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With the change of the times, pension has become a topic that cannot be avoided in the current society, for the post-70s, now their parents have reached the period of need for pension, and many people are in line with the idea of being close to take care of their parents.
On the surface, this practice is to better fulfill filial piety, but in fact, this is just a one-sided idea as a child, and they don't know how their parents think about it, and they may not be very suitable for urban life from the perspective of the current urban elderly life.
After the old man came to the city, he may have been fine at first, but after a long time, he felt uncomfortable, and the neighbors who had been able to visit the door disappeared, and the high-rise buildings also brought them more panic.
The house in the hometown or even the trees in the village may be proof of backwardness for others, but for the elderly, it is a place of peace in their hearts, and the attraction of the city's traffic to the elderly is even better than playing two games of chess with the old people at the entrance of the village.
For young people, their parents' choices make them unable to understand that urban life is much more convenient than rural life, there are more entertainment facilities, and public welfare benefits are better, so what is the reason for attracting them to return?
This leads to another topic, that is, spiritual needs, in the traditional cultural background of the mainland, people often have different feelings for their hometown, and often think that the reason why we can't empathize with our parents is actually because of different personal experiences.
As a generation that has grown up with the development of the mainland, the information of the new era such as the Internet and new energy has almost accompanied the process of their lives.
But this is not the case with their parents, who supported us when we went to the city to develop, and used our savings to help us stand firm, and time passed in a flash, and the homeless children of that year had reached middle age.
As children, the idea of wanting to be filial is worth encouraging, but don't use the wrong means, we should pay attention to the idea of parents in the elderly.
Whether they want to come to the city to live or not is the key, if because of personal ideas, let the reluctant parents relocate to the city and give up the previous relationships, it will be contrary to the purpose of filial piety.
The old people in the family have become Xi to rural life, and after entering the city, they seem very uncomfortable, the previous interpersonal circle disappears, and after coming to the new environment, there is no opportunity to make friends, and finally they can only be idle at home.
For the elderly, the most fearful thing is to feel lonely and think that they have lost their family and social value, in this case, the mental health of the elderly cannot be guaranteed, and there may be more health risks as a result.
Once the old man's mood falls into anxiety, then it will accelerate the speed of aging, and as a child, he naturally does not want to see the unhappiness of the old man's life in his later years, so he needs to think carefully about this.
When we tell our parents about moving to the city, it is best to use a consultative tone, rather than simply giving notice or ignoring the opinions of parents, and what kind of life parents want is crucial when it comes to providing for the elderly.
Moreover, even if your parents follow you to the city, you should also pay extra attention to your parents' mental state, because in the new family environment, your parents are likely to become a little polite and distant.
As a result of entering a new family, many life Xi habits have to be changed, and the parents at home are old, and it is not easy to change their Xi habits for decades, so there will be a situation where the rural lifestyle is not adapted to the city.
In the city, many residents don't even know who their neighbors are, there is a lack of communication between the two sides, and parents often talk to other elderly people in the village, which quickly becomes uncomfortable.
In addition, there are grandchildren or granddaughters at home, and in many cases they are not very free, in case the children still ask a tutor or something, they will encounter more communication difficulties, and after the elderly lose the freedom to speak and do things, family life will naturally not be harmonious.
Generally speaking, the educational concept of the elderly can not satisfy their children, and in the long run, it will lead to parents not daring to do anything, and they are afraid of making mistakes when they do it, and life is said to be great, so as children, they cannot let the old people's later life suffer from this.
Then, in order to prevent disagreements in the future, we should naturally confirm that we should confirm again and again when these unfavorable factors at home are eliminated before we can choose to pick up our parents to the city.
All in all, when parents can take care of themselves, let them choose their favorite lifestyle, this is called filial piety, rather than imposing their own ideas on their parents and making them give up their previous lives.
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