have been scolded on the hot search? It's just that she didn't cry, just say she's cold-blooded?
hello two sisters,
Are you both watching the same clip???
Sun Yi's eyes were red, and she cried into tears↓
Melody held the tissue and couldn't stop choking↓
After reading it, Li Songwei took off the headphones and sighed↓
Huang Zhizhong shook his head helplessly↓
Hu Yanbin's expression was solemn, and he wanted to speak again↓
The camera turns to papi, and the picture seems to be a little different ↓
(Sister inner OS: What's the matter, do I have to cry too?) ）
The program group is also very interesting (lacking),
When I cut out the preview of the next issue before, I specially made a comparison chart↓
The show was broadcast and promoted again↓
I'm afraid that everyone will miss this limit of rationality and emotion.
In the show, Li Songwei wrote a letter to Fu Seoul and Lao Liu respectively, giving different suggestions to the two people who want to separate.
Persuade Fu Seoul to let go of his obsession with painless separation.
Parting doesn't happen because of who did it wrong, but because each other is growing.
She has the right to chase the life she wants.
persuaded Lao Liu to accept the other party's guilt and learn to loosen himself.
Afterwards, Fu Seoul and Lao Liu were speechless, leaving only a silent hug.
Seeing the lack of love, Sun Yi and Melody cried a lot, perhaps thinking of their former selves, and their moods could not be calmed down for a long time.
In comparison, Papi on the side seemed unusually calm.
She first jumped out of the state of being moved and asked Li Songwei how she came up with the idea of writing a letter to Fu Seoul and Lao Liu. ↓
Seeing that everyone else was immersed in the sadness of the song written by Hu Yanbin, she sharply asked Hu Yanbin from what position he wrote this song. ↓
The emotional judge judges the case online, and it is not sensational.
But Tachibana didn't expect that Papi would not show too much emotion.
They are accused of being cold-blooded, lacking empathy, and having no empathy.
Tachibana has discovered a strange phenomenon: when women deviate from the traditional narrative and appear calm and rational, they are labeled as cold-blooded.
The same guests in the observation room, Melody, Sun Yi and papi, are often brought out for comparison and discussion because they show different female perspectives.
Melody just ended a 17-year marriage not long ago, and in the face of the separation of the three couples in the show, she will have a more sense of déjà vu and be more able to substitute personal experience.
Looking at the way each couple gets along, it's like seeing themselves at different stages.
She saw that Wang Mianmian and Zhang Shuo were in a state of tension at all times, and remembered that she had argued over a trivial matter in the marriage relationship.
Seeing that Wang Shiqing and Lao Ji have been together for a long time, work, life, and property are all mixed together, and I also feel some empathy.
was moved to tears by Li Songwei's letter to Fu Seoul, and she substituted for the grievances that were once not understood and affirmed.
Even in cases like Wang Mianmian and Zhang Shuo, who were moved together because of their perseverance in pursuit, she can condense a roughly consistent experience from the past.
Similar experiences inspire shared emotions, and Melody is an emotional person herself, with a high level of empathy and often moist eyes, which make people feel that she is a perfect fit for "Goodbye Lover".
Also similar to Melody is Sun Yi.
Two sensual people often contribute a lot of famous scenes of crying because of their strong sense of substitution. ↓
In the three seasons of the show, Sun Yi represents the perspective of young women looking at marriage, playing the role of the audience's mouth, and making some emotional expressions.
The way she shows her attitude is often straightforward. ↓
Seeing that Wang was sick and had a fever, Zhang Shuo went back to his room to sleep with peace of mind.
She gritted her teeth in anger and frantically persuaded her to wake up. ↓
By the way, I complained about why Zhang Shuo didn't cherish it. ↓
Huang Zhizhong proposed that the relationship between Wang Mianmian and Zhang Shuo began with the word "moved", and bluntly said that it was necessary to distinguish between touching and love.
Sun Yi directly advised people to "quit gambling". ↓
Because she couldn't get used to the way Wang Sleepy and Zhang Shuo got along, she immediately persuaded her, "There is nothing difficult in the world, as long as you are willing to give up." ↓
Expressions made by other members of the Mission, if not strongly agreed, were also directly dissented from them. ↓
Because of her sensibility, Sun Yi can always be affected by the emotional changes of the guests.
For example, Su Shiding, a guest in the second season, was refuted by Lu Ge when he told about his childhood misadventures: "But what does this have to do with our love? ”
Sun Yi's temper was ignited instantly. ↓
Seeing Ai Wei and Lisa reconciled as before, tears immediately welled up. ↓
felt the regret that Fu Seoul and Lao Liu were about to part, and cried so much that he couldn't help himself. ↓
She uses her intuition and perspective to provide a flesh-and-blood response.
The frequent stalks also made Sun Yi the audience's mouth, which is very effective~
In stark contrast to Melody and Sun Yi's sensibility, Papi has always been calm and sharp.
Emotions are less likely to fluctuate, and they are less likely to be moved by one or two words that seem reasonable.
For example, in the early stage of the show, Sun Yi and Melody often rolled their eyes at Zhang Shuo's words and deeds.
But when Zhang Shuo's consciousness changed but he hadn't practiced it, they had already been coaxed into obedience and moved.
