At drag parties, I play my true self

The card point cross-dressing video full of contrast was once the traffic password of the short video platform. Before the disguise, the sloppy and unsurprising blogger disguised himself into a radiant anime game character, supermodel and other amazing handsome guys and beauties after waving his hand and turning his face.

Unexpectedly, young people brought the cross-dressing "flower work" in the short video to life and became the fun of festival parties.

The post-90s barbecued pork is the HR of a major Internet factory, and he is usually busy at work, "the Internet has been very volatile recently". In her view, the sense of ritual is a spice in life, but also a window to release stress, "the greater the pressure, the more you have to play, in order to better balance work and life".

A party for young people, where fun is paramount. (Photo/Picture Worm Creative)

When it comes to holidays or birthdays, barbecued pork occasionally organizes some drag parties with friends. Not long ago, barbecued pork held a birthday party with the theme of "cat" in Guangzhou, inviting thirty or forty people to attend. On her 30th birthday, a friend disguised herself as Princess Jasmine and held an "Aladdin Night" with about 80 people.

It turns out that young people who don't love team building secretly "go crazy" at drag parties.

After a drag party, as soon as Barbecued Pork and his friends returned to the hotel, they were silently scrolling through the Little Red Book. "Our outfits tonight are so ordinary, we have to start doing our homework right away and figure out what to imitate next time to hold the audience."

The original plan of Char Siu and his friends was that next time they must fight in a group, imitate a group or make a related series, and it is too difficult to "go it alone".

Char siu and her friends. (Photo/Little Red Book @ Yellow Green Orange)

As early as a month or two ago, Char Siu and his friends began to prepare for this outfit.

The char siu cos is a zombie bride, clothes, veils, elf ears, jack-o'-lantern props, etc., all of which she has carefully matched on the Internet. Another friend looks a bit like Tong Xiangyu in "Wulin Gaiden", so he decided to cos Tong as the shopkeeper.

Seeing the barbecued pork holding a jack-o-lantern in his hand, "Zhengfeng Oba" took the initiative to ask for a photo of the exchange props. (Photo/Xiaohongshu @ raw old barbecued pork is better than giving birth to you)

"Because she was the only 'shopkeeper Tong' on the scene that night, passers-by greeted her very warmly and asked for a group photo, and every time she was cued, she would enthusiastically reply to the mantra of the shopkeeper Tong's 'forehead drop god'." However, the barbecued pork and his friends did not expect it, they thought that they had dressed up very carefully, but when they came to the scene, they found that they were too ordinary.

"Many people not only cosplay, but also restored the famous scenes, and the demeanor and on-site performance are really funny." "Smith" and "Xiang Tai" are the two most interesting shapes of barbecued pork.

When I was chatting with my friends, I loved to use the "Smith" emoji, but I didn't expect to see the three-dimensional version with my own eyes this time. What was even more unexpected for the barbecued pork was that in the Xiaohongshu post she posted after the event, the deity who played "Smith" also interacted with her enthusiastically.

"Smith" deity airborne barbecued pork Little Red Book post. (Photo/Xiaohongshu @ raw old barbecued pork is better than giving birth to you)

Although barbecued pork is a lively E person in life, he feels that he is "not enough E" when he comes to the scene. "You can't just be in this place, you have to interact with the people around you, so everyone is busy." According to the char siu speculation, it is likely that the person wearing the hood is the I person who is eager to let go of himself, and most of the people who can go crazy without wearing the hood are the E people.

Char siu sighed that many young people who meet acquaintances in life and have to quickly bow their heads and pretend to look at their mobile phones can actually turn into "social cows", and they can greet every stranger without hesitation, take a group photo, and even shake hands and hug, "This is really a wonderful and beautiful night."

"Other family members, fill out the form after the role, or say it in the group, if you need to borrow props, say hello today, so as not to be too late to buy it." "Coconut is back in J role." "This group can't do without little coconuts." ......

This is not a record of a company's event operation group chat, but a group of old friends of Xiao Ye, who are preparing for a drag camping party.

Xiaoye said that the photos do not need to be coded, "they have all been retouched". (Photo/Xiaohongshu @ Multi-Ice Coconut Milk Super Large Cup)

If you have seen a group of young men and women dressed as wonderful fairies, reverse versions of Snow White, black and white witch Coola, Disney Goofy and other characters in the camping area of Linjiang Avenue in Guangzhou, it should be Xiao Ye and her friends, "Only we are a drag party, and the others are normal people's parties."

