Whatever the custom, the meaning should be good and positive. If a custom hurts one's self-esteem and devalues others, there is no need to pass it on, let alone continue to follow it.
Just on October 19, a wedding incident that attracted attention occurred in Yunfu, Guangdong. A video shows the bride getting out of the car immediately surrounded by several middle-aged women wearing bibs and tying her apron. This move caused netizens to complain, who thought that the bride was asked to do housework as soon as she got out of the car, which was too urgent.
In the video, the solemn and solemn greeting procession takes the bride to the entrance of the village. Originally, it was just an ordinary and ordinary wedding, but due to an act of the in-laws family, the whole wedding became different and caused controversy.
The bride was very embarrassed, her face showed a look of horror and surprise, which she tried to refuse. Before she could react, the women had already fastened their aprons. The crowd of onlookers smiled proudly.
The bride stood in the crowd, dressed in a crisp white wedding dress, holding a bouquet of bright roses and wearing an apron. The whole picture looks strange, the apron used for housework and the sacred white wedding dress are incompatible and extremely incongruous.
The originally romantic and lively wedding was instantly ruined by this move. Although the bride kept smiling, her smile was even uglier than crying. It can be seen that she does not like this move, but on the wedding day, in order to take care of everyone's face, she does not dare to express dissatisfaction.
It can be seen from this incident that the in-laws did not communicate with the bride before tying an apron for the bride, nor did they ask for her opinion. Doing so is disrespectful to the bride.
For the groom's approach, many netizens expressed their incomprehension. Some netizens said that if the meaning of the apron is to do housework, it is really speechless. What kind of custom is this, too disrespectful to people.
Some netizens said, this is too strange, why not put a big gold chain on the bride, symbolizing wealth and luck? Isn't that better?
However, some locals explained that I was also Yunfu's daughter-in-law and was tied up with an apron as soon as I got off the bus on my wedding day. After four years of marrying into my in-laws' family, my parents-in-law have never let me do housework, or even let me wash dishes, this is just a custom. Local elders say that there is indeed a meaning of having the bride tie her apron and do housework.
Some netizens explained, don't get me wrong, in fact, the apron symbolizes many children and many blessings, and the meaning of the apron is the grandson. The apron is meant to protect the child and means that the bride is pregnant. The bride follows local customs, just out of respect for the local culture.
For this netizen's explanation, some netizens expressed difficulty in accepting. Isn't this a disguised announcement that the bride is pregnant out of wedlock? Has anyone considered how the bride feels?
No matter what the apron symbolizes, it cannot bring joy. I don't know if the groom's family took into account the feelings of the bride when observing this custom.
The newlywed was supposed to be a happy and pleasant day, the first day of two people entering married life, centered on the happiness of the newlywed. The in-laws insist on observing such an incomprehensible custom. They cast a shadow over the wedding and made people feel frustrated.
Not only is the bride unhappy, any woman can be unhappy. I understand the feelings of the bride very well. Fortunately, the bride was a cultured person and did not get angry on the spot. Otherwise, the wedding may not go smoothly.