The first talk about "cheating", the years of "hostility" of the Beckhams
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Text | Sister Yi (Zhou Guiyi) Xiaoxing
Today I recommend a documentary to everyone, although you need to go over the wall to see it.
Some time ago, Beckham's whole family attended the event together, including daughter-in-law Nicola Peltz, and Romeo's girlfriend Mia Reagan all came, neatly, as if attending the wedding of the Beckham boss.
It was at the release of the Netflix documentary "David Beckham".
I watched this almost 5-hour documentary in one breath for the first time.
First of all, I don't like or understand football, I don't have a special feeling for this football legend, and I watch the documentary purely out of a kind of gossip - how the richest and most influential couple in the world live in private.
In the documentary David Beckham, I did see a lot of sweet details between Little Bay and Victoria, the family.
After retirement, Xiaobei raised bees and made honey.
The director asked, "What is your honey called?" ”
Xiao Bei said in all seriousness that they were a bit controversial about the name. "I think it should be called 'Golden Bee', Victoria likes 'Little Shell Sticky Drop'." As soon as he finished speaking, he couldn't help but laugh.
The nearly 50-year-old man still has such an innocent smile on his face, and he really lives in happiness.
The family gathered together, barbecued, chatted, talked and laughed, Xiaobei held a beer glass in his hand and Victoria sang and danced, comfortable and happy.
In the film reviews on the Internet, the most out-of-the-loop interaction between the husband and wife has such a scene.
In an interview with Victoria, she said they were both working-class people who started out on hard work.
At this time, Xiao Bei suddenly poked his head out from behind the door: "Tell the truth." What kind of car your dad drove you to school. ”
After a few rounds back and forth, under Xiaobei's "questioning", Victoria couldn't help, "Well, my dad had a Rolls-Royce in the 80s." ”
Xiao Bei then left with a satisfied "thank you", leaving her alone speechless, focusing on a mess and demolition (in fact, there is also a bit of a secret poke for the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law arrogant), this interaction is inexplicably sweet.
We always say that the most precious marriage is "because of love", and Victoria and David Beckham are.
They fell in love with each other at first sight.
The first time Xiao Bei met Victoria was on TV. He pointed to the hot girl in the black tight dress on TV, turned to his partner next to him and said: I want to marry her.
Unexpectedly, the two soon had the opportunity to meet.
Victoria was also attracted to Xiaobei, she wrote her number on Xiaobei's ticket, and said domineeringly: "You'd better call me, otherwise I'll kick you up next time I see you..."
In this way, the two quickly came together and started a "crazy top" love.
The two are busy on a busy day, Xiao Bei has high-intensity training and various competitions, Victoria has to tour around, but these do not hinder the two.
Xiao Bei often called Victoria late into the night;
Whenever she had the opportunity, no matter how far away, in order to see her for a few minutes, Xiao Bei would drive four hours to where she was, sometimes using a private jet.
This part, just looking at it this way is not shocking, then I will add a background.
The first time David Beckham was abandoned by all Britons was because before the World Cup, he fled to see her regardless of calling Victoria, angering the coach, who openly stated "it's Beckham's fault" after the red card incident.
The seriousness of the incident was that Beckham was subjected to national online abuse for two years, and his friends had to take turns accompanying him to the bathroom at dinner, fearing that passers-by would provoke him.
Some people in England hung his human form and executed him. Walking down the road was a girl in a plaster cast, with a T-shirt on the back that read, "Kicked by David Beckham."
Under such pressure, the first thing Beckham did to relieve the pressure was to find Victoria, who was on tour, because there the 23-year-old got the peace of home.
Beckham was so handsome and the most valuable business top of his time, his apartment, every day different girls sent underwear.
But after the romance was announced, he always held Victoria's hand generously;
In the camera, she is unabashedly called "princess";
Their wedding was romantic, and Xiao Bei wore a purple suit, just because Victoria wanted to wear a purple wedding dress (other guests had to wear black and white, well, Victoria was indeed a conspicuous bag).
Xiaobei, who has always put football first, has experienced many changes and moved to different teams, and he left Real Madrid, on the one hand, because of irreconcilable contradictions with the coach, the American League gave enough money; Victoria, on the other hand, is fed up with living in a country where the language is not shared.
Of that transfer, he said a golden phrase: "Football second, family first." ”
If you watch the entire documentary, you will know that this family is not only Victoria and the child, but also his own parents, the parents of the other party.
The first time they met, they felt that "each other's families are very similar and very harmonious."
And Beckham's parents are almost on the scene every game, and he feels "looking up and seeing his family, he feels at ease".
So, when I saw the whole documentary, my biggest feeling was that David Beckham and Victoria are really family, and they really "have the same values and what they want in life".
Then, there is the emotion about how much it costs you to have an idol golden husband.
Even if David Beckham is a blue-collar family, and Victoria grew up in a Rolls-Royce to school (the social advantage of Beckham's native family is obvious).
Even if Victoria is a former Spice Girls member, and the Spice Girls group is part of British culture (both sides look at each other, appearance, wealth, social influence, are comparable).
Even if Beckham's innate values are so family-minded and genuinely delivered to Victoria, they are commonly known as thorough topping (deep enough emotional foundation).
But becoming David Beckham's wife still comes at a huge price.
Victoria never liked football, she liked David Beckham.
Because football is David Beckham's dream and an important part of his life, she chooses to support it.
The work attributes of the two determined that they would not spend much time together well, and they finally waited for their honeymoon, and as a result, only 5 days after the time between the two, Xiaobei received a call from the coach, asking him to go back to training.
Their time and life are not entirely their own, and a large part of them are controlled by "football".
Victoria has been pregnant and given birth several times, and Xiaobei may not be able to accompany her, because there are still competitions and work before this.
