In 1960, Deng Yingchao had a physical examination, and the doctor found that there was an abnormality in her pelvis, and the situation may not be optimistic, and I didn't know how to tell Deng Yingchao, they asked Premier Zhou for instructions, and Premier Zhou said: "Tell her the truth." ”
Why did Premier Zhou make such a decision? What disease does Deng Yingchao have? What was the final result?
First, Deng Yingchao's body is abnormal
In 1960, during a physical examination of Deng Yingchao, doctors found a mass in her pelvis, and they were not sure what it was, but they all made bad plans in their hearts.
Probably afraid that the patient would not be able to bear it and affect his mood, the doctor did not tell Deng Yingchao directly about the situation, but reported it to Premier Zhou, saying: "Comrade Deng Yingchao's physical examination results are not very optimistic, there is an abnormality found in the pelvis, I am afraid that it is cancer, do you want to tell her the situation?" ”
Premier Zhou replied decisively: "Tell her truthfully, I believe she can accept it." ”
Although he said so firmly, Premier Zhou was also worried in his heart, worried about both Deng Yingchao's body and her emotions. However, Deng Yingchao did not "betwe" Premier Zhou's trust.
After hearing this not very good news, Deng Yingchao said calmly: "It's okay, if you come here, you can treat it as you want." The revolution has all struggled, and it is a big deal to fight against malignant tumors again. ”
Deng Yingchao did not show the slightest pessimism, but comforted the people around her, and she was soon admitted to the Union Hospital for treatment. Premier Zhou's work is still very busy, but he tries to find time every day to see Deng Yingchao in the hospital.
The plan formulated by the doctor was to remove the foreign body surgically, and when the operation was done, it was determined that the foreign body was an ovarian cyst, not a malignant tumor, and everyone breathed a sigh of relief, and the operation went smoothly.
Fortunately, it was a false alarm, but Premier Zhou was able to calmly make such a decision at that time, and it was also his "respect" and "faith" to his wife.
The marriage of Premier Zhou and Deng Yingchao has a short romance of paper, the perseverance of a revolutionary couple, and a trust that does not hide from each other, and they are true spiritual partners, and they have their own set of principles for getting along as husband and wife.
2. The principle of "eight mutuals"
During their stay in Hongyan, Premier Zhou and his wife summed up the "eight mutual" principles between husband and wife through repeated conversations, which are mutual love, mutual respect, mutual encouragement, mutual comfort, mutual accommodation, mutual understanding, mutual assistance and mutual learning.
In 1941, Fu Daqing and Feng Dazhang held a wedding and invited Premier Zhou.
At the wedding, Premier Zhou toasted the couple and said to everyone present: "On a day like this, I have some views on marriage. I believe that we must have a correct outlook on love before marriage, and a correct outlook on family and life after marriage. After marriage, we must do better revolutionary work. ”
Premier Zhou also mentioned his marriage: "Since Xiaochao and I got married, we have respected and loved each other and helped each other, so our lives are happy and prosperous." ”
Premier Zhou conveyed his attitude towards marriage to everyone, and by the way, he also showed a show of affection, and everyone said: "Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao are really a model couple." ”
In Zhou En's view, he prefers "not concealing" to "white lies", which is also part of "respect", and everyone has the right to know about their own affairs. Zhou Enlai once "complained" Deng Yingchao for her concealment.
Third, Deng Yingchao's concealment
Zhou Enlai's father was named Zhou Maochen, and everyone called him "Old Lady Zhou".
In the spring of 1940, Zhou Maochen was brought to live in Hongyan, and Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao would visit him on Sundays when they were free, and they were very filial to the elderly.
In June 1942, Premier Zhou was arranged for surgery at the Central Hospital because of a small intestinal hernia. Coincidentally, Old Lady Zhou suddenly fell ill with malaria during this period and fell ill in bed. In order not to worry the old man, everyone never told him about Premier Zhou's illness.
Old Mrs. Zhou lay on the bed for several days, never seeing her son, and chanted every day: "Why didn't Enlai come to see me?" I haven't seen him in a long time. ”
Deng Yingchao comforted: "Enlai is too busy, he will come to see you when he is free." ”
Deng Yingchao did not tell Premier Zhou about the old man's illness at first, afraid that he would worry, but the old man's illness has not improved, and it is getting more and more serious, Deng Yingchao felt that he could not hide it, so he told Premier Zhou.
Premier Zhou was very anxious, but he had just undergone surgery and could not get out of bed, so he could only keep writing to his wife to ask about his father's situation.
On July 10, the old man unfortunately passed away, at this time Premier Zhou's body had not yet healed, Deng Yingchao was afraid that he would be stimulated, and decided to hide the old man's death in advance.
On July 13, Premier Zhou was discharged from the hospital, walked into the office building, and waited for the news that "his father had died three days ago." Premier Zhou couldn't help but squat on the ground and couldn't stop crying.
In those days, when sons paid attention to "old-age care" for their parents, their illnesses could be slowly raised, but once their father died, he would never see him again, and he was the person who should be present, but he was 3 days late.
Premier Zhou, who has always been mild, blamed Deng Yingchao: "Others don't know me, don't you know yet?" Why are you all hiding from me! ”
The white lie brought Premier Zhou eternal regret.
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