Director Zhao's article tells a story of internal family disputes, involving disputes between aunts, the allocation of responsibilities, the choice of the elderly, and the complexity of family relationships. This story reflects what can happen in many rural and urban homes. Below, I will reframe the article to reinforce these points of view and add my own analysis and understanding.
In my house, there is an aunt, she is the kind of person who speaks directly and without mincing, has little education, but can say whatever she thinks. Her mouth has never been welcomed by the villagers, and she will not be invited to participate in any happy or funeral event in the village.
Once, the grandmother of the family fell and then died. At that time, my aunt said a sentence that I will always remember: "The old lady will no longer have to suffer from illness, she will never be rejected again, and it is good to die in this way." As a result, this sentence caused divisions within the family, and our whole family treated her coldly.
In my family, I have three aunts, and the eldest aunt is the only one who does not have much education. And the second and third aunts are both teachers in the town and have culture. My aunt's life was hard, she didn't have her own land and her income was limited, but she spent all her money on taking care of her grandmother.
My dad was an honest farmer who offered to have four children take care of his grandmother. However, the second and third aunts were firmly opposed because they believed that the grandmother's funeral expenses were paid by the inheritance of the eldest uncle. Although this cost was not much, Dad said angrily: "Okay, I'll share it with my eldest sister." This made Mom angry, and she thought it was unfair.
Therefore, the grandmother's living expenses have always been borne by the aunt alone. Although her aunt works everywhere, her salary is barely enough to support her grandmother, because she is very frugal and eats some cheap vegetables. Grandma was happy with this simple lifestyle.
Later, the second and third aunts suddenly proposed to move their grandmother to the town and take turns taking care of her. This touched the aunt, and she agreed. But later we found out that they did this because they heard that the village was going to be demolished, and they felt that the aunt had no culture and wanted to take advantage of the opportunity to squeeze her out.
Dad learned the truth and wanted to intervene, but ultimately did not. Because the reasons of the second and third aunts seem reasonable, after all, the funeral expenses of the eldest uncle are paid by the grandmother, and they feel that they cannot let the money be given to an outsider.
In fact, although the aunt is not her biological grandmother, she has always treated her as if she were biological. However, my mother sided with the second and third aunts and asked to take care of my grandmother and distribute the money. This led to an increase in conflicts within the family.
Soon after, her grandmother's physical condition deteriorated, and she remained healthy under the care of her aunt. But the aunt was also old and in poor health, and his father wanted to visit his grandmother, but because of his mother's opposition, he did not dare to go out.
So, Dad proposed to introduce an object to his aunt, hoping that she could go out to do some farm work and learn about the other party's family situation by the way. The aunt was initially reluctant, but Dad promised to take care of Grandma. So, the aunt reluctantly agreed.
However, Mom thinks it's unfair and feels why we have to take care of Grandma without getting something in return. She prevented her father from going out, causing the second and third aunts to come back and take turns taking care of her grandmother. But they didn't stay for long either, just did some brief help.
In the end, Grandma spent most of her time alone in the yard, basking in the sun herself, and died after falling. The death of grandma sparked quarrels and complaints within the family.
This story tells us that in many families, older people choose not to publicly express their dissatisfaction with their children, preferring to suffer themselves rather than be a burden to their children. This is a sad phenomenon in both rural and urban areas.
My mother and my third aunt have not been in contact for many years, and I already have my own family
。 In my opinion, the strife and contradiction within this family is not an isolated incident, it reflects the common problems that exist in many families. First of all, the problem of old-age care for the elderly is a real challenge, especially in rural areas, and children often need to take on more responsibilities. However, how to distribute these responsibilities equitably and how to deal with disputes within the family is a complex issue.
In this story, we see the contradiction between family affection, responsibility and money. Although not biological, the aunt has always taken care of her grandmother wholeheartedly, while her sisters try to exclude her, causing family discord. Mom also shows a selfish and selfish side in the process, which complicates family relationships even more.
Another concern is that older people choose not to publicly express their grievances and endure pain, which is also food for thought. They prefer to endure in silence rather than be a burden to their children, which reflects a view of family responsibilities, but can also lead to misunderstandings and conflicts within the family.
Finally, the story also reflects communication issues in the family. If family members were more open to communication and understanding of each other's positions and needs, many unnecessary disputes and conflicts might be avoided.
This story made me think deeply and made me cherish the understanding and communication in family relationships even more. When dealing with the elderly care issues, we need more care and understanding to ensure that every family member can receive the respect and love they deserve. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the problem of old-age care at the social level and find better solutions, so that the elderly can live their old age in peace and do not have to suffer in silence. This may be a broader revelation for the story.
Overall, the story, while fraught with strife and discord, also makes us reflect on the importance of family relationships, the distribution of responsibilities, and communication. It is hoped that every family can create a more harmonious family atmosphere through understanding and tolerance.