Looking forward to the stars, looking forward to the moon, the children finally have a partner.
The purpose of finding a partner is to get married, but not all objects can enter the palace of marriage.
Too many romances break up while walking, too many people can't get married when they find a few partners, it's not that they don't love, but they have extraneous branches.
In fact, whether the person is successful or not has a lot to do with the words and deeds of relatives at home.
You must know that marriage is not about two people living together, but about two big families that are tied together to a certain extent.
Fathers and sons go into battle, fight tiger brothers, and find a partner is also the same.
The following things, the relatives in the family do a good job, and the marriage of the younger generation will be successful.
01
Fate, active matchmaking.
The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear.
Who fell in love with whom, maybe the person concerned does not know, but the person next to him is clear.
As an ordinary relative and friend, I will care about your love, but I will not take any action, let alone say it thoroughly. Everyone wants to stay behind and be nosy.
But relatives are different, once you find out who in the family is liked, you should match, instead of blindly believing in "going with the flow".
Some people are very wooden or introverted and do not dare to take the initiative to confess. It's not the same with the encouragement of relatives at home.
Educator Zhang Wuling's fourth daughter Zhang Chonghe and son Zhang Zonghe went to Qingdao to play together.
At an opera performance, Zhang Zonghe saw Sun Fengzhu on the stage, and his eyes lit up. This small action was discovered by Zhang Chonghe.
Leaving Qingdao, Zhang Chonghe bought rouge and mailed it to Sun Fengzhu in the name of Zhang Zonghe. This relationship can be regarded as a successful bridge.
Many times, relatives also have to act as matchmakers, and you must not ignore them and treat yourself as an outsider completely.
02
Chat, compliment each other.
There are some relatives who are more ruthless than outsiders.
When he saw someone in the family looking for a partner, he said, "He's not worthy of you." She's here for your money. ”
Born with a sense of superiority and looking down on others. The object of the family also thinks that they are climbing the dragon and the phoenix, and they are not worthy of love.
People who can be human often "turn their arms outward". In other words, it is better to talk about outsiders and belittle one's own family members a little.
After the "object" has a sense of superiority, he will naturally have a better attitude towards all the people around him, so the love will heat up.
If you look at people, if they don't look good, they say that they have a good character, and if they have less income from work, they say that they have potential in their work...... People love praise and have a certain amount of vanity.
Another thing to note is that when chatting, say "we" more than your family or mine. It's all a family, and it's kind to talk.
03
Bride price, dispel concerns.
A female netizen said that her family is from Jiangxi. When I was in college, I had a relationship, but the man's family thought that the bride price in this place was generally high, so they retreated.
In fact, the female netizen's family asked for a dowry of 10,000 or 20,000 yuan, and also pasted a dowry.
It seems that it is necessary to communicate in advance about the issue of bride price. The key is to reassure the other party.
The bride price is part of the etiquette of marriage, not like buying and selling. How much should be determined on a case-by-case basis, rather than asking for a sky-high price.
If a relative in the family proposes a sky-high bride price, there is nothing to communicate. Let's just say that we can see if the other party can afford it, so as not to waste the time of the person we are talking to, right?
For the bride price, you know it in your heart, and it is also within the scope of your ability, so the enthusiasm for talking about the object and getting married will naturally increase.
04
Meet, focus on ceremony.
After finding a partner, I must have met with both parents.
If two young people have been together for many years and do not see their parents, then there is a high probability that one of them is cheating on their feelings, thinking that after letting go, they can still love each other.
When I saw my parents and the subject's siblings for the first time, I must have been restrained and apprehensive.
As a "proprietor", we must take care of the mood of the "object" and reflect the "enthusiasm".
One of my classmates, whose father was a repairman, came home every day in sloppy clothes and wearing gloves.
But on the day the classmate brought him home, his father deliberately put on new clothes and collected the gloves at home. Mother cleaned the house.
My classmate's sister made a meal on purpose. Before, I also asked what kind of flavor my classmates liked.
After eating, the classmate's mother took out the greeting gift and took the classmate's object to play nearby.
The enthusiasm of the family makes a good impression on the object of the classmate, and the feeling of wanting to get married is strong.
The sense of ritual can make ordinary days sparkle and have the magic to convey true feelings.
05
Xi, serious respect.
Ten miles is not the same saying, we should know.
Especially for ethnic minorities, Xi may be somewhat strange. But let's not make a fuss, but respect.
Don't show impatience at any time. Don't be perfunctory either.
I remember that before my cousin-in-law got married, she and a large group of relatives went to kneel down to worship the ancestral grave. In my hometown, such Xi is not available and is not easy to understand.
But my cousin's family agreed and made a lot of preparations. He has shown great respect for his cousin's object and her family.
Of course, for Xi, you should communicate in advance, do not unilaterally make the decision, and suddenly move up.
06
Weddings, arrange as early as possible.
There are too many people who say, "If you haven't bought a good house, wait a year or two, if you are still young, after you are 28 years old, if you have an unstable job, you will ...... after your job is stable."
Any prevarication may lead to long nights and dreams. After all, love is not as strong as marriage.
And some young people, already in their thirties, can't afford to wait. Since you're going to wait, I'm going to go to those who want to get married as soon as possible.
As long as both parties are emotionally stable and have the intention of getting married, don't use any reason to block the marriage.
The family will help, the house will work, everything will be there.
Perhaps, to a certain extent, marriage also has the element of catching ducks on the shelves. But it's many times better than procrastination and missing out.
07
There is a line in the movie "Unstoppable Love": "When I was a child, I watched the sky full of stars, but when the meteors flew by, it was always too late to make a wish; ”
Finding a partner is really not a matter of one person, it is a major event for the family to work together.
If everyone grasps their own role, when the family talks about the object, give a little force, and the probability of fate being missed should be greatly reduced.
Don't be the person who "has more than enough success and more than failure", but must be a person who "adds joy to happiness".
The family is of the same heart, and its profits are broken, which is right.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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