Yesterday I attended my brother-in-law's wedding, and as a son-in-law, I was under the pressure of an annual salary of 300,000 yuan, and I had to take my wife to give my brother-in-law a gift. I handed over the 200 New Year's money to my mother-in-law, but I didn't expect her to throw it away.
"Mom, how can you throw away the money?" I asked my mother-in-law angrily.
"Oh, isn't it 200 dollars, little meaning!" replied the mother-in-law disdainfully.
"But it's a piece of our heart! you can't just throw it away. "I'm still angry.
"Big man, like a stingy ghost, he has no grace at all. My mother-in-law looked at me and pouted her lips disdainfully.
I'm really angry and upset, it's not just a matter of 200 yuan, it's disrespectful to me and my wife. But at this time, relatives came to congratulate us one after another, and I had to endure it.
When I arrived at the banquet, I watched my brother-in-law happily drinking the wedding wine, and my heart was actually a little sour. I remembered that when I got married to my wife, my mother-in-law used to not treat me, thinking that my annual salary of 300,000 yuan was not enough, and I always felt that I was not worthy of her daughter. I couldn't help but feel helpless and aggrieved in my mind.
"Husband, don't think too much, today is a festive day, just act as if nothing happened, forget it. My wife patted my hand gently, but I knew she must be feeling bad too. But there is no way, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, who called us sons-in-law.
After the feast, we went back to my mother-in-law's house. I was about to rest when my mother-in-law suddenly called me out into the yard.
"Come here, a bunch of beggars!" the mother-in-law suddenly shouted loudly to the crowd in the courtyard.
I hurriedly walked to the yard with my wife and saw that it was a group of beggars begging for food at the door. I was a little stunned, I didn't expect my mother-in-law to treat others in such a way.
"Mom, they are also people in difficulty, and they shouldn't be treated this way. I persuaded with some reluctance.
"Difficult?, they are all a bunch of lazy people, who make a living by begging for food, and they are simply the scum of society!" replied the mother-in-law disapprovingly.
I was so uncomfortable with my mother-in-law's attitude that I didn't know what to say, so I had to help my wife back to the room.
Back in my room, I sat on the edge of the bed and sighed. I knew that my mother-in-law had always been short-tempered, but I didn't expect her to have such an attitude towards these beggars.
My wife looked at me and said distressedly, "They may really have no way out, we can't understand their situation." ”
I nodded, and my phone rang. I looked at it, and it was a text message from my brother-in-law's bride, my little one: "Thank you for the gift, we received it." ”
After reading the text message, the unhappiness in my heart gradually dissipated. No matter what my mother-in-law treats my wife and me, we still hope that my brother-in-law can be happy. This is a family affection that cannot be erased.
I lay quietly on the bed, thinking about everything about the day, and my mood gradually calmed down. I know that all these conflicts will not go away, but after all, the conflicts between families will take time to resolve slowly. Hopefully, in the future, we will be able to find a better way to get along.
Early the next morning, my wife and I were ready to leave my mother-in-law's house to go to work. Just as we were about to go out, my mother-in-law suddenly rushed out.
"Wait a minute, don't go yet!" said my mother-in-law to us with a nervous expression.
"What's the matter, Mom?" asked the wife, a little surprised.
"Some of the dishes and chopsticks from yesterday's wedding were not cleaned up, you should go and help!" my mother-in-law ordered us, pointing to the pool in the courtyard.
I felt aggrieved for a while, it was not the first time that my mother-in-law treated my wife and me like this, but this time may be the last straw for us. I wanted to lose my temper, but I put up with it because I didn't want to make it difficult for my wife.
"Okay, Mom, let's clean up. My wife replied helplessly, and we had to go to the yard and start sorting the dishes and chopsticks.
At this time, my mother-in-law suddenly threw a basket full of garbage bags at our feet.
"Go and throw away the garbage!" my mother-in-law told us again.
I looked at the garbage basket and felt a little angry. My wife and I are both office workers, and my mother-in-law won't let us go to help and blame us for being lazy, which is really laughable.
I endured the grievances in my heart and walked out the door with the garbage basket. At the door, I saw the beggars begging for food last night. They were rummaging through a trash can not far away.
My heart moved, and I crouched down and began to quietly empty the garbage from the basket into the trash can. The beggars saw us, nodded at me, bowed slightly, and hurried away.
When I got back to the room, my wife saw what was wrong with me and asked, "What's wrong with you?"
I blurted out and told my wife about the situation. After hearing this, my wife's eyes lit up a little.
She said to me, "Why don't we give the leftover wine from these snacks to those who need it?" ”
I was stunned, I didn't expect my wife to have such an idea, but after thinking about it, this may be able to resolve the unhappiness in our hearts.
We quietly packed our drinks and snacks and left my mother-in-law's house. When I came to the garbage can, I saw the beggars from last night, still searching for food.
My wife and I placed the food next to them, and they looked at us in amazement, but then smiled gratefully. At this time, I saw a coin in the hand of the beggar who nodded last night, did I put it in last night?
