Wang Shiling, who wants to be reincarnated on the whole network, is not only because she is "rich"
Text | Rice grain mother
Recently, there is a very interesting hot search: I will be Wang Shiling in the next life.
The rice mother clicked in and found that everyone was discussing Wang Shiling's life, and the birth was smooth, and the biggest hardship she had suffered was only in the few days in "Where Did Dad Go".
But strangely, what makes everyone envious this time is not Wang Shiling's high-profile and luxurious material conditions.
Encouragement and affirmation, rarer than matter
Wang Shiling first caused controversy because of Li Xiang's "wealth".
When he was on the show at the age of 4, he wore designer clothes worth tens of thousands of dollars, and attended Paris Fashion Week at the age of 5.
Since then, as long as Wang Shiling appears in the public eye, she will be picked up by careful people and any item on her body is expensive, combined with Li Xiang's statement that the family will spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on food alone in January.
The melon-eating masses accused Li Xiang of showing off his wealth and stressed that "a childhood piled up with money will only cultivate the values of a gold-worshipping woman."
But Li Xiang doesn't care about the rumors of the outside world, she just wants to leave the best for her daughter.
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At the age of 13, Wang Shiling was sent to study in the UK, with an annual optical fee of 350,000 yuan, and also lived in the "former residence" of Annie, the current eldest princess of the British royal family.
But this extravagant material condition is far less than Li Xiang's educational attitude can poke the heart.
This time, the real reversal of Li Xiang and Wang Shiling's views was because of a photo sent by Wang Shiling on Mother's Day.
In the photo, Li Xiang is sitting on a chair, a pair of loving eyes looking at his little daughter like that, it is not difficult to see that Li Xiang is proud of his daughter.
There is a comment that impressed Mi Li's mother deeply: "Many people have never been watched like this in their lives." ”
But Wang Shiling is surrounded by such eyes and love every day, she not only has money, but also loves more precious than money.
This also makes people focus on Wang Shiling's growth experience.
Li Xiang's love for his daughter has always been outgoing.
When she hosts the Hunan Satellite TV Spring Festival Gala, she will say in front of the national audience: Here, I also want to wish a child named Wang Shiling a happy New Year.
She will praise her daughter from morning to night, hoping that she has confidence and strength.
What is even more rare is that although Li Xiang also took the route of elite education and sent her daughter abroad to study early, she did not let her daughter enter a prestigious school, how great achievements she had.
I just hope that my daughter can have a broader perspective so that she can choose a favorite place to live in the future.
Enjoying wholehearted love without any pressure to grow, this alone makes Wang Shiling better than too many people.
A while ago, the only daughter of Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai became the object of people's envy, and everyone envied not only the wealth, but also the sense of relaxation in their bodies.
Rice grain mother also wrote in the article, the specific story poked: "The top matching life of the only daughter in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, tens of millions of wealth is the least worth mentioning? 》
In the end, the source of this relaxation is the love of parents, they do not need to bear the pressure they have to do, as long as they are themselves and live a good life.
Because of this, they are not afraid to make mistakes and can move forward more courageously.
It can be said that it is the absolute love of parents that makes Wang Shiling and the only daughter of Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai shine under the growth of Chinese-style education.
The educational model can be inherited without inheritance
A few days ago, Wang Yuelun also talked about Wang Shiling's education in an interview.
Although Wang Yuelun himself is unreliable in marriage, he does love his daughter.
In the interview, he talked about such an incident.
When Wang Shiling went to school, she felt very hurt because her male classmates laughed at her figure, so she made up her mind to lose weight.
Wang Shiling originally loved to eat all kinds of food, but in order to lose weight, she had to diet, control her appetite, and exercise non-stop every day.
Every night, when Wang Shiling wanted to eat food, she could only watch the food broadcast video to solve the hunger.
Speaking of this, Wang Yuelun couldn't help but choke.
He remembered his daughter's suffering to lose weight, and his heart ached to tears.
Someone can't understand, is this about?
The comments of netizens explain why: "Love is always feeling indebted. He cried because Wang Shiling was degraded by his classmates, and he couldn't help as a father. ”
After the divorce, for the sake of Wang Shiling, Li Xiang and Wang Yuelun have always maintained a relatively harmonious relationship, they will get together for their daughter, and they also pay attention to their daughter's growth.
Seeing Li Xiang and Wang Yuelun's love for their daughter, many people feel that their native family must also be full of love and warmth.
But the opposite is true.
Li Xiang's parents' education of her can be described as "harsh".
