There is a rural proverb: "Lips move right and wrong, but actions are not firm." ”
This statement points out that young people and babies often speak carelessly, which leads to rash behavior in the handling of affairs and often ends up messing up the situation.
By the way, young people lack experience, often credulous and provoke waves in vain.
Learn to speak for three years, and learn silence for life. This is not only wisdom, but also insight into the world.
At the age of fifty, children are also at the beginning of society, so they need to set an example and judge their own words.
Reveal the affairs of your children before others, and disaster will come.
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Children who take exams are slightly exposed, fearing jealousy.
There is a term in society called "job search".
Obtaining a position in a graduate student, civil servant, career establishment, state-owned enterprise, etc., symbolizes that he has "applied for a job" and can support himself for the rest of his life. This is the employment orientation of many young people.
The exam is really difficult, and you have to go through many trials and difficulties.
We have to face the reality that if our children fail the exam, others will laugh and ridicule, saying: "I would rather go out and work hard than live at home and do nothing"; If the children are among the children, others will be jealous and say, "Congratulations."
The examination process is not exempt from written examination, interview, physical examination, political review, publicity and other steps, which are intertwined, and there must be no sloppiness.
Glimpsing such cumbersome procedures and the complexity of human nature, you can realize that you must not say "how well my child has done in the exam", lest the dust settle. Even if you get your job, you should keep your mouth shut, and there will eventually be follow-up work to do.
In particular, there are people who use all means to come to the door and make their children's examinations encounter all kinds of obstacles.
They think that they are "of good character and not afraid of slander", but they do not know that they are targeted by evil people, disturbed and unclear, and there is no good end in the end. If some steps do slip through, it's self-defeating.
There is a case on the web. A female college student in Sichuan who went to the graduate school exam with her girlfriend.
After the exam, the female college student did well, but the girlfriend fell off the list. During the conversation between the two, the female college student said: "After the bell rang, there was still a question that I had not finished, so I wrote it hard." ”
In a word, she was caught by her girlfriend, so she accumulated relevant information and reported it to the examination institute, resulting in the female college student's grades being invalidated.
Remember, integrity should still guard against evildoers.
For topics such as exams, adults should not reveal them, children should also take care of them, others should mention them, it is advisable to respond with a smile, change the topic at the right time, or keep silent and keep a certain distance from them.
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Children who first taste love, a little leakage, may be vilified.
In the past, I thought that a good woman would marry without worry, and a good man would marry without worry.
Today, beautiful women are also worried about marrying, and good men are also difficult to marry. In the world, there are countless unmarried women and men who are slightly older. For those who love young, clutching is also a common thing.
As soon as the child has a lover, the parents are immediately triumphant and hate not to let everyone know.
However, the children have just entered the society, and everything is proud, and they must be more stable.
When they found their lover, their parents immediately spoke up, causing neighbors, relatives and friends to come to comment and torture them to ask why they were.
It seems like a beautiful thing, but once it is talked about, disaster is coming.
My cousin Xiaohuang, 32 years old, worked with Xiaoli through a classmate.
Xiaohuang's mother, with joy, spreads joy in the countryside, so that her cousin will not be single.
After a few days, Xiaoli began to dislike Xiaohuang and had the idea of breaking up.
It turned out that one of Xiaoli's cousins married into the village where Xiaohuang lived, and the cousin had a feud with Xiaohuang's mother and fought for a vacant land.
Xiaoli's cousin conveyed a message to Xiaoli's parents: "This Xiaohuang, graduated from college, has not had a stable job for a long time; People are extremely introverted, blind dates several times, no girl is willing. Pondering, everyone abandons it, not for no reason. In the future, Xiaohuang's livelihood will be difficult, and it is impossible to know what will happen in the future..."
As the saying goes, "Don't speak before trial." ”
Finding a lover is only the beginning of love, and it is not necessary to enter marriage.
As parents, you should have expectations and make friends with the "prospective parents" to facilitate marriage. Externally, it is advisable to avoid extravagance,
Avoid inviting many ominous people and enemies.
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The child's salary and work situation are slightly exaggerated, or affect the child's development.
The mother expects the son to be bright, and the father wishes the son to shine in the ancestors.
When children have achieved something, parents may be complacent, eager for the family and the world to know.
However, when the child is just starting her career and her career development is uncertain, it is even more important to stabilize the pace.
To be admitted to the civil service, you must also go through an internship period. Of course, other companies also have internships, and performance evaluation is crucial.
It is dangerous for children to be jealous or involved in disputes during the internship stage.
Even if the child's career is stable, it is advisable to remain cautious in his words and actions, and be as stable as Mount Tai for life. The workplace is full of ups and downs, and the variables are infinite.
Xiaozhu, the son of his aunt, works as a secretary in a company in Shenzhen and has a good understanding of company operations and manager communication. Therefore, Xiaozhu returned to his hometown and discussed many company topics.
As soon as the aunt started school, she showed off Xiaozhuzhi's work in the group of relatives, and Xiaozhu was already in the middle of the company.
A few days later, his uncle's son traveled from Dongguan to Shenzhen, looking for Xiaozhu, hoping for a position.
Xiaozhu struggled and refused to assist in the job search.
The uncle was in the group of relatives, and his words were ambiguous: "What is Xiaozhu?" Can't even assist with a position..."
Helping friends and family is a must. However, the ability to assist is another matter.
If relatives and friends borrow money to ask for money, even if they have wealth, they do not need to allow it lightly. I may wish not to disclose anything, how much I have deposited.
Showing off comes from a weak heart, and those who show off are often easy to lose. Parents, be humble.
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Confucius said: "Do not blame the heavens, do not blame others." Failed to understand, ask yourself. ”
When you are in trouble, do not blame God, do not blame others, and reflect on yourself.
Restraining your words and being cautious in your words and actions makes it impossible for others to know your details and reduces the chances of them hurting you.
Careful adherence to words and self-cultivation are not only the tempering of oneself, but also the greatest concern for one's children.
At any time, distinguish between inside and outside the home, learn to steal pleasure, and be silently happy.
Life is fifty years old, and it is the responsibility of escorting children and parents.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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