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Nowadays, many people work hard, and even exhaust their life's work to be able to get more wealth, and the ultimate goal of most people to obtain wealth is nothing more than to live a happier and more stable life for themselves and their families.
Although it is true that the improvement of material life will improve people's happiness, the true happiness of a family is not limited to the material level.
You must know that some things are more important than money and materials, if they are missing, it is the real sorrow of a family, in this regard, Wang Zengqi, a master of Chinese studies, also gave his own opinions.
He said that the greatest sorrow of a family is not poverty, but that the children are over 40 years old, and they are still in these two situations, so what are the two situations mentioned in his sentence?
First of all, the first situation is that the children are still idle after the age of 40, and they do not have a career or job of their own, simply put, they are still living a life of gnawing at the old.
In fact, this situation is still relatively common nowadays, and the reason for this situation is not only the reason for the children, but also the parents have to bear the corresponding responsibility.
Many parents don't want their children to suffer too much, so they try their best to protect their children from education and beatings from society from childhood to adulthood.
Even when they grow up, they give their children financial support, and they are not in a hurry to ask their children to find a job that suits them or start a career.
Under this kind of doting, many children are naturally unwilling to bear too much pressure, and are not willing to go out into society to face complex interpersonal relationships, and over time they will become a member of the "gnawing old family".
For children, their parents are their backers, and they do not need to go outside to work hard because of their well-to-do background, and the wealth accumulated by their parents is enough for them to live for a lifetime.
But after staying in this comfort zone for too long, the idea of not wanting to make progress gradually goes deep into the heart, and for parents, their children are not willing to work hard, and they are really not good at forcing them, and some even directly choose to lie flat like their children and let them develop freely.
It's okay if you just have this kind of thinking when you're young, after all, everyone has the idea of being easy and disgusting, but if you still haven't changed in your 40s, then it's very likely that you will be sluggish in this life.
You must know that when people are in their thirties and forties, their personalities will be completely stereotyped, and it is difficult to change them if there are no accidents or major events.
If you continue to maintain this lazy and evasive character, you will not be able to achieve much in the future, and you will only slowly deplete the savings saved by your parents in the future.
However, after a hundred years of parents, such a person will lose his support, and he will not have enough ability to survive, and he will only be eliminated in the face of the changing times, and even the entire family will slowly decline.
The second situation is that the children have not married and had children after the age of 40, and many people do not want to get married, let alone have children.
The reason why I don't want to get married is because I have to face heavy financial pressures before and after marriage, such as having enough savings before marriage to buy a house, buy a car, and prepare a bride price or dowry.
Buying these things is definitely a lot of money, and even for many ordinary families, it takes their life savings to do it.
After getting married, the husband and wife will have to share the expenses of family life, and if they have children, they will also invest a lot of money in the education and growth of the children.
But for today's young people, they don't want to take on too much responsibility and life pressure like the older generation, so the idea of "no marriage" and "no child" has gradually become popular.
In the short term, not getting married and not having children can indeed make your life more comfortable, without complicated life chores, and with a lot less trouble.
But in the long run, this is not good for yourself and the whole family, you must know that when you are old, if you don't have your partner by your side, your later life is more lonely.
Many people may think that they can go to a nursing home to spend the rest of their lives, but they don't know that the nursing home may not be as good as we imagined, and it requires high costs.
Even if you can have a stable life in your later years, if you don't have children, you will lose the warmth of a family, especially if you can't experience the joy of family as the ancients said.
And for the family, if the children do not have children, it undoubtedly means that the family is dead, which is what we commonly call the "family".
After all, the continuation of a family is the most important, and from the perspective of the overall situation, the continuation of the family constitutes the continuation of the nation.
If the family fails to develop and grow, then the nation will slowly decline, which is not only the sorrow of the family, but the sorrow of the nation and the times.
What's more, having children and passing on the family line is an eternal law of nature, and if you violate this law, you will inevitably suffer backlash, so what do you think about this?
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