Yang Jiang: If you can't get used to seeing a person, you don't need to turn your face, you don't need to speak out, you can resolve it by learning these three tricks
Living in this colorful and complex world, we will inevitably meet people who do not agree with our own personalities and concepts.
In the face of these "unaccustomed" people, how should we deal with them?
Ms. Yang Jiang, a well-known cultural scholar, gave wise advice, if you are not used to seeing a person, you don't have to compete with him, be a "transparent person", hide your edge, and stay away from right and wrong, you will win.
In this life, you will meet all kinds of people, and learning these three tricks is the most clever way to deal with the world.
First, do not fight, to retreat as advance
In the face of those people in life that we are not used to, first of all, we must learn to "not fight".
This is not to say that we have to abandon our principles, but rather a mental adjustment.
In many cases, instead of arguing with others, it is better to calm down and examine the essence of the problem.
When we choose "not fighting", we will naturally reduce the emotional burden from the other party, and at the same time give ourselves a buffer space.
Imagine that when you choose to back down in an argument, the other party is likely to gradually calm down because of the loss of the person you are arguing with.
This way, your relationship won't get too stiff because of a senseless argument that will lead to awkward meetings in the future.
Therefore, "indisputable" is not a sign of weakness, but a wise choice. Only by retreating can we better resolve contradictions and achieve the goal of harmonious coexistence.
2. Ignore it, silence is golden
Sometimes, we meet some people who like to stir up trouble and make trouble.
In the face of such people, we are easily influenced and thus involved in a war of words.
But in fact, in this case, the best coping strategy is to "ignore it".
Because many times, the other party's words and deeds are just to attract attention or vent emotions, if we choose to respond, it is equivalent to "adding drama" to the other party.
Silence is golden. When we choose to ignore it, the other person will often lose interest because they don't get the response we expect.
At the same time, silence is also a way of self-preservation, allowing us to avoid making irrational decisions under emotional impulses.
3. Don't be angry and let yourself go
In life, we will always encounter something infuriating. But anger often only causes us to lose our minds and do things that we regret.
Therefore, when facing people or things that we are not accustomed to, we must learn not to be angry. This is not to say that we have to swallow our anger, but we must learn to control our emotions and face problems with a calm mind.
Letting go of yourself is also a kind of wisdom.
Many times, our anger and resentment stem from our own inner struggles.
We always have high expectations of ourselves and others in our pursuit of perfection.
However, reality is always full of imperfections and regrets. If we can learn to accept these imperfections and regrets, and let go of our own and others' faults, then our hearts will become wider and more peaceful.
Ms. Yang Jiang's three tricks - "not fighting, not ignoring, not angry", is not only a wisdom of the world, but also an art of life.
When we learn to use these three tricks, we will find that many of life's troubles and conflicts will become less intractable. More importantly, we will gradually develop a tolerant and open-minded attitude to face the challenges of life.
By practicing the rule of "no argument, no reason, no anger", we will find that we can live more calmly, calmly and elegantly in this complex world.