Because of football, David Beckham will miss many important moments of their lives together.
Even though Beckham only thinks "we are going to have our first child", his body can still only be on the football field.
(Fortunately, the game was over and Xiao Bei caught up with the birth of his eldest son.) ）
Because of job changes, they moved many times, from England to Spain, to the United States, to Milan... Finally, the family reunited, and always ushered in the news that Xiaobei was leaving again.
Moreover, almost every time there was no consultation, just a notification.
It is clear that it has been said that it is not an example, and as a result, it still happens again and again.
After the birth of their first child, Brooklyn, they received numerous kidnapping threats, they were very scared, but it seemed impossible to avoid it completely, and Xiaobei still had to continue to play football.
Every time, Xiao Bei fought for his football dream, family, children... Everything behind it, only Victoria is alone.
Before everything was ready to move, she had to run on both sides for the sake of her husband and children.
The people didn't care about this, just blindly fabricated, accused and criticized her for not following Xiaobei to move together.
This repeats itself.
When Xiaobei, who came to the United States, was invited to Milan, he agreed without hesitation.
In an interview, Xiao Bei grabbed the conversation and was proud: "This is the best arrangement, Victoria fully understands." "
He didn't notice the displeasure of Victoria beside him in the slightest.
When Xiaobei left, she had to face taking care of her children at home alone.
The above are life changes and, of course, mental bearing.
Because she found such a handsome and high-profile husband, she always stood at the center of the storm and withstood the scrutiny of the world, which is actually the envy of the public.
Once David Beckham's performance fluctuated on the pitch, everyone's first reaction was "all blame this bad woman who seduced him and affected his mood".
When she was pregnant with her first child, she had to have a cesarean section because of the danger of natural childbirth, but it was reported by the outside world that "Victoria gave birth noble, too noble to contribute".
After the red card incident, Victoria took her son to watch the Xiaobei game, surrounded by a continuous stream of abuse, and everyone sang collectively on the stadium, targeting Victoria's insulting songs (don't always be superstitious about the so-called high-quality people in the West).
But the biggest challenge, of course, is that Beckham is tempted every minute, and she is always competing with women all over the world.
When she gave birth to her third child, Victoria finished her cesarean section, lying on the hospital bed by herself, looking at the newspaper headline photos of her husband and other female stars, and the whole gas exploded.
In the documentary, the two sides admit for the first time that they cheated 20 years ago, and Victoria said it was the most painful time of her life.
When he was in Spain, the media once photographed Xiaobei's assistant Rebecca and his intimate photos, and the protagonist Rebecca also unabashedly exposed their private relationship:
"The chemistry between David and I was strong... We kissed in the car and were welcoming on the way back to the hotel, like magnets, it felt amazing. ”
As soon as the news came out, it triggered a huge public opinion, occupying the front page headlines for ten consecutive days.
20 years after the incident, Victoria still seems to be able to feel some emotions from her when she faces the camera.
"It used to be the whole world against us, now it is we against each other."
Not only that, every day when the door is opened, there are reporters squatting outside, and they follow wherever they go. The older son, Brooklyn, was also the target of harassment, and reporters would ask him loudly about his parents.
It was like a nightmare.
Xiao Bei also said that at that time, they all felt that they were not going to separate, but to drown.
The director asked Victoria: "Do you hate Xiaobei?" ”
She thought for a moment: "If I were to be honest, I really hated it. ”
The final choice we see in time, Victoria chose to tolerate, accept, and save the marriage.
It's easy to laugh at Sister-in-law, and it's easy to blame Beckham, but marriage has never been such a binary opposition.
When we feel that Victoria is exhausted by the big family, we must also see what Victoria gets.
1. David Beckham has been providing for this family and is a real cash cow.
Beckham signed to the American League for $250 million, which is the sum of Real Madrid's Galaxy annual salary for four years, but this is the tip of the iceberg of his income, and he is the most endorsed football star in the world.
2. Beckham and Victoria united, as a brand, there is no need to elaborate.
The names and portraits of the whole family are trademarks, lying down to earn money and, above all, influence, go to the United States, Tom Cruise and Will Smith are welcomed according to the specifications of the Oscars.
3, the perfection of the secular meaning, when Sister-in-law Bei appeared in front of the media with her husband and four children, which time was not a perfect appearance, everyone said that this pair had the style of a royal family, and Sister-in-law was a woman, and the sense of achievement of the animal side was incomparable to any royal family.
Having said so much, in such an ungrounded high-position couple, there are still truths that ordinary people can admonish.
First of all, their experiences and stories once again prove that the so-called "perfect marriage" is just a fantasy, on the contrary, remember that behind great wealth must be a catastrophe.
Secondly, in marriage, men must have enough love for women and feel the full attraction of the body (so Sister-in-law keeps her weight unchanged for a lifetime, and ordinary people can't do this), but women must have male thinking and know what they want.
Victoria is definitely not a love brain, she sold her wedding to OK! Exclusive licensing, was the first pot of gold for their family brand, and she was 25 that year.
I don't encourage any behavior, but I don't over-reinforce a certain kind of harm, women must understand that what you want on the left side of the balance of marriage, you have to ask what chips you can put on the right side.
Temperament, endurance, not all chips, but certainly part of the chips.
Third, I now have an immature view that don't blame all problems in marriage, just as don't blame all the pain on the family of origin.
Although we are married, the essence is still our own lonely life.
Beckham has been such a scarce human darling, but the entire documentary shows that he endured no less immense pain than Victoria.
Life is really an experience and practice, even if it is a matter of marriage, it is also to make you grow, when you look at it with such eyes, you will understand that this script is chosen by you, don't blame anyone.
Again, as I often say, "May we all like our scripts."
Bless everyone.