In life, we deal with others, we will meet all kinds of people, and some people, under the banner of friends, are very unfriendly to you, and even use you.
When we get along with people, we first think about how to be kind to others and not cause trouble to others. But the reality is that the good intentions you pay do not necessarily lead to good gains, and sometimes they will even be dragged into the water. Therefore, when getting along with people, you must understand that in society, most people will say things against their will, and they are playing with you, and when you meet such a person, you must pay more attention, otherwise there will be some mess one day, directly dumped on you.
People who play with you, there is no intention to be friends with you in their hearts, not sincere at all, they will only think of you when they are looking for fun, and they are very indiscriminate in speaking, and when a person often tells you the following 3 sentences, you have to be careful, it may be a fake good person.
First, I don't look down on you
This sentence seems to be worthy of people, but it is actually a derogatory statement, because when some things are not easy to say, fake good people will first make you have a psychological preparation, and then say these ugly words, essentially for your good, deep down on you, just don't let you notice.
Many ill-intentioned people often can't suppress their inner irritability, and they want to express their dissatisfaction through words, and the target they will choose is some honest people as their own vents. Slowly, after having this kind of psychology, you will become contemptuous of people.
Or even say this first: "I'm not looking down on you." Then continue to say a lot of things that look down on you, in fact, this is taking advantage of your kindness. In this way, to vent their dissatisfaction in a friendly way, many people will be deceived by the good intentions at the beginning, and they will play around, which is what people say: "Keep in the dark." ”
Therefore, fake good people often turn around the corner to curse people, they don't know, often because they have these people who can be used for entertainment at all times. They often ridicule others in this way, play people for fun, although they say all the bad things, but they can make others not suspicious, and even let others applaud them, meet such people, you must be vigilant.
Although it is said that you can't kill with a stick, there are not a few fake good people who will say so, and it is indispensable to guard against people, and paying more attention to it is a good thing after all.
Second, you just can't joke
Jokes, everyone will make jokes, but the person who jokes, if there is no "degree" in the heart, then this person should be careful, sometimes even in an exhortatory tone, saying that you are not interesting, who is not interesting, this is a little intriguing.
Lao Li and Lao Zhu have known each other for a while, but for Lao Li, he is often wary of Lao Zhu, and he often meets on weekdays, and when they meet, they are very uneasy for Lao Li.
Once, Lao Li met Lao Zhu on the bus, Lao Zhu came as soon as they met, said hello and then comforted Lao Li, originally a very common thing, but Lao Zhu still couldn't control his mouth, and brought out Lao Li's previous ugly things by the way, saying: "Lao Li, how have you been doing recently, should it be like last time, you always feel that you are sick, and then force the doctor to grab Chinese medicine for you." Lao Li was a little embarrassed because there were people in the car who looked at him with strange eyes.
He replied helplessly: "Don't worry about it, don't say it." Seeing him like this, Lao Zhu said with a smile: "I don't worry about it, but next time, don't use the rotten excuse of getting drunk, and I'm not afraid of other people's jokes." Lao Li was very angry and said to Lao Zhu: "Always take these things as an example, you are not bothered!" Lao Zhu added: "You just can't joke, and you can't control your violent temper every time." ”
We all know that it is good to joke, and taking other people's ugly things as a joke will inevitably make others uncomfortable. Understand that it is best not to say anything that others do not want to mention, and saying too much will only make people disgusted. And Lao Zhu is the opposite, Lao Zhu speaks, without measure, does not consider the feelings of others, and says some embarrassing things regardless of the occasion, which makes Lao Li often wary of him.
Third, we are brothers, how can we lie to you
This sentence, can be said to be the standard of fake good people, the original intention is not to make you suspicious, let you believe what they say, which is a misunderstanding that many people will have.
That is, when talking to others, if you put some risks out in advance, you can effectively improve the trust of others and let others relax their vigilance. The purpose of this is that when you consider the risk, you will subconsciously ignore this, too honest people, usually so fooled.
Belinsky once said: "True friends do not talk about friendship, they do not ask each other for the sake of friendship, but do everything they can for each other." ”
Therefore, the people who put brotherhood on their lips are the most important to pay attention to, in the end, they still trust others too much, and the author once said because of others: "We are friends, how can we not pay you back." Although the amount is not large, what is more chilling is that when I go to remind others, I am said: "It's all so familiar, and you don't lack this money, it's okay." Just like that, his call never went through.
Therefore, the people around can believe, but they can't believe all, fake good people are everywhere, they specifically pick honest people to start, and they can use the above three sentences to play people as monkeys, play with the kindness of others, and please stay away when you meet.