Li Xiang must do his best, but even so, he can't get a word of praise from his parents, and if he can get a word of praise, Li Xiang can't wait to cry.
Every time she came home, she would receive a long note listing her shortcomings.
At the age of 28, Li Xiang has clearly become the best entertainment hostess in China on Hunan Satellite TV.
But in my mother's mouth, it becomes: What else can you do besides being a host?
Li Xiang was not convinced, left the happy base camp, and went north to start a business.
Later, she invested, bought a house, and livestreamed goods, stepping on the wind again and again, but every change was also proving to her parents that I could.
Wang Yuelun's family education was also depressed, because his father was a famous painter, and he began to learn to paint at the age of 5.
When I was a child, even if I took the wrong gesture with a pen, I would attract a reprimand from my father.
After being with Li Xiang, he revealed in the interview that his father had never praised him once, and only Li Xiang would encourage him.
Their native family education is not happy, but as parents, Li Xiang and Wang Yuelun did not continue this education model, but made up for all their childhood debts to their daughters.
In addition to encouragement and affirmation, as parents, they will always stand by their daughter's side.
Since the beginning of "Where Is Dad Going", there have been people constantly attacking Wang Shiling's figure, and even humiliating the little child's figure.
Once on the show, a girl asked: "I want to ask Angela, does your mother often give you a lot of food?" I feel like you're a little bit fat. ”
Wang Shiling immediately hung his head when he heard this, and Li Xiang saw that he first comforted his daughter with his hand, and then picked up the microphone and replied:
"In fact, Wang Shiling is a little fat, but because she is very young, she is now baby fat."
After solving her daughter's siege, she suggested that the other party could gently suggest exercising together next time, and that she could also be friends with fat girls.
In another program, the host He Jiong asked Li Xiang "under what circumstances would he criticize his daughter", which made Wang Shiling's eyes widen, and an embarrassed expression immediately appeared on his small face.
Li Xiang did not follow He Jiong's words, but said firmly: "We don't want to say that she is not good in public and give her a little face." ”
Seeing Li Xiang fighting for his daughter and safeguarding his child's self-esteem, many adults who have grown up can't help but have red eyes.
Because many parents always take the initiative to expose their children's shortcomings in front of people, and even ignore their children's wishes, as a talking point.
They do not think that the child has self-esteem, let alone respect the emotional needs of the child, and the child naturally does not feel loved.
When the gears of love between parents and children are misaligned, no amount of effort can make a harmonious gesture.
Wealth is not the basis for expressing love
Mother Mi believes that seeing this, there must be many people who think that the reason why Li Xiang and Wang Yuelun can love their daughter so much is because they are rich.
Indeed, without money, Wang Shiling could not go to an aristocratic school, and could not have such freedom and happiness.
But this also has another question, do rich children necessarily be happy?
In the well-known "Metamorphometer", all the rich second generation have their own problems before the transformation, and rebellion is the biggest label.
Their families have favorable conditions, but parents either suppress their children or ignore their children, and the oppressive family atmosphere, the tense parent-child relationship, how can they raise happy and happy children.
Rice grain mother saw a netizen's message and felt very moved:
I don't envy Wang Shiling, only a sense of identity, because I was also loved and madly praised, and in their eyes I am the best, without any shortcomings.
Even if the parents are not so rich, they can make the child feel proud when they think of their parents' love, even in the face of Wang Shiling, who is so different from her own economic conditions, she can still say with confidence:
I feel no less love than you.
Mother Migrain knows that some parents are accustomed to discouragement and suppression of their children, which may stem from their own childhood pains.
But as adults, we have the ability to control ourselves, and we can also "change our lives" and become unhappy parents.
Rice grain mother once wrote about a girl who lived with her parents in a rental house after she quit naked, and although the living conditions were not good, the family of three always had a smile on their faces.
A girl bought eye cream for her mother with her first salary, and her mother did not count the children to waste money, but sent it to relatives in groups, and showed off a lot.
There is also a girl whose hair is dyed lilac, and when she goes to eat at a relative's house, someone is not used to pointing fingers, and her mother protects her daughter, and immediately replies: My daughter's hair matter, relatives do not care.
There is also a young mother who saw her daughter get up early in the morning to make egg soup, did not skimp on praise, but told her loudly: You are really good!
Having seen these little things happening around you and me, Rice Mother wants to say:
Love is free and the most precious in the world.
It is not necessary to have money to make children feel the happiness of Wang Shiling, and the spiritual nourishment that children need most is more important than money.
In the process of your child's growth, encourage and affirm more, even if your child needs criticism after making a mistake, remember to tell him, I still love you.
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