"Thank you, big brother, big sister. A slightly old beggar said to us, and I had to signal that you were not welcome, and we took our leave.
Back at my mother-in-law's house, we cleaned the dishes and chopsticks in the yard, but our mood was no longer the same. In this conflicted family, my wife and I found a rare trace of warmth. Maybe that's the sustenance of our hearts.
Spiritual sustenance, thinking of this, I feel a little tired. But in the face of these conflicts in the family, I know that this is just the beginning. We need more time and patience to make this all better. Hopefully, we can all grow and find real solutions to problems.
The next morning, my wife and I were ready to leave my mother-in-law's house, and when we were about to say goodbye, my mother-in-law suddenly walked out with several large packages.
"These are old clothes, shoes, and quilts, and you should take them home and give them to these beggars, so that they may have food and clothing. The mother-in-law explained with a serious face.
My wife and I looked at each other and were a little surprised. After all, my mother-in-law's attitude towards beggars was quite resolute.
"Mom, why did you suddenly ......?" asked my wife, who was a little surprised.
"Hmph, although I have a tough attitude towards them, I also know that it is not easy to be a human being. These old things are what I have usually saved, so you can bring them back and give them food and clothing. After the mother-in-law finished speaking, she walked away.
My wife and I looked at each other and were both touched by the sudden change in my mother-in-law. Perhaps, we did have some biased views of her before. Perhaps, she still has a kind heart in her heart.
"Husband, maybe we should really have a good communication with her. My wife whispered to me.
"Well, maybe it's time. I smiled slightly, and a stone in my heart seemed to be put down.
Back home, I kept thinking about the reason for my mother-in-law's sudden change of attitude. Was there some turning point in yesterday's incident? I wondered about my mother-in-law's state of mind and tried to find a way to get along.
A few days later, we went to my mother-in-law's house and wanted to talk to her. My mother-in-law happened to have tea ready and invited us to sit down.
"Mom, I actually always think that you are a little prejudiced against me and my husband, and we have endured it all these years. But this time, you suddenly changed your attitude, is it because of yesterday's incident?" the wife broke the silence and inquired cautiously.
The mother-in-law frowned, was silent for a while, and finally spoke slowly: "I saw the scenes at my brother-in-law's wedding yesterday, and when I saw their happy appearance, I suddenly realized that the choice of young people is not something I can control. Seeing you smiling as happily as my brother-in-law, I don't want to block you anymore. ”
My wife and I were stunned, and we didn't expect that my mother-in-law would also suffer such a contradiction in her heart. Perhaps, our previous opinion of her was too shallow. In the face of my mother-in-law's honesty, we were a little unable to speak.
"Perhaps, it's time for us all to adjust our mentality. The mother-in-law's voice trembled a little, but it was full of determination.
In the face of my mother-in-law's changes, my wife and I also felt that the boulder in our hearts had finally been put down. Perhaps, this is a new beginning, a hopeful beginning. We decided that in the future we would care more about our mother-in-law than simply endure it.
Back home, my wife and I feel much more relaxed. We have finally found a way to alleviate the conflict, and we hope that we can understand and tolerate each other like a real family in the future. The warmth of the family always lies in everyone's hard work.
In the days that followed, my mother-in-law and I struggled to adjust our mindsets and try to understand each other. After all, the resolution of family conflicts requires everyone's efforts and time to precipitate.
And we also hope that one day, maybe one day, we can truly become a harmonious and warm family.
In a hurry to get to work, I hurriedly said goodbye to my wife and mother-in-law. On the way, I still couldn't help but think of the scene last night, especially my mother-in-law's attitude towards beggars, which made me feel uneasy. This made me start to reflect on our family relationship, whether the conflict between us was superficial or not.
When I was at work, I received a call from my wife, and her voice was a little anxious: "Husband, today my mother suddenly proposed to me to resign and teach my husband and children at home." ”
I was taken aback by the news, and I knew that my wife had always been a very ambitious person and the main source of income for our family. When I heard the news, I knew she was probably very reluctant. So I hurriedly comforted her: "Don't worry, let's see the situation first." Let's discuss. ”
When I hung up the phone, I hesitated. I know that my wife has always been very filial, and I hope to be able to take care of my mother-in-law's emotions, but I don't want her to sacrifice her career for this matter. The contradictions of family trivialities gradually became a mountain.
When I returned home in the evening, I saw my wife and mother-in-law arguing with red faces.
"I just hope you can follow me and go home to your husband and children!" said the mother-in-law aggressively.
"Mom, I understand what you mean, but the fact is that the family needs two people to support them financially, and I feel that my work is also very rewarding now. The wife replied firmly.
"What's the point? I always feel like you've forgotten your family responsibilities!" the mother-in-law still refused.
Seeing their quarrel gave me a headache. These contradictions piled up, and it made me feel like the whole family was enveloped by invisible pressures. But I knew that I couldn't sit idly by, and I had to ease the family conflict.
