There is a saying: "It's easy to fall in love, but it's hard to get along." ”
It is true that falling in love is a momentary touch, and getting along has to go through all kinds of tests.
Many lovers have walked together after thousands of sails, but they have consumed all their feelings in the daily chicken and dog fragments.
Whether it is a lover or a couple, if you want a long-lasting relationship, you can't do without these three behaviors.
One, don't lie
There is no better relationship than trusting each other, and when a man keeps lying to you, no matter how warm the relationship is, it loses its temperature.
The girlfriend said that she broke up because she found out that her boyfriend lied to him many times, and on the weekend the girlfriend wanted her boyfriend to accompany her shopping, and the boyfriend said that he was going to visit his brother's school, and it turned out that he was hanging out with friends.
Also, the boyfriend said that he was on a business trip for two days, but when his girlfriend went out with his friends, he found his boyfriend playing in the park with a girl.
Lying many times has shown that their relationship is no longer there, and the reason why they didn't explain it directly must be due to his considerations.
Whether it is a lover or a couple, don't lie, once you panic once, you may be a hundred times and lose your lover's trust in you.
If you say anything in the future, there will be no credibility, even if you were very loving before, you will slowly centrifuge.
If you want a long-lasting relationship, remember not to lie, this is a big taboo between men and women, and only by treating your partner with sincerity can you maintain the relationship for a long time.
Second, don't be cold and violent
My cousin was most afraid that my sister-in-law would be angry, because every time I got angry, he didn't know what was wrong, so my sister-in-law ignored him, didn't cook for him, didn't wash his children's clothes, and lay on the bed angry.
If her cousin asked her why she was angry, her sister-in-law would either ignore her or say, "You know what you did yourself." ”
But the cousin has a big grinning personality, but the cousin-in-law is delicate, and the two of them often have a cold war.
So now their relationship has been in crisis many times, and my cousin said that if he hadn't had a child, he would have divorced a long time ago, but the divorce can't be separated, and it's painful to maintain, so why bother?
Oates once said that the most devastating problem in marriage is the lack of communication.
If there is a conflict in the relationship, find a way to solve it, either have a big quarrel and know each other's needs, or sit down calmly and talk.
doesn't communicate, and keeps using cold violence against his partner, but his partner doesn't know what's wrong, and he has to try his best to guess.
Over time, the heart gets tired and the feelings fade. Therefore, if you want to maintain a relationship for a long time, you must not be cold and violent.
Third, don't hold grudges when you quarrel
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "To judge whether a man can live with you for a lifetime, it is not to look at how many gifts he usually gives you, nor how many love words he usually says, but what kind of attitude he has when you are angry." ”
Men and women get along with each other, not afraid of quarrels, because quarrels are the best way to understand each other's needs, after the quarrel, both of them will calmly think about why they quarreled, where is the contradiction, how to communicate and solve?
What I am most afraid of is that I will quarrel and hold grudges, either coldly and violently ignore anyone, or I will keep turning over old accounts in the future, and mention the past again and again.
Two people with different thinking and independent personalities get along together, and there are many contradictions, and there is no need to hold grudges after quarreling over trivial things like sesame, after all, life still has to pass, and feelings have to be maintained.
As the saying goes, "the head of the bed quarrels, the end of the bed and." "Just don't have an overnight feud, and turn the page after the quarrel. The next day, it's time to chat and chat, it's time to do things together and things together, so that the relationship can last for a long time.
Mr. Deka said: I don't believe that there are two people in this world who are completely compatible, and if there is, it must be the result of working together.
Indeed, a good relationship needs to be maintained by both parties, understand each other, tolerate each other, whether it is a lover or a husband and wife, if you want to maintain a relationship for a long time, you can't do without each other's efforts.
There are no two people who are naturally suitable, they are the result of running in with each other and operating together.