A master of Chinese Studies once said that the older we get, the more challenges and difficulties we will face. When we are young, these setbacks tend to have an impact only on ourselves and have a limited impact; By middle age, these difficulties widen and sometimes even affect families. However, as people enter their old age, the challenges are often more difficult and may affect future generations. This is the harm of "old age ordeals". Why are there so many problems in the old age when you should be enjoying a quiet life? After all, adversity is the norm in life, and harmonious and stable life is an exception. However, are the challenges and difficulties we encounter fateful or the result of our own actions? The truth is that half of them come from fate and half from our own choices, and we should not shift the blame to others.
As everyone turns sixties, everyone may face three "scourges" that may affect the well-being of the family and should be dealt with as soon as possible:
First, lack of virtue undermines family happiness.
Confucius once said: "Young but not grandchildren, long and unspeakable, old but not dead, is a thief." The core idea of this phrase is that when you are young, you have no respect for brothers, you have no morality, you grow up and you do not achieve much, and even if you are old, you are still worthless. Honesty and kindness are the cornerstones of our actions, and for families to thrive, they need elders who know how to respect others. Future generations also need a good moral education to successfully cope with life's challenges. Immoral elders can lead to the decline of families, affecting multiple generations.
Second, get involved in senseless things, hurt yourself and hurt others.
There is a proverb in the Zengguangxian Text: "Do not say anything when you see something, do not know what you ask; Take care of your business and return early. "This means that we should not divulge what we see, and even if we know the situation, we should not spread it easily to avoid getting involved in unnecessary disputes." No matter where you are, stay away from gossip and focus on the issues that really matter. Getting involved in gossip only breeds hatred and conflict, causing not only trouble for oneself but also pain for the family.
3. Illness afflicts the whole family.
Being sick in bed can have a serious impact on a family's well-being. This not only reduces the quality of life for family members, but also results in children having to spend a lot of time and money caring for sick elders. If there is no suffering in the family, the whole family will become happy. There is a saying in reality: "Between rich and poor, there is only one hospital bed." "In our sixties, maintaining your health is essential. Healthy older people are able to maintain harmony in the family while saving the family economic expenses. In addition, "no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time" is a frustrating ending that we should try to avoid.
In order to live a happy old age, smart elders need to adhere to the following principles:
First of all, cultivate self-cultivation and cultivate virtue. Become a virtuous elder so as not to cause trouble to the family and enjoy happiness for three generations.
Second, don't get involved in unnecessary things and keep your duty. Avoid being nosy and being a wise old man will be respected by your family and have a good old age.
Finally, care for your health to secure your family and your own future. If there are no bedridden elderly in a family, family happiness is just around the corner.
Rid of these three "scourges" and adopt these three principles, family happiness will continue to flow and last.