, and the stars held the moon. However, the man's heart was soon exposed, and in 2006, his scandal with a model was exposed, and in 2009, he openly cheated in front of Tang Shiyong.
"We're all human and it's normal to make mistakes. Tang Shiyong took the trouble to excuse Cui Jianbang, just asking the other party to stay by his side. It wasn't until 2016, after repeated persuasion from friends, that she mustered up the courage to end the relationship that had tormented her for many years.
The root of low self-esteem
Every time she is asked why she always loves scumbags, Tang Shiyong is difficult to say. In fact, her psychological roots of obsessing with Sven scum are inseparable from her heartbreaking upbringing.
She has never enjoyed the warmth of family since she was a child. Her parents did not have a good relationship and finally chose to separate, which made her lose her yearning for home. The introverted Tang Shiyong was even ostracized by her classmates at school - the braces she wore for orthodontic dental problems became the target of public criticism.
This humility followed her until she got the opportunity at the age of 18, was discovered by the entertainment company scout, and joined the entertainment industry.
On the surface, everything seems to be fine, but behind the scenes, she is still burdened with heavy family debts. In order to earn more money to pay off her debts and resolve the family crisis, she had to work so hard that she devoted all her energy and time to her career.
Just when Tang Shiyong finally had some achievements and money, her mother died of illness in 2009, which made her even worse. Tang Shiyong, who was completely devastated, lost her last spiritual pillar, her world was shattered in an instant, and she was unable to stand on her own again.
It was the appearance of Cui Jianbang that allowed Tang Shiyong to survive on the edge of despair. He was always there for her, giving her hope. So she made up her mind to repay the man, even if he was amorous and reckless.
She would rather tolerate betrayal than part with him. Because it is so much needed to rely on, even if it is a wrong and painful one.
A crisis looms in a new relationship
Now, 40-year-old Tang Shiyong has a tender relationship with the male lead actor Wu Yunlong in the new drama "Iron Fist Hero". The relationship between the two has heated up rapidly, and the small actions of you and me have been constantly exposed, and they have become the "little close friends" of the crew.
Wu Yunlong has a leisurely temperament and treats people gently, so it is no wonder that Tang Shiyong is fascinated by him. However, friends are anxious in their eyes - this man's romantic history is also well-known in the circle.
As early as 2013, Wu Yunlong was cheated on by a real hammer, shopping intimately with a beautiful actress on the street, and his girlfriend was waiting for him to propose marriage. This is the end of this relationship.
Now, his ambiguity with Tang Shiyong has once again aroused concern from the outside world. The latter has obviously not yet recovered from the trauma of these years, and it is very likely that he will once again step into the strange circle of being played by scumbags.
"I don't need to be perfect, I just have to be genuine. Tang Shiyong said frankly, looking unswerving. We don't know for sure if the one she met this time was really the Son of Heaven, but she had to face up to the problems she had been avoiding – low self-esteem, dependence, Xi betrayal.
Only when you are truly independent can you be happy. Otherwise, she will only go further and further down the wrong path, and eventually lose herself and lose hope.
We are not sure what kind of ups and downs Tang Shiyong's emotional journey will go through, but we sincerely hope that she can find true love and happiness as soon as possible. When she is no longer dependent, when she learns to love herself, she will find that she has long since stood up and can carry the full weight of life.