Hello everyone, I'm Mom.
Recently, I was shocked by a 5-year-old child, because under the leadership of his grandmother, he got up on time at 5:30 every day, read a book for 10 minutes, and then started running, running 2 to 3 kilometers a day, and they persisted in this thing for 552 days, and never stopped, that is, almost 2 years.
As shown in the picture, the child can be seen to have grown taller, and the grandmother said that his physique has improved a lot.
What is this concept, first of all, let an adult get up at 5:30 every day, how many can be done, I'm afraid 80% of adults can't do it, let alone for a child who is still in the age of lethargy.
But Mom belongs to the kind of person whose execution and self-control are okay, but I can't get up at 5:30 every day, unless there is an emergency. There was a time when I was planning to lose weight and gave myself a 30-minute exercise a day, which was the kind of person who didn't need to go out and exercise at home, but I gave up after a week. Later, I didn't hold on.
But this kid not only did he get up at 5:30 every day for 552 days, but he also insisted on running, and I believe that if he kept going, he would be a very amazing person.
Some people will say that children's self-discipline is nothing more than forced by their parents. This statement is true and incorrect.
It is right because at the beginning of his self-discipline needs the supervision and guidance of his parents, after all, it is impossible to run alone without an adult accompanying the child, and he will give up because of a trace of lazy thoughts in the process.
Therefore, parents are the enlighteners on the road of self-discipline for their children.
For example, the little boy has been running with his grandmother, which shows that his grandmother is also a very self-disciplined person, and she can get up at 5:30 every day for 552 days to wake up the child, and this alone has thrown off a lot of young people. Grandma is influencing her grandson with her practical actions.
Therefore, family members are the guides and companions of children's self-discipline.
It is wrong to say that it is because of a child's self-discipline, and it is useless to rely only on parental coercion and threats. Because it requires firm determination and perseverance, as well as a clear understanding of the goal and perseverance.
If you don't want to do it and don't want to cooperate, your parents can't do it. After being guided by their parents, they gradually develop the Xi of self-discipline, so this behavior becomes a spontaneous internal behavior that will motivate them to overcome setbacks and difficulties in the future.
We know that most of the top students are very self-disciplined, they can take the initiative to write homework, read, and exercise, and they don't need their parents to follow their parents to supervise them. On the contrary, every time I write my homework, I need my parents to urge, shout, and scold, and I am still grinding in the process, and the quality of the completion is not good.
What separates the scumbag and the top student is not the "IQ" gap, but the gap between self-discipline. But my mother has seen a lot of scumbags who suddenly woke up and became self-disciplined and counterattacked into school tyrants, so if you want to succeed on your own, you must first force yourself to be self-disciplined.
Kant said: The so-called freedom is not to do as you like, but to be self-mastered. Because it is not the self-discipline that leads to success, but the self-discipline that leads to success.
How did a 5-year-old child become so self-disciplined?
Many parents praise their children for being excellent and self-disciplined, but they forget that parents are the best teachers for their children. If you want your child to learn Xi initiative and improve his grades, the first step is to make him a person who can control himself.
1. Parents change themselves first
Of course, it is not easy to do this, so parents should be good role models.
If you love to read and often read in front of your children, your child will most likely become a person who loves to read, if you love to draw and often draw at home, your child will slowly become a person who loves to draw, if you exercise every day, after a long time, your child will become a person who loves to move. Therefore, if you want your child to be self-disciplined, the first thing parents need to do is to change themselves.
If you ask your child to get up at 6 o'clock every day, can you get up at 6 o'clock, do you ask your child to exercise every day, and whether you can exercise every day. Most parents can't do it, but they want their children to do it.
Many parents use scolding, sarcasm, sarcasm and other words when their children are unwilling to learn Xi write homework, but do not reflect on why they are unwilling to take the initiative to learn, is their own method wrong?
2. Help children make plans and summarize experience
Most parents understand that children are inert, and many Xi habits need to be assisted by parents at the beginning, and we can help to make homework plans, reading plans, Xi plans, and so on.
For example, let him say how long he can finish his homework, although what he says may not be reliable, we can help correct it on that basis, instead of parents directly deciding how long he can finish it, the current situation of most parents is to directly stipulate what time the child finishes homework, reads, goes to bed, etc. The child is like a "robot", following the steps. In this process, he is passive, lacks self-discipline, and belongs to other disciplines.
The child's plan at the beginning may be ridiculous and unrealistic, for example, at first he thinks that he can write in 1 hour, and after practicing it, he finds that this time is not enough, you can modify the homework plan together, until the child finds the correct method and time to write homework in the process of practice, this process may be tortuous and time-consuming, but the whole process is the child's own decision, his own consequences, which belongs to self-discipline, not other discipline.
3. Involve the child in decision-making and give him autonomy
Everyone wants to do things according to their own plan, so children don't like their parents to set what time to do for themselves, such as letting him plan by himself in the process, no need to supervise, and write high-quality homework. There is a reward for doing it, and that can mobilize the child's initiative.
A mother of a Peking University bully once said that she never urged her children to write homework, and in the first grade of primary school, children were often punished by teachers for not finishing their homework, and then he took the initiative to make plans for himself, such as going home every day to write homework first, and then to play, and then developed a Xi, and his grades began to rise sharply.
4. Imitate the effect and create an atmosphere
If you want your child to become self-disciplined and develop good Xi, you can compete as a family, such as when you read a story to tell you, and your child finishes writing homework to correct everyone's mistakes, such interesting games make children happy.
In short, if you want your child to be self-disciplined, it is not something that can be practiced overnight, parents should be prepared for the long term, and at the same time be a good example themselves.