Now the old man is difficult, you don't coax your grandchildren, daughters-in-law think that you are hiding, don't help me when you can work, and when you are old, I will also stand idly by. But once the old man helps coax the child, son, daughter-in-law will complain that the old man does not do well here, what he does there is unhygienic, in short, the old man is also wrong to coax his grandson, and it is even more wrong not to coax his grandson.
Recently, a mother in Hunan shared a video of a grandmother with her grandson, which caused widespread heated discussions.
This lady married her husband, after having children, she has always taken care of the children alone, and her grandmother also comes to see occasionally, and soon she will leave in a hurry, and the old man always says that she is old and has no energy to take the children.
This lady also understands the old man, thinking that she can bring it if she can give birth, and there is no need to trouble others.
But recently, something happened to his mother's house, he had to go back, it took about a week to go back and forth, and his husband had no time to bring it to work, and he could only let his mother-in-law help take care of it for a few days. Her own children are more trouble-free, and this lady thinks that it should be no problem to let her mother-in-law bring it, wash and wash, and then feed some milk powder, it should not be too difficult.
The lady was also relieved to let her mother-in-law take the child for a week, but when she came home, she almost cried when she saw the child on the bed.
I saw that my son with a wound on his head was slowly sucking in holding a yellowed milk bottle, with tear stains on his face, and fell asleep. His little face is also dirty, and then look at the clothes he is wearing, wrinkled, his clothes are full of juice, and there are yellowing stains on his chest, and the mother's heart aches when he sees the child like this.
Afterwards, the woman asked her mother-in-law if she had disinfected the bottle, and whether the child's clothes were washed separately by hand? The mother-in-law's answer made the woman almost collapse, and the grandmother said that she only simply rinsed the bottle with water every time, never disinfected, and as for the clothes, they were washed together with the adults' clothes in the washing machine.
This lady's heart is dripping blood after hearing this, looking at her sleeping son, it is painful and angry, the child has suffered such a big crime a week away from herself, she is glad that she decided to take the child, but then it was unimaginable, originally she was grateful to her mother-in-law, but now she is more angry.
After the woman sent out the video, it caused a lot of discussion on the Internet, mostly accusing her grandmother of not being conscientious, not doing her best, and being so confused about her own grandchildren, and some people went online, saying that in the future, when her mother-in-law is old, her bowl will only be soaked with clean water.
From the details of life to the moral level, I think it is a bit of a fuss.
Conclusion: Whether this grandmother loves her grandson should also be considered from the following aspects, what is the physical condition of the elderly, taking care of such a young child is actually very laborious, whether his physical condition is qualified for this job, if the health is not too good, the old man is still reluctant to take care of his grandson, should the children be another attitude?
Moreover, the old man's education level, the environment, and his usual living habits are all determined how he brings his grandson, if not to mention other conditions, unilaterally accusing grandma is something wrong, not loving grandchildren's grandma, it can be said, there is, but it must be a very rare phenomenon, the child's head injury must also be unintentional, as the saying goes, there is no merit and hard work, there is really no need to blame the old man excessively.
In fact, there is no lack of rational voices in the society, from a rational point of view to the problem, the elderly help is love, not help is duty, if the woman leaves home to explain to the bottle disinfection and separate hand washing clothes such things, I think the old people will also do it, if you don't say, many old people can't think of this aspect, because his ideological concepts and living habits do not allow him to do this, so for the elderly, understanding should be greater than complaining.
Children recognize birth, even if their grandmother, not often in front of her, the child must not be very close to her, it can be imagined, these seven days grandma must have suffered a lot of sin, as a child should still stand in the perspective of the elderly to consider the problem, help you, is better than not helping, right?
Respecting the old and loving the young is always the best fine tradition of the Chinese nation! It is good to have someone to help bring up children, but the two generations have different parenting concepts, living habits, and even their own energy, causing huge differences in the details of taking care of children, it can only be said that the elderly do not take good care, but it cannot be said that the elderly do not love their grandchildren!
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