Some parents ask, what should children do if they hate learning more and more after going to school?
In fact, to cultivate children's interest and confidence in learning, this matter should be done before entering primary school, rather than waiting until the child already hates learning.
In today's article, Xiao Zian's mother will share 3 practical suggestions from the perspective of psychology to help children fall in love with learning, I hope it will help you.
01 Let children feel the joy of learning
Learning itself is fun because people are curious and exploring, especially for children.
Every child has an age when he asks "why" every day, which is the best proof that children are studious.
But why do many children not like to study as soon as they go to school?
That's because adults always equate studying with classes, homework, and exams.
This kind of mechanical learning for the purpose of taking tests is not only boring, but also has clear judging criteria - scores and rankings.
This makes it easy for children to be frustrated by this criterion and slowly hate learning.
If you want your child to like learning, the first thing parents must do is to redefine the matter of "learning", and then help their children develop an interest in learning.
For example, if the child finds literacy uninteresting, we can tell him about the origin and evolution of Chinese characters, and show him relevant picture books and documentaries.
The child does not like mathematics, we can play the game of "buying" with him, let the child be a cashier, and experience the sense of achievement of counting money.
The child does not like science, we can accompany him to do small experiments and read various popular science books that answer "why". It not only satisfies the child's curiosity, but also helps him increase his knowledge.
The knowledge taught in school may not be interesting enough, but it is not the whole story, nor is it the only way to learn.
Accompany children to experience more, explore more, and learn more interesting extracurricular knowledge, and children's views and attitudes towards learning will slowly change.
02 Let children experience a sense of accomplishment
Why do many children love to read and learn before they go to primary school, but this changes as soon as they enter primary school?
This is actually inseparable from our parents.
Chinese parents do not want their children to become dragons and daughters to become phoenixes. Especially in learning this important event that can change a person's destiny, we are even more concerned and anxious.
The child's grades are not as good as the people, and we want him to catch up. The child's grades are good, we want him better.
Parents' expectations for their children's learning can be said to be never-ending and never satisfied.
But this is a huge pressure for the child, and a perfect goal that can never be achieved.
Failure to satisfy parents means that the child is not learning well enough.
Not being able to take the first place and score a hundred points also means that the child is not learning well enough.
As a result, except for a few top students, the vast majority of children will never experience a sense of accomplishment in learning.
No matter how hard you try, learning is only a "I'm not good enough" frustration.
Who can have a heart strong enough to experience setbacks again and again, but still strive to move forward and never give up?
Many children do not suffer from learning, but do not want to accept the fact that "I am poor, I can't learn well" over and over again.
If we parents can adjust our mentality, we will not only see the grades and scores, but also the children who study hard.
If we can let go of our gains and losses, we don't compare our children with others.
If we can focus on accompanying our children to fill in the gaps, improve learning methods, and cultivate learning habits, we will actively accompany our children to face them regardless of good or bad grades.
Make the child believe that if he (does something), he can (make progress).
I think children will have much less pressure and much less resistance and resistance to learning.
After all, it is much easier to improve a little than yesterday's self than to surpass others.
03 Let children find the meaning of learning
In everything you do, a sense of meaning is important.
It makes us more enthusiastic and motivated, and less likely to give up in the face of difficulties.
When we were children, we all read the story of Premier Zhou's "reading for the rise of China".
At the Asian Games, we were deeply touched to see that the athletes, no matter how difficult and painful they encountered, gritted their teeth and persevered, and just wanted to win glory for the country.
It's the same with children's learning.
Learning itself is not an easy and simple matter, and cannot be supported by only momentary interest, parental punishment, and rewards.
We need to help children find a stronger, more lasting motivation, and that is a sense of meaning in learning.
This sense of meaning can vary from person to person.
Probably influenced by role models and wanting to become scientists.
It may be influenced by his family and wants to become a doctor who treats and saves people.
Maybe out of a passion, I want to study insects and birds.
Probably for the honor of the motherland, I want to make some achievements.
No matter what the purpose is, as long as the child understands what he is learning, he has the strongest motivation to learn in the universe.
He is no longer afraid of boredom and failure, and is able to devote all his energy to studying well.
This is why we always emphasize that in primary school, we must help children "aspire" and accompany him to read celebrity stories.
Let children draw spiritual strength from role models and find their purpose in learning and even life.
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Just like the small sample language book says: a tree has no roots and does not grow, and people have no ambition.
Once you have set great ambitions for your child, learning is no longer your business, do you still have to worry about your child getting tired of school?
I am a small sample mother, Fudan master's degree, children's reading instructor, family education instructor, psychological counselor, author of "Understand a little psychology, parenting is very simple".
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