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My name is Liu Yulan, I am from the countryside of Zhengzhou, Henan Province, and I am 65 years old this year. I have a son named Li Guoqiang, who has finally got his own house in the city after working in Beijing for many years. As a mother, I am extremely happy and proud of him.
I have always looked forward to the day when I can go to Beijing to live in a new house for a while, help take care of my grandson, and live after my son bought a new house. Who knows that my daughter-in-law Li Fengzhi refuses to live or die, and always prevaricates me for various reasons. I knew what she was thinking, and I was worried that my old mother would disturb their young life. Of course, I was not happy in my heart, and felt that my daughter-in-law was too unreasonable to thwart my wish to see my grandson.
I packed my bags and boarded the train to Beijing overnight. I thought that this time I would help them take care of the housework, so that the daughter-in-law would have no worries and concentrate on working to earn money.
When I arrived in Beijing, I was amazed by my son's new home. The community has a beautiful environment, the house is spacious and bright, and the furniture and electrical appliances are readily available. I was so excited that I patted my son on the back: "Our son is so capable! In the future, my mother will live here, accompany our precious grandson every day, and never have to go back to the broken old house in Zhengzhou!"
I started helping with the cooking and laundry, and I also took my grandson to kindergarten every day. But the child is too naughty, my old body can't keep up, and I am often played around by him. As soon as I got home, I was so tired that I was panting, and Li Fengzhi was still looking at me coldly. I think my daughter must not be happy in her heart, and I thought that I should work harder, so I should live in her house.
So I started earlier and prepared breakfast in the kitchen. After cooking, I also cleaned the house. Li Fengzhi went home and saw the clean room, and her face really softened. I worked harder to serve both mother and son, hoping that my daughter's impression of me would improve.
In this way, I lived at my son's house in Beijing for more than half a month, and lived a cautious life aggrievedly. I deliberately shrank myself like a bird, for fear of annoying my daughter-in-law. But Li Fengzhi still often speaks coldly, looking like she can't wait for me to leave quickly. I was so aggrieved that I held my breath every day.
One day, a letter came from my hometown saying that my cousin and sister were coming to Beijing on a business trip and wanted to stay here for two days. I was so happy, I hadn't seen these folks for a long time, and I said I wanted them to come. Who knew that as soon as Li Fengzhi came back and heard it, his face immediately sank, but he didn't directly object, just snorted coldly on the side. I guess she must be unhappy in her heart, but she is too embarrassed to say no for the sake of face.
Two days later, my cousin came, a family of six. I was busy arranging the room and excitedly entertaining them for food and lodging. Li Fengzhi ignored people, so I had to serve everyone harder, hoping that she would be angry.
My cousin stayed here for a week, and it was a good time. Drinking and playing cards every day, it's not happy. I was also very happy, chatting with them about the interesting things about my hometown and the current situation of the children. Li Fengzhi locked herself in her room all day long, looking unhappy.
Later, when my cousin left, I called a few more old neighbors. I warmly entertained them for food and accommodation, but Li Fengzhi's face became more and more ugly. I thought to myself, maybe my daughter is because there are too many guests, the house is too noisy, she has a quiet temperament, and she must not be able to stand it.
On this day, she went out to work during the day, and I took the opportunity to invite a few more relatives to prepare a good meal for them. I hurriedly explained that my relatives had just arrived, but my daughter had already burst into a rage and yelled at me on the spot.
I was startled by her, and the bowl in my hand fell to the ground and shattered. My daughter pointed at me and scolded me, saying that I was not as good as a pig and a dog, and that she had had enough of the miasma of sending relatives from the countryside to her house all day long! I was so frightened that I trembled and begged her to dissipate her anger, saying that I would never dare again. My daughter didn't listen, so she threw all my luggage out, and took back my keys in front of all my relatives, telling me to get out immediately and stop ruining her home!
I couldn't cry outside the door, my heart was like a knife, and I was extremely aggrieved. Cousins and neighbors left in embarrassment, and I sat alone on my suitcase sobbing.
Thinking of the way my daughter pointed at me and scolded me just now, I was very heartbroken. Maybe she was angry when she said it, and I thought that in a few days I would get better and come back to talk to my daughter.
But as the days passed, my daughter did cut off contact with me like an earth-shattering shock. I called her and cried, and she hung up; I begged my sister and sister to intercede, but she didn't listen to a word. My heart is like ashes, and I can't sleep at night because of my grievances.
I listened like a bolt from the blue, filled with remorse. I think that in the past half a month, I have often hidden from my daughter to invite guests and disturb the people, and I have come and gone freely as if her house was my own inn. Thinking of the red circles in my daughter's eyes when she angrily accused me, I suddenly came to my senses.
It turns out that in my daughter's heart, I am an uninvited guest without a tutor. Since I've come, her life has really been disrupted by me. I only cared about my own happiness, but I didn't think about my daughter's feelings at all. She endured and endured, and I didn't even know it until the day she broke out, and I didn't know how much she hated me!
Thinking of this, my heart aches like wrench, and tears rain down. I finally realized how much I owe my daughter a mother's love, and how selfish and ignorant I am as a mother!
From that day on, I waited all day and all night at the gate of the community, hoping to see my daughter. I decided to confess my mistakes to her, no matter what the cost. I'm a sinner in this family, and I'm going to get my daughter to forgive me!