Because some boys did anti-string cos, the surrounding children and young people at the party came to watch, and finally a group of people who claimed to be photographers took the initiative to take pictures of Xiao Ye and them. "Suddenly, more than a dozen mobile phones and cameras came around at once", Xiao Coconut said that the scene at that time was a bit like the idol group's debut press conference, which was very shocking.

Self-deprecating "E value as high as 99%, daily life flying" Xiao Coconut is actually quite accustomed to this kind of friendly onlookers-by, after all, because it is too lively on weekdays, many I friends dare not attend her party at all, "Some friends say that they are afraid of society and can't resist my invitation."

Single-player cos collection. (Photo/Xiaohongshu @ Multi-Ice Coconut Milk Super Large Cup)

The reason why they chose to hold an open-air party in the camping area this time is because Xiao Ye and they are "all E people". "A game full of high-E members is very noisy, so I had to choose a more open outdoor party for the party."

Since last year, every special festival, Xiao Coconut will "please" his friends to start preparing for a drag party.

Xiao Ye, a post-95 generation who is engaged in market operation in an Internet company, is a plan-oriented J person, she will use the thinking of holding activities at work to hold parties, and will also make online forms to record the division of labor and preparation progress, etc., which is clear at a glance. "Otherwise, there will be 'three monks without water to drink', and we will prepare for the overall situation one or two months in advance, and the smaller ones will be a week, and this J person will come to be a mother in person."

When I saw this watch, I dreamed of returning to the work group. (Photo/Provided by the interviewee)

"There are a lot of friends who are engaged in e-commerce, and almost every party will bring a computer to play and race against time to deal with work." Most of Xiao Ye's friends are in MCN or e-commerce companies, although they are usually busy at work, they will seize the time to have fun.

The most memorable thing for Xiao Ye was a drag party last year: "Almost a dozen people kept discussing and making four or five alternatives for two or three weeks before they were able to move forward. "It's a perfect result of everyone working together to overcome all difficulties, so we all had a crazy time when we met."

Work while partying. (Photo/Xiaohongshu @ Multi-Ice Coconut Milk Super Large Cup)

"Looking back at everyone's efforts to have a smooth party this year, there is a feeling of separation, like a world away." Xiao Coconut sighed, "If you want to do something, you must do it immediately, and if you want to see someone, you must see it immediately, and if you have done enough 'crazy' things, you can have no regrets in life."

Cherish every "crazy" party, but also cherish the sincerity in these memories.

It is not difficult to find that whether it is the drag craze of short videos or the drag party in a niche circle, the core is probably the same as the dopamine outfits that were popular some time ago and the "crazy literature" on the Internet - an emotional outlet for young people.

I don't know when "being an emotionally stable adult" became a respected thing.

Young people gradually don't like to post on Moments, and the visible range has gradually shrunk from all to the last six months, the last month, and the last three days... Until someone opens your circle of friends, you can only see a faint horizontal line - as smooth and thin as the emotions shown by everyone.

Adults who silently swallow all the grievances and heartaches. (Photo/"Quartet")

At work, young people laugh at themselves as migrant workers who can only reply "good", "uh-huh" and "received"; In life, they use the mask of "social fear" to fight against possible harm and disappointment. Obviously disgusted with this kind of camouflage and disguise, but can only follow the inertia and continue to repeat, and the squeezed emotions urgently need to find an outlet for release.

In the era of internal friction, the real and vivid appearance of young people after cross-dressing is undoubtedly more valuable. It's not just an emotionally stable adult, it's a real individual with joy, sorrow, and vitality. Young people wrapped in disguise seem to have armor against doubts and denials, and can muster up the courage to show their truest selves.

Adults who "laugh if you want to cry". (Photo/"The Life of a Witty Doctor")

To paraphrase a golden sentence on the Internet: "People who usually play themselves are already very hard, and it's OK to come to a drag party without pretending to be anything." ”

Don't be bound by superfluous rituals and rules, there is nothing more important in your life than living yourself.

Resources

[1] How hard is it to be an emotionally stable adult? 丨Sanlian Life Weekly

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