#头条创作挑战赛#
Someone online asked:
"What is a person who is confident in his bones?"
A highly praised answer is:
"It's not because of appearance, it's not because of some kind of ability, it's because you don't rely on anything external, and you still believe that you are valuable. ”
Self-confidence is a positive psychological cue that can help you clear through difficulties and move firmly towards your goals.
Youshujun has compiled 10 real and effective small methods, collect them, and you will definitely be able to improve your confidence and become more attractive.
When you speak, look your eyes directly at the other person
Did you know that self-confidence can be performed?
Netizen @猫追whale shared an interview experience of herself.
"My back was sweating with tension, but I deliberately smiled and looked at the interviewer to get the opportunity.
Later, when I received the offer call, the other party smiled and said that it was because he saw the sincerity in my eyes. ”
There is a saying in psychology that 80% of a person's mental activity can be identified by the eyes of the eye.
Some people have a reserved personality, and when they look at others, they tend to blush, feel overwhelmed, always communicate with their heads down, or their eyes wander from side to side.
As everyone knows, this kind of lack of self-confidence is very restrictive in life.
At work, it is difficult to gain the trust of partners and miss many opportunities;
In dating, it is easy to expose personality shortcomings and let others handle them.
It is said that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and boldly looking directly is actually releasing a signal to the other party:
I'm fine, I can do it.
Keep track of your daily achievements
I always hear people complaining:
"It's so boring to repeat these trivial things every day. ”
Truly.
Life is just a step-by-step, dull and boring, but every day has its own meaning of existence.
Calm down, maybe you find that today is 1,000 steps more than yesterday, and the small goal of exercise is one step closer;
Maybe yesterday I was still complaining about the impossible PPT, but before I knew it, I had done most of it;
Maybe you suddenly realize that the old books that you have been hoarding for a long time have finally been turned to the first page......
Accumulate a lot, gather sand into a tower.
Keep track of the small changes that happen every day, keep breaking through yourself in ordinary days, and give yourself some timely and effective encouragement.
In the long run, you will find that you have taken a big step forward.
Learn a new skill
When you really don't know what to do, listen to:
Learn a new skill that will make an unexpected difference.
When Gu Ailing first came into contact with skiing, she was very unconfident.
As the only girl on the team, I don't know how to communicate with the boys, and I don't have any friends when I first arrive.
But when she learned a new skiing technique, the boys came to her and asked:
"Wow, how did you learn that?"
"How did you do that action?"
Skiing allowed Gu Ailing to quickly integrate into the collective, and also made her more and more confident in her dazzling results.
In fact, all of us are the same, in a completely unfamiliar field, it is inevitable to be intimidated.
As we understand things more comprehensively and continuously improve our added value, we will have more say.
Become more confident and more calm.
Pick a nice outfit
There is a saying on the Internet that when you are in a bad mood, shopping can make you happy.
For example, a beautiful dress can make you temporarily forget about negative emotions.
Mayer Musk, author of the best-selling book "Life by Me", has told about an experience of his own.
When she was a model, she was ridiculed for blindly imitating others and wearing clothes that didn't suit her, causing her to become less and less confident on stage.
Later, Meyer realized:
Clothes are for people, as long as it looks good and fits you, it's the best.
The beautiful clothes not only make her feel happy, but also bring out her powerful aura.
So, if you want to boost your self-confidence, you might as well start with a nice dress.
Refuse to be delicate and shameful, and love yourself well.
Smile often
I've seen such a conversation.
Someone asked a successful person:
"What's your secret to staying confident?"
The successful person smiled and said:
"Every day before I go out, I give myself a smile in the mirror.
Sticking to this Xi has always kept me confident. ”
Relevant studies have also confirmed that smiling can not only release the pleasure hormones in the body, but also make a person more assured.
Try to give yourself a smile when you encounter a problem again.
A smile may seem insignificant, but it can make a family feel warm, a colleague feel respected, and a stranger in a good mood for the day.
Most importantly, it will cheer you up.
The best state of life is the smile on the face and the confidence hidden in the heart.
Do what you're good at
Goethe once said:
"Everyone has innate talents, and when these talents are fully utilized, they can naturally bring him the ultimate happiness. ”
The vast majority of us are ordinary people.
You can't excel in everything without the ability to remember, but so what?
Not everyone is born with everything.
It's like you can't force a chef to drive a race car, or you can't force a calligrapher to write code.
The easiest way to boost your self-confidence is to do what you're good at.
Everyone has their own strengths, and only by amplifying the advantages and giving full play to them can we create greater value.
Walk with your head up and your chest up
Wahson, a pioneer of the behaviorist school of psychology, once proposed:
By observing a person's objective behavior, it is possible to judge his mental activities and mental processes.
For example, through the way a person walks, it is possible to discover his personality traits in reverse.
Under normal circumstances, people who walk with their heads up and their chests high are full of love for life, and they are more optimistic and confident;
And a hunched person is mostly prone to inferiority complex due to the influence of family background, appearance and other factors.
Some time ago, a girl posted a comparison video of her freshman year and her first year of graduate school.
Netizens exclaimed:
"It's changed so much, you can see it just by the way you walk!"
A person looks very confident = he is confident, a person looks inferior = he has low self-esteem.
Ordinary people want to enhance their aura and become "not easy to mess with", starting with taking a confident step.
Be positive about yourself and believe that you can do it
There is an expectancy effect in psychology that refers to:
In interpersonal communication, the abundant feelings and high expectations of one party can cause subtle and profound changes in the other party.
In short, when someone says that you are excellent, you will have psychological cues and become better.
In the movie "Forrest Gump", the reason why Forrest Gump went from a congenitally mentally retarded boy to God's favor all the way is inseparable from his mother's hints.
Mother never thought Forrest Gump was worse than others, but told him more than once:
"Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get. ”
With this encouragement, Forrest Gump also secretly planted the seeds of hope.
In the end, I harvested a full life.
Romain Rolland once said:
"Believe in yourself first, and then others will believe in you. ”
Believe in yourself, even if you may not succeed in the end, you can definitely become a strong person in life.
Learn to save money
George Orwell once said:
"Money is the shackles of freedom, and only by learning moderation can you truly have freedom. ”
Spending money doesn't require skill, but saving money is a skill.
Learning to save money brings you not only the ability to resist risks, but also the ability to control your life.
On the one hand, it can reduce material desires, spend money in more worthwhile places, and improve the quality of life.
On the other hand, if you have money in your pocket, you will not be at a loss in the face of illness and sudden changes.
The greatest dignity of an adult is to have money in his pocket and a bright face.
When you learn to control your budget and spend your money sparingly, you'll be able to save for the future with more confidence.
Be bold and bother others
Teacher Wu Zhihong pointed out in "Giant Baby Country":
"Many people are afraid of bothering others, but if they don't bother each other, they can't build relationships. ”
I think so.
People who lack confidence are especially afraid of hearing outside evaluations, so Xi habitually closes himself.
But in fact, no one can truly live as an island, alone without any links and supports.
The way to change this state is to go out into the crowd.
Only when we "have to" complete one thing independently and are coerced to rush forward, can we slowly regain our self-confidence in friendly eyes and life experience.
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Wilson, the 28th President of the United States, once said:
"Be confident and give it your all – if you have that mindset, you can do anything nine times out of ten. ”
A truly confident person does not necessarily have extraordinary courage and an enviable background, but focuses on the present and has firm beliefs.
Such a person, no matter what he does, can turn the small into the great, and the mediocre into the magical.
Light up the attention, may you find self-confidence, shine on the road of life, and create miracles.