Today I had a little conflict with my wife.
One night, I saw my wife cooking dinner for my father-in-law, and I suddenly felt strange, thinking to myself that he was alone at home, why didn't he cook his own food? I couldn't help but go over to my wife and ask her, she smiled and told me that my father-in-law was a little tired today and wanted to lie down in bed and rest.
I couldn't help but feel a little dissatisfied in my heart, feeling that my wife always let him in front of my father-in-law, and I didn't have any special care at home.
"When I heard my wife's answer, I was a little surprised, thinking how could she be so obedient to my father and always so willful to me.
At this moment, my wife suddenly turned around and walked up to me, and said softly: "Honey, do you understand? How can a home be called a complete home if even the parents can't take good care of it?" Her words made me fall silent, and I felt that I seemed to have deviated from the essence of life, and I realized that my wife's care and consideration for my father-in-law was not because I was not good enough for her, but because she had responsibilities and feelings for the family in her heart.
My wife's words made me reflect on it. I think of my attitude towards my wife on some issues, and maybe I should be more considerate and understanding, and give her more care and support.
While I was feeling guilty and reflecting, my wife had already brought dinner to the table and said to me with a smile, "Come and eat, I cooked your favorite braised pork."
Listening to my wife cook every dish for the family, I suddenly felt that this kind of life was actually perfect.
In this small family, the wife is undoubtedly the greatest. In her own way, she properly solves the needs of her family and makes our lives full of warmth and happiness.
Our lives are better under the careful care of our wives, but a small thing quietly creates contradictions in our daily lives.
Her parents, who live in the countryside, made this request because they wanted to get around the city. I was a little hesitant because I felt that the house was already full of people, and it would seem a little inconvenient to have two more.
After hearing this, his wife was silent for a while, and then said with a heavy expression: "They have worked hard all their lives, and now that they are old, it is not wrong to want to come to the city to go around."
The conflict in our family began to escalate slowly. I feel a little dissatisfied with my wife's request, I feel that she is always thinking about her own relatives, but she ignores the actual situation of our family.
In the days that followed, the relationship between me and my wife became a little strained. My wife, as usual, prepares all kinds of sumptuous dishes for my father-in-law and mother-in-law, while I feel more and more aggrieved and feel as if I have become an outsider in the family.
Driven by this emotion, I consciously began to distance myself from my wife, I communicated with her a lot less, and I always found something to keep busy after work.
This state of affairs makes our family atmosphere a little depressing, and indifference and dissatisfaction slowly permeate the whole family.
What should our relationship, our family, look like?
When the wife properly solves the needs of her father-in-law and the family is more harmonious, a small conflict suddenly occurs.
I immediately quickened my pace and rushed to the house. My wife was nervously packing her bags, and I went over to inquire about the situation.
For the next few days, we were busy taking care of my father-in-law. My wife is busy with work during the day, and when she comes home at night, she has to take care of her father-in-law, and I try my best to share the housework at home, but I am really tired after work.
One day, I couldn't help but lose my temper with my wife: "Why do you always take care of him so much, obviously he has me, why don't you let me take care of him?"
"My wife's words made me regret a little, and I understood her distress, but I still couldn't help the complaint in my heart.
My wife ignored me and was silently busy. At night, my wife and I stayed at my father-in-law's bedside.
He has given so much for us, but now he needs our care. I gently shook my wife's hand and said, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have lost my temper, even if you take care of my father, I will do my best to share the housework."
When I left the hospital and returned home, a wave of warmth filled the whole home. Although there are still some contradictions and disputes, we understand that only by mutual understanding and tolerance can families become more harmonious.
That night, as our family was sitting at the table enjoying a delicious dinner, the atmosphere suddenly became a little tense. Suddenly, the father-in-law began to complain, saying that the dish was salty, that dish was not hot enough, and some words rudely accused his wife of not cooking well enough.
I asked my father-in-law a little irritably: "You are always picky about your son's wife, she has worked hard to cook for you, can't you be more considerate?"
In such an atmosphere, the atmosphere around the table was unusually awkward, and I began to feel a bit of a headache.
After eating, the wife took the water and tried to ease the atmosphere and asked her father-in-law if he needed anything. The father-in-law shook his head, still complaining.
We picked up the dishes together, and I whispered to my wife, "Don't take it too seriously, Dad may be a little uncomfortable these days, and it will be fine."
And the father-in-law was still chattering angrily. For a while, the atmosphere at home became a little depressing.
Back in the bedroom, we worked together to tidy up the table. My wife suddenly said to me, "He's been getting harder and harder lately, he's always picky about what I cook, and I'm really tired."
Seeing my wife like this, I also felt very uncomfortable. I gently hugged her and said comfortingly, "Don't be sad, I'll talk to him well, and this kind of emotion shouldn't affect us."
At this moment, I realized that it was not her responsibility alone.
I decided to get something to settle this problem, otherwise it would not only be my wife who would have collapsed, but it would have affected everyone's lives.
We decided to go to the hospital early tomorrow morning to give my father-in-law a comprehensive physical examination. Presumably, it was because of some physical problems that he became more irritable and picky.
Thinking of this, the boredom in my heart gradually dissipated a little.
As the night wore on, my wife and I fell asleep. On this quiet night, I silently prayed for our family, hoping that everything would end well tomorrow.
My wife's thoughtfulness taught me a profound lesson and made me pay more attention to her dedication in the family.
And she was very happy because of my change. However, a conflict over the issue of children's education once again caused a dispute between us.
One day, the child's test results were not satisfactory, and the wife wanted to let the child concentrate on Xi after dinner, and I thought that the child was nervous about the exam, and he should be given time to relax and not be too nervous.
My wife thinks it is important for children to know the importance of Xi, and I think children need appropriate breaks.
"You've always been too lenient with your children, and today's children are not as easy to teach as they used to be. My wife blamed me and said.
"But you can't always put pressure on them, and proper rest is necessary. Not to be outdone, I responded.
"Don't quarrel, I don't want to learn Xi. The child interjected with some discouragement.
This quarrel strained the relationship between me and my wife. Looking back, I realize that we seem to have lost communication with each other.
I was disappointed that every member of the family became nervous, and the original warmth seemed to be shattered in an instant.
My wife looked at the child's gloomy expression and then at me. She sighed and said, "Maybe we've all gone too far, we should sit down and discuss how to help our children learn Xi better, instead of arguing."
I nodded in agreement. The wife continued: "We should work together to educate our child in a better way and give him more love and support."
"It's true that blind quarrels won't solve the problem, but through mutual understanding and tolerance, we will definitely be able to overcome this difficulty.
My wife clasped my hand and smiled and nodded. We tacitly glanced at the child, and he seemed to sense the change between us as well, and smiled brightly.
It is a process of continuous learning and Xi adjustment, and we believe that if we work together, the family will be able to become harmonious again.
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