A week passed, and my daughter finally appeared. When I saw her coming home from work with a tired face, my heart was in a mess, and I mustered up the courage to rush forward, crying and calling my daughter's name and saying that I wanted to talk to her. Unexpectedly, my daughter shook off my hand with a cold face and walked into the house without looking back. I knew it was my last chance, and I knelt down in front of her in desperation, shouting sorry.
My daughter looked at me warily, her eyes full of disgust. I fell on my knees and wept and confessed my sins to her.
At this point, I choked up and couldn't speak. My daughter looked at me steadily, her expression finally softening. After a long time, she sighed and said, "Mom, I forgive you, get up." It's just, I really need time and space. What you're doing is hard for me to accept, and I need to calm down. ”
After hearing this, I excitedly hugged my daughter's leg and refused to get up at all. My daughter reluctantly helped me up, saying that we still need to re-establish trust between mother and daughter, but it will take a process. I promised repeatedly, saying that I would listen to my daughter in the future and no longer make my own decisions.
From that day on, I began to silently help my daughter in front of her house. Every morning, I wake up early in the morning and sweep the doorways and stairwells. In the evening, when my daughter came home from work, her expression softened significantly when she saw the clean environment. Sometimes she would give me some leftovers, and I would take them gratefully, feeling like my daughter was re-embracing me.
From that day on, I went back to my daughter's house. I was cautious, for fear of upsetting my daughter again. My daughter is no longer distant from me, and sometimes when she is busy with work, she will also give me some household chores. I was so happy that I tried to find a way to solve her problems.
As the days passed, the relationship between our mother and daughter got better and better. Sometimes my daughter would complain about the hard work when she came back from work, and I always listened patiently while giving her a beating on the back. One day, my daughter suddenly said to me, "Mom, I'm sorry, I didn't deserve to have said such a heavy thing to scold you." I hugged her excitedly and said, "Silly daughter, that's all my fault, don't mention it again!"
Since then, my relationship with my daughter has gotten better and better. I no longer make my own decisions, but take care of the lives of my daughter and grandchildren wholeheartedly.
I wake up at 5 a.m. every morning, tidy up the house, and make breakfast. Daughters and grandchildren wake up and have hot meals. After breakfast, I dropped my grandson off at school and then went to the market to buy groceries to make sure the day's meals were well prepared.
At noon, I cook lunch and pick up my grandson from school. In the afternoon, I helped my grandson with his homework, taught him literacy, and patiently answered his questions. If my grandson behaves well, I will give him some small compliments.
In the evening, I prepare dinner. When my daughter comes back from work, she can smell the aroma of the food as soon as she opens the door, and she will have a happy expression on her face. After dinner, I took the initiative to clean up the kitchen and then play with my grandson so that my daughter could rest.
On weekends, I take my grandson out to the park, playground, etc., so that my daughter can rest comfortably at home for two days.
Sometimes my daughter comes home late from overtime, and I always make hot water in advance, so that she can take a hot shower as soon as she comes back. If I see my daughter looking tired, I will take the initiative to massage her and help her relax.
I became more and more able to take care of the house, and I became more and more comfortable taking care of my grandchildren. My daughter was visibly happy to see me like this. Sometimes she would take the initiative to chat with me and tell me about the details of her work. I learned that my daughter was working very hard and that she needed the support and understanding of her family. This made me work harder to help her share the household chores and solve problems.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, I have been living at my daughter's house for two years. My daughter's career has made great progress, and my relationship with my grandson has become very close.
One day, my daughter suddenly said to me, "Mom, I want to say thank you to you." In the past two years, I have really caused you a lot of trouble, and I always say that you are not good. But you still take care of us so patiently, I really appreciate it. ”
I was very moved, and my daughter's words were the best reward for my efforts in the past two years. I said from the bottom of my heart: "Silly daughter, Mom is my greatest happiness to see you grow up healthy and happy." In the future, no matter what, I will continue to support you and take care of you. ”
The daughter also shed tears of emotion. At this moment, I knew that my daughter had truly accepted me, and the gap between us had finally been bridged. From now on, I will always accompany my daughter's family, and the future will definitely get better and better!
As time went on, my relationship with my daughter grew stronger.
My grandson has grown up and is now in elementary school. Every day I personally dropped him off at school and then went home to start the busy day. At noon, I would go to the school gate and wait for my grandson to get out of school, carrying a hot lunch in my hand, and then accompany him home to do his homework.
His grandson's grades are excellent, and his teachers praise him for being smart and sensible. Whenever a teacher praises my grandson, I feel very proud. I will also reward my grandson extra to make him happy.
I do my best to take care of my grandson so that he can grow up happily. My daughter was also very happy to see this, and she said that her grandson is now much more lively and cheerful, thanks to my companionship and teaching. I just smiled lightly and thought that my greatest pleasure was that my family was happy.
My daughter's career is also thriving, and she has been promoted to become a department manager. When I think about my daughter's respect in the company, I feel extremely proud. To that end, I learned to cook a few of my daughter's favorite dishes to surprise her on her birthday.
When my daughter came home on her birthday, she was so excited that she hugged me and cried when she saw the table full of delicacies and the birthday card I wrote. She said it was the warmest birthday she's had in so many years. I also shed tears of emotion. At this moment, I truly felt my daughter's love for me.
It is true that we have had misunderstandings and gloom. But after the precipitation of time, the friendship between mother and daughter will eventually last. I am grateful that life has given us the opportunity to understand each other anew. There is still a long way to go, and I will always be with this family and spend quality time with my daughter.