In order to prevent the atmosphere from continuing to deteriorate, I walked among them and said cautiously: "Mom, wife, you may have your own considerations, but we must communicate well with each other, and don't let these trivial matters affect our family relationship. ”
"Hey, why didn't you say it earlier? What you said makes sense, our family must be harmonious. The mother-in-law also slowly regained some of her senses.
"Well, we'll communicate well and find a better balance. The wife also nodded in agreement.
I was secretly relieved to see that they said they wanted to communicate well. But I also know that we can't solve all the problems within the family by relying on us alone. Families need to be reconciled as a whole, and conflicts need to be resolved. All this will take time and effort, and it will take each of us to adjust and change gradually. However, I believe that if we work together, we will find a better solution.
I know it's going to be a long battle, and I'm determined to face and overcome it with my family.
Throughout after the wedding, I was so busy with work that I rarely had time to go home. But whenever I come home, there is always an atmosphere of tension and silence in the house. My mother-in-law's hostility towards me has not diminished, and she is always critical of my words and actions, which makes me feel stressed. My wife complained that I wasn't at home, and the conflict between us deepened. Every slight movement in the family is enveloped in tension, which makes me feel exhausted.
"Why are you always away from home for so long and don't even have time to go home?" my wife blamed me.
"It's too busy at work, you should understand. I tried to explain.
"Do you think that work is more important than home?" the wife refused.
"If you quarrel again, I'll be here alone. The mother-in-law suddenly interjected.
"You take care of your own affairs, you don't have to take care of our housework!" the wife blamed her mother-in-law.
"Look at it, you will know that it is intimidating!" The mother-in-law suddenly became angry.
I hurriedly played a round: "Mom, don't be like her. ”
"You're still speaking for her, it seems that you're really following her heart. The mother-in-law had a complicated tone.
I was frustrated by my mother-in-law's words, but I also knew that the atmosphere in the house had to be defused. Such tension is not good for everyone. I wanted to ease the tension with a family activity.
"Let's play a game and maybe relax. "I tried to propose.
"Game, you think this will solve the problem?" the mother-in-law retorted.
"Mom, in fact, the son-in-law is also to ease the atmosphere at home, you can try. "My wife also expressed her support for me.
I pulled out a chess game from the bookshelf and prepared to invite my family to play the next game. But my mother-in-law seemed uninterested and rejected my suggestion. And my wife also looked at us coldly.
"Forget it, what's so hard for you to take a step back?" I persuaded.
However, as soon as the words fell, the mother-in-law suddenly picked up a glass of water, poured it on the chessboard, splashed the water stains all over the ground, and then walked out of the house in a rage.
I froze in place, helpless. In the face of conflicts at home, I felt powerless. I hope that the conflicts and estrangement between families can be resolved slowly, but the reality has troubled me a lot.
My wife looked at me and whispered, "Maybe when we try to resolve these conflicts, we make them more complicated." Perhaps, it is those happy moments that should be remembered and cherished, even if they are only fleeting. ”
I nodded slightly, feeling the weight of my heart. I can't predict what will happen to the conflicts in the family in the future, but I know that we must find a new way to get along. Superficial reconciliation does not necessarily solve deeper problems, and I need to try to find stronger emotional bonds between my family.
Once I was calmed down, I started to get to work on my business. Suddenly, my wife came up to me and told me with a solemn expression: "I just heard my mother talking to her sister on the phone, and she talked about me and you, and even said that we refused to honor her, and said a lot of bad things. ”
When I heard this, I felt a burst of grief and indignation in my heart, I didn't expect my mother-in-law to speak ill of us behind our backs. I know that my in-laws have always had a good relationship, and my mother-in-law should not treat us like this. My wife looked at me with grievances and disappointment in her eyes. She thought that we were also very filial to our mother-in-law, and that her mother-in-law would talk about us like this, which made her feel very aggrieved.
"How can this be? We have always been very good to our mother, how can there be such a misunderstanding?" my wife's voice was a little choked, and I was worried that she would not be able to stand such a blow. I held her hand tightly and comforted: "Don't be sad, this kind of thing is normal, sometimes misunderstandings are inevitable. We can communicate well and explain clearly. ”
However, my mother-in-law's words stirred up waves in my heart, making my attitude towards my mother-in-law even colder. I understand that communication is a good way to solve problems, but this time I felt a little overwhelmed. I also remembered her cynicism at us again and again, and her attitude towards the beggars. I suddenly felt conflicted. These things made me deeply suspicious of the whole family, and I began to wonder if there was real affection between us.
This family should be warm and harmonious, but all kinds of conflicts and misunderstandings make me feel exhausted. I sat anxiously at the head of the bed, unable to calm down for a moment. The contradictions in my life seem to be creeping in, and I don't know how to deal with them.
Perhaps, the relationship between people is intricate, and the conflicts in the family are not easy to resolve. I realized that solving family conflicts cannot be solved by my efforts alone, but requires everyone to work together to face and solve them. This conflict may be part of the family, but it will also be a challenge for us.
How things develop will depend on our actions and attitudes going forward. May everything pass, and may family harmony return as soon as possible.