As for Papi, he always analyzes the behavior of the guests from a position of staying out of the matter.
saw through the essence of Zhang Shuoguang's words and deeds too early, and then when faced with Zhang Shuo's oaths and rhetoric, she directly expressed her incomprehension.
Seeing others immersed in appreciation of Zhang Shuo's awakening, ↓
Papi coldly proposed, "He's only been one night, and he's said one thing at a time." ↓
Openly and secretly they are not optimistic about "light is doing lip service".
Because of the lessons from the past, the advice to Zhang Shuo is also very straightforward: talk less and listen more. ↓
Wang Mianmian mentioned Zhang Shuo's goodness, and the most touching thing was Zhang Shuo's experience of saving kittens on the side of the road.
After hearing this, Melody said that when men show their loving side, girls are more likely to be tempted.
Papi used the "cat rescue theory" in the movie script to explain this phenomenon. ↓
Huang Zhizhong and Li Songwei look at the relationship between Fu Seoul and Lao Liu, because they are friends with Fu Seoul, and their positions are occasionally unfair.
In the eyes of netizens, it is a bit of a biased component. ↓
Papi explores from a neutral standpoint what roles Lao Liu and Fu Seoul play in their marriage.
When others talk about the reason why Lao Liu wants to leave, they will summarize it as helpless, tired, and not easy.
Papi was puzzled: he was not satisfied with his state, would it be okay for him to leave this marriage? ↓
talked about Fu Seoul's hope that Lao Liu would reopen his love for life and do what Lao Liu wanted to do.
But after Lao Liu tried, Fu Seoul had something to say: "You can't feed yourself in a sandstorm."
In the silence of others, Papi pointed out the problem of Fu Seoul: Do you want him to shine, or do you want him to make money?
She can always point out the key points in a sharp way, and see through the active or passive pretenses of the parties at a glance.
It is also unlikely that the phenomenon of oneself will be changed because of the relationship between others.
After watching so many episodes of the program, Tachibana found that the most controversial thing about Papi was her attitude towards Wang Shiqing's old Ji and her mother-in-law.
The relationship between Wang Shiqing and Lao Ji was originally the most optimistic, but it suddenly dropped to freezing point after Wang Shiqing's mother's visit.
The two quarreled to no avail, and finally Lao Ji was silent and crying in the car, which aroused the sympathy of the audience and the observation group.
What Melody and the others saw was the weakness of Lao Ji being dealt with by joining forces.
Papi saw that Lao Ji was also involved.
Because of this analysis, Papi has been labeled cold-blooded and is believed to be inherently immune to some pain and emotions.
Not suitable for emotional observation programs. ↓
Under the emotional contrast of Sun Yi and Melody, Papi's rationality seems to be very cold-blooded and unwarm.
Tachibana doesn't think that Papi's sanity is a kind of indifference, it's not that she can't understand it, she can't empathize.
When Li Songwei wrote letters to Fu Seoul and Lao Liu, she was also moved and her eyes moistened.
It's just that she is more eager to explore the problems behind it, she cares more about the source of the contradiction between Lao Ji and Wang Shiqing, and she cares more about the insights given by her peers.
Emotional observation programs certainly need to be emotional, but rationality is also necessary.
What's more, when did rationality become a derogatory term?
Papi's calmness and rationality may come from her early recognition of the unbearable side of marriage. ↓
Growing up in the endless bickering of parents naturally has to puncture some illusions about a happy marriage.
This also made Papi realize that love needs to be emotional, but entering marriage requires rationality.
Such an experience is destined to make her way of looking at problems more sober and self-conscious.
The three female observers have different female perspectives, based on their different emotional outlooks, experiences and pursuit of love, and have different sense of substitution for the event.
Sun Yi's attitude towards love has the naïve style of a little girl, chasing a kind of relationship in the clouds.
Whether it is in the previous marriage or in the clues of subsequent rumors, you can feel her innocence.
Keen to make a statement, claiming to stay away from men, but there are still fantasies about love.
Such a person, of course, will be more difficult to accept the regret in perfect love.
Her joys, sorrows, emotions and substitutions are all seen in the past self.
And from Melody's expression, it can be seen that she pays more attention to her own experience.
Her stance and emotions are all self-condensation at a certain stage in the past, and they are more empathetic.
Papi, on the other hand, is more focused on reality and intrinsic issues.
She respects her own "me" in the relationship and her partner's "me", and attaches great importance to personal feelings.
When you get married, you won't be kidnapped by the traditional marriage model↓
After marriage, he still deviates from tradition,
During the Chinese New Year, the husband and wife went back to their respective homes, and the two in-laws had never met↓
The way for couples to get along is to waste time together↓
In the three of them, what Tachibana felt was the high concentration of emotional experience brought by sensibility, and the refreshing and neat brought by reason.
Tachibana also observed an interesting phenomenon, we always hope that the heroines in film and television works are rational, decisive, and not in love.
But when such a person appeared in reality, she was accused of being too indifferent, too sober, and too rational.
And she just didn't cry like the male artist next to her.
The last sentence
Blame Papi for being too indifferent, too cold-blooded,
Maybe she's just not as in love as she thought.