Statement|Huang Bin
Editor|Lao Yu
"Whether or not to pay medical insurance is my own business, and I use you to meddle in my affairs, now the whole village thinks that I can't afford it, so I can only rely on my younger brother to live. ”
Hello everyone, my name is Huang Bin and I am 40 years old this year.
It's already the end of the year, and in ten days, 2023 will also pass.
Since 2 months ago, the village has been urging the payment of rural medical insurance for 2024.
I have to say that the enthusiasm of the staff in the village is really high.
Start going door-to-door early to publicize, so that everyone should pay as soon as possible so as not to delay time.
Therefore, since November, the people in the village have begun to hand in one after another, and only some of the people who are working outside have not yet handed in.
Later, I found out that every three days, the staff in the village group would send out a form showing the list of villagers who had not yet paid their medical insurance.
Frankly, many people didn't panic about paying for health insurance at first, and it wasn't until this form came out that everyone's progress was a little faster.
After all, they are all people from small places, everyone has a good face, and they always feel that there are fewer and fewer people on the list, and they are left with nothing to pay, which is somewhat embarrassing.
From November until mid-December, there were fewer and fewer members on the form, and then there was a list of more than a dozen members.
And among these dozen people, 4 of them are my relatives.
The names of the eldest brother, sister-in-law, nephews and nieces are all on it.
Later, the uncle in charge of this matter in the village called me and asked me what was going on with my eldest brother, but I couldn't contact him, and his family had not paid medical insurance for three years.
In response to my uncle's question, I could only reluctantly say: Maybe my brother bought other medical insurance in other places, so this is not needed.
But even so, my uncle still urged me to contact my eldest brother and ask him to hand it in quickly.
After I hung up, I started to feel a little sad.
My eldest brother and sister-in-law are working outside and haven't been home for 3 years.
To be precise, the eldest brother has not been home for 8 years, and in the middle of the years, the eldest brother asked his sister-in-law to bring his nephews and nieces home for the New Year, and he stayed in the field alone.
The reason why I didn't go home was also very simple, it was because I didn't have money.
The eldest brother works as a master in the factory, and his monthly salary is not low, although he is the only one in the family who works, but he is frugal and can save some money in a year.
However, the eldest brother has a bad Xi, that is, he is addicted to gambling, unwilling to eat, unwilling to wear, and his hard-earned money is basically used to play cards and mahjong and lose.
Now it's 43, people of this age in my hometown have basically built new houses, only the eldest brother has achieved nothing, and he lives with his parents every year when he goes home.
It's also the eldest brother's life, even so, the sister-in-law is willing to follow him and give birth to a son and a daughter.
But in the past 3 years, the eldest brother has not returned home by himself, and even his sister-in-law and nephews and nieces have not returned.
My parents and I have called my eldest brother many times, but every time my sister-in-law answered us, my eldest brother never ignored us.
I once said to my eldest brother: I still have to go home for the New Year, if I have money or not, my family will not dislike going home for the New Year.
But the eldest brother is more sensitive and has a good face, so he has been like this since he was a child.
Every time we persuaded him, he was angry and said: Who said I don't have money, I just don't want to go home, what's wrong?
Over time, we don't dare to talk about him.
But this year is different, for many reasons, I still handed over the medical insurance for my eldest brother's family.
First of all, my father was worried about my eldest brother's family and discussed medical insurance with me.
My father asked my eldest brother what was the reason, could he not give up this money?
I didn't know how to answer, I just remained silent.
Later, my father said: I don't care about face or anything, and your eldest brother doesn't care about it himself. The main thing is that I'm afraid that if something happens, it will be troublesome if I can't be reimbursed.
My father didn't like to pay for medical insurance in the past, but since he had a minor illness last year, he spent some money and was successfully reimbursed, and he began to pay attention to it.
My father said that he was willing to give me money and let me pay for my eldest brother's family.
I waved my hand and said, don't rush first, I'll deal with it.
In addition to my father, my uncle in the village also approached me several times.
Because a few days ago, I found out that there are only three families in the village who have not paid, the eldest brother's family, and another family whose family is Lai, no one can help it, and the last one has moved to the city to live, and the specific situation is not clear.
Looking at the list of more than a dozen names above, I felt very uncomfortable.
No matter what, it's my eldest brother, and I, as a younger brother, must be very uncomfortable.
So a few days ago, I asked my father to give me the household registration booklet, and I used my mobile phone to help them pay one by one according to the ID numbers of my eldest brother's family above.
After I paid the fee, I took a screenshot and sent it to the village staff, asking them to send a new form and delete the names of my eldest brother's family of four.
Originally, this was a good thing, but my uncle had to send a message in a large group of nearly 500 people.
The uncle said to the eldest brother: Awen, you really have a good brother, look at you haven't been home for so many years, it was your brother Abin who helped your family's medical insurance to be paid, you have to thank others a lot.
After my uncle finished speaking, many people in the group praised our two brothers.
Uncle meant well, and everyone else meant it literally.
But for the big-faced brother, this is simply the biggest blow to him.
My eldest brother, who hadn't taken the initiative to call me for many years, came to call that night.
On the phone, the eldest brother said angrily: Did you help me pay medical insurance?
Me: Yes, I see that everyone has handed it over, and you may not have seen the information, so I handed it over for you first.
Big brother: I use you to pity me, do you think I don't have the money to pay, and I need you to help me.
Me: Brother, I didn't mean that, the main reason is that my father was worried about you and said that I would pay you the medical insurance, so that he would feel more at ease.
Big brother: You just do this, let my uncle deliberately say that you helped me pay it in front of so many people, it seems that you are very generous, I am stingy, right?
Now it's okay, the whole village thinks that I can't pay it, and I need your younger brother to help.
I just don't want to pay what's wrong, are you using this? Don't even discuss it with me.
Me: Brother, I really didn't mean that, the reason why my uncle said this is not malicious, including other people, it is just literal.
Everyone thinks that our two brothers are very united, and the family does not need to be so clear.
However, no matter what I say or how I explain it, my eldest brother still doesn't give up on the phone.
The eldest brother said that he would make up for me how much money he bought, and he didn't need my help, so I didn't have to make decisions for him.
The eldest brother was very angry that night, and in the end, I could only endure it and let him speak.
After hanging up, I suddenly felt so tired.
My eldest brother, he is not down-to-earth and motivated, and he has a very good face, he has to have money even if he has no money in his pocket, and he must be better than others in everything.
As a result, nothing has been accomplished so far, and people are embarrassed to go home.
As a younger brother, I sometimes want to help my brother, but I am always not understood, and I really don't know how to get along with my brother in the future.
At the end of the day, what do you think I should do?