#秋日生活打卡季#
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In the face of human nature and reality, no matter what kind of relationship you are facing, there can be no special cases that are out of reasonable distance.
Any kind of relationship must maintain a reasonable distance in order to make the relationship continue and develop benignly.
In relationships, the distance is too far and impersonal, and the final relationship is dispensable. Too close a distance, and in the end, it is easy to be too unbounded and hate the past kindness.
In the solidified concept, the brother-sister relationship formed passively will always be identified as a relationship of honor and disgrace that does not need to have the slightest doubt, cannot be seduced by any reality and human nature, and is used by the heart in any way.
However, the more sibling relationships that are identified in this way and do not want to have any doubts, the easier it is for people to taste the deepest pain brought about by human nature and reality.
Between siblings, in the end relatives! When the distance between relatives is out of a reasonable range, the small is noisy, and the large is old and dead.
In more serious cases, siblings fight and curse each other. Not only do you not communicate with each other, but you will also encounter opportunities to "take revenge"!
This phenomenon is the most chilling result of people who really pay attention to brothers and sisters and parents.
For the sake of brothers and sisters, even if the communication is not close, do not break the relationship, the enemy is opposed, and do not challenge humanity and reality.
Brothers and sisters should follow the "two eight distance": understand that it is already coming!
1: Two relatives, eight relatives, each of them, do their own and then ask each other
In the face of human nature and reality, you expect too much from any kind of relationship, and you will inevitably be bruised.
Perhaps, some people say that I really don't expect anything in return for my brothers and sisters. However, the attitude of the brothers and sisters to respond is not ideal, do you think the person who gives will be chilled?
The more chills you have, the stronger your sense of imbalance in the relationship becomes. The sense of imbalance can make people stingy to give, and stinginess is a direct reflection of what you actually want to achieve no results...
Between brothers and sisters, they are relatives before they are independent, and they are relatives after they are independent. It seems that there is no intention to pay, but in fact, the biggest intention is to let the other party remember their good and be grateful for the response!
If someone responds to the ideal attitude, words and deeds of the person who gives to himself because of gratitude, the relationship will get along very harmoniously and harmoniously.
But how can there really be the same between people?
Or, how can the response you give and receive not create a sense of imbalance in your psyche at all times?
It's okay to give to your brothers and sisters, but you can't be without bottom lines and principles, or even forget yourself for the sake of relationships! Otherwise, brothers and sisters will start the mode of ungratitude and moral kidnapping, making you miserable!
Between siblings, it is a relationship of transition from relatives to relatives. Don't expect too much, but also give moderation. When there is nothing to do, it is best to go your own way except the simplest greetings, and only give advice when there is something big!
Don't use the improper "too close" to make yourself suffer from being stabbed!
There is a good saying, first do yourself well and then ask the other party!
The "do yourself well" here is often to give a degree, love yourself first and then love others, rather than blindly paying to be called a good self! Asking the other party is that you tell the other party with the bottom line and principles after you go all out and do what you can:
I could have done otherwise! You can be ungrateful, but you have to understand what no one should do to you!
2: When communicating between brothers and sisters, it is necessary to be sober and confused
In any kind of relationship, being too clear will hurt you.
Especially for the relationship you care about, you must be a little more confused, so that you will not turn expectations into resentment after expectations are replaced by disappointment!
As long as resentment arises, even if the relationship is relieved at some point, it will continue to turn the old resentment over again when new unpleasantness comes.
When old resentment is added to new resentment, and the relationship cannot be terminated in time, this phenomenon will endlessly arise in a state of badness, worse, and extreme evil.
Really, in order not to let the phenomenon of old and dead and enemies not interacting with each other and enemies occurring, in order to avoid such a state, no matter how much you have paid in the relationship, you must be difficult to be confused!
After all, no one really threatens you to do that in the process of giving.
Everything is of your own free will. In this case, don't be too clear, remember less of what you have paid, be responded to in an unideal state, and be appropriately confused and don't identify too clearly...
After all, it is a self-embarrassing thing, what to do with such a clear matter?
In addition, remember not to tell about the contradictions and wrongs between your brothers and sisters with ordinary social relationships that you think you can trust.
Such behavior itself will not bring you any benefit, but will make you a joke among others!
Once there is an unpleasantness between you and the object of your ordinary social relationship, you will be directly labeled:
Don't expect someone who doesn't get along well with his or her siblings...
Therefore, to be yourself, it is rare to be confused, this is the best respect for the relationship between brothers and sisters, but also the salvation of yourself.
3: For the children of brothers and sisters, two points of love, eight points of cold
Some people say that the children of brothers and sisters are no different from those born to themselves, why be more cold?
In fact, the majority of people who are too good to their brothers and sisters and children end up hurting themselves. And you must not think that you are lucky enough to be grateful to your brothers and sisters and their children.
In real life, many people regard their siblings as their own, and even value their children more than their own.
Outcome:
(1) It is not uncommon for children of brothers and sisters to only know how to ask and not be grateful and refuse to persuade them;
(2) Siblings think that thinking that the child's success is the child's good quality, and if the child has a bad pool, it is the result of misguidance or suggestions caused by your too much intervention.
Brothers and sisters are nothing more than relatives, and their children are nothing more than the children of relatives.
Closeness is when the younger generation respects the elders and comes to ask for help with a sincere heart, and you respond at a reasonable distance, which triggers their gratitude.
Don't let your brothers and sisters feel that you should give for their children, don't let your brothers and sisters' children feel that when they ask for you, they are not outsiders responding to gratitude, and that your calculations are heavy...
The only good way is to love two points and eight points cold! For the children of siblings: I can be good to you, but all conditionally, not without bottom lines and without principles!
For the children of brothers and sisters who know how to be grateful, you can say a little more, for those who do not know how to be evil, it is better to break the contact, so as not to endlessly consume you with a "pro" word card!
Finally, I would like to advise all:
Between brothers and sisters, do not cooperate with wealth and common benefit, the help you think is a direct factor in self-harm under human nature and reality!
Regarding money and benefits, giving must be thankful, and borrowing must have an IOU.
A life is short, don't leave yourself the slightest way back. For the sake of your brothers and sisters, let yourself be unreasonable, bruised all over, that is your foolishness!
For the rest of your life, when facing the relationship between brothers and sisters, you really have a clear conscience, and that's enough!
Love is the purgatory of man in the world. Whether it's love or friendship, only when you meet the right person at the right time can you achieve positive results!
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