In March 2020, Wu Zaibin, who had disappeared from people's sight for a long time, posted a Weibo: "Honey, I'm in love... In the days to come, I will leave my thoughts to you and give her love. ”
This confession of true feelings is full of happiness, but because there are two different "shes" in it, it is different. One "she" is Wu Zaibin's former wife Yan Hongwei, who died of breast cancer 1 year ago; The other "she" is Wu Zaibin's new love object.
The story of Wu Zaibin and Yan Hongwei, the couple's fight against cancer together, was broadcast in the documentary "The World" and attracted a lot of attention.
One year after Yan Hongwei's death, Wu Zaibin's Weibo exposing the relationship quickly aroused heated discussions among netizens who had followed the couple, and the degree of attention was also unexpected by Wu Zaibin.
Some people expressed understanding, but most people sneered, saying that Wu Zaibin was unkind, and even began to break rumors about Wu Zaibin's "cheating" and "junior".
So is this former couple "husband and wife with deep love and life and death", or "husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, and they fly separately when the disaster comes"?
A bolt from the blue
Since the beginning of 2017, Yan Hongwei has felt chest pain from time to time, but she has always had a good physique, but she has not paid attention to it. But soon, instead of disappearing, the pain worsened. After Yan Hongwei went to the hospital for examination, he was diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer.
The bad news made Yan Hong slightly like falling into an ice cave. Because her triple-negative breast cancer is an advanced stage of cancer, it is extremely dangerous, and there is almost no possibility of cure.
Yan Hongwei, who couldn't suppress his trembling, dialed her husband Wu Zaibin's phone, who was on a business trip abroad at this time. After learning the news, Wu Zaibin immediately comforted his wife on the phone and returned to China as soon as possible.
In order to verify the accuracy of the inspection report, Wu Zaibin took Yan Hongwei to change hospitals for repeated examinations, but never got the results they expected.
Again and again, their hopes were dashed, and finally they turned into deep disappointment and had to accept the facts in front of them.
Yan Hong knew how to be good. She couldn't give up her elderly parents, loving husband, and young and lovely daughter, but there was not much time left for her by the cruel illness.
Looking at his helpless wife, Wu Zaibin forced himself to calm down. He comforted Yan Hongwei, "Don't be afraid, I have always accompanied you, even if I lose my family, I will cure your disease." ”
The support of her lover is Yan Hongwei's greatest courage to live, and she decided to be strong and fight the disease. Through their inquiries, they learned that the survival rate of triple-negative breast cancer is only 11%, but they will never give up even if there is only one percent hope.
So, they sent the child to his grandmother's house, and Wu Zaibin also put down his busy work and accompanied Yan Hongwei to the hospital.
Subsequently, Yan Hongwei began frequent chemotherapy, as well as countless tests and drugs. The chemotherapy caused her to vomit frequently, darken her skin, and begin to swell.
After 42 rounds of chemotherapy, the indicators were never good, and Yan Hongwei collapsed again.
During this period, Wu Zaibin worked very hard. In order to take care of his wife nearby, he rented a small private room near the hospital. In addition to accompanying Yan Hongwei for treatment every day, he is also responsible for her three meals a day.
Because Yan Hongwei had a bad appetite after chemotherapy, he changed his tricks to make some of his wife's favorite meals and sent them to the hospital.
Whenever Yan Hongwei's mood fluctuated, he carefully explained it at the first time.
Over the past few months, Wu Zaibin has visibly lost weight. But what pained him was that their efforts had no effect. But in the face of his wife, he could not show such pessimism, and constantly encouraged her to persevere.
With her husband's love and encouragement, Yan Hongwei became more and more optimistic. She spoke to her cancer cells: "You must be smart, otherwise I will die and you will not live." ”
Faced with the unsatisfactory examination data, she actually said: "It is worthy of my cancer cells, it is really powerful." However, the bitterness behind this sentence is something that outsiders cannot experience.
For the sake of suffering, they often recall their shared school, love and young daughter.
Love from campus to wedding dress
Yan Hongwei was born in an ordinary working-class family in Jinzhong. She has been smart, sensible and diligent since childhood, and after ten years of cold window, she was admitted to Nanjing University of Science and Technology.
In college, Yan Hongwei not only excelled academically, but also had a lively personality and liked literature and art. She loves to dance, is a member of the school's street dance club, and often participates in school performances. At the same time, she is also the announcer of the school's radio station, which is a beautiful scenery in the school, and naturally attracts the admiration of many male students.
Faced with many suitors, Yan Hongwei was never moved, and it was not until Wu Zaibin appeared that she opened her heart.
Wu Zaibin is the junior brother of Xiao Yan Hongwei for two terms. At the orientation party, Wu Zaibin and his classmates lined up to watch the programs of other classes at the entrance of the venue.
The radiant Yan Hongwei on the stage suddenly attracted Wu Zaibin's attention.
Because of participating in school activities, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin have more contact, compared to Yan Hongwei's cheerful personality, Wu Zaibin has a quiet personality and does not say much.
But as they got to know each other better, they gradually developed feelings for each other and established a romantic relationship. Yan Hongwei feels that he and Wu Zaibin are "people who really have fate".
After that, they walked through the wonderful college years hand in hand, and the relationship between the two became deeper and deeper day after day. In 2008, Wu Zaibin joined the work after graduation, while Yan Hongwei continued to study at the university.
At the end of 2012, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin, who had experienced 7 years of long-distance love running, finally entered the palace of marriage. Yan Hongwei wrote on Weibo, "It is the greatest luck of my life to meet you in the sea of people."
In 2013, Dr. Yan Hongwei came to Wu Zaibin in Shanghai after graduation. With his outstanding ability, Yan Hongwei entered Shanghai University of Engineering Science to teach and became an enviable college teacher. The couple bought a house in Shanghai and had their own small home.
One year later, they were overjoyed to welcome the birth of their daughter and poured all their love into her. When Yan Hongwei was in confinement, Wu Zaibin took good care of her, and did not let Yan Hongwei interfere in laundry and cooking.
Although he is a new father, he learned to bathe his daughter, change diapers, and make milk powder after consulting with his elders, and he can be called an "all-round daddy".
In the daughter's loud crying, the couple's relationship became even sweeter. As his daughter grew up, Yan Hongwei took care of her daughter while working as a teacher, while Wu Zaibin worked harder outside the home and tried to create a more comfortable life for his wife and daughter.
Unexpectedly, in the quiet of the years, the disease was menacing.
The couple can only entrust their daughter to the old man and devote themselves to this battle against cancer without knowing the end. The condition that did not improve at all made Yan Hongwei also have the idea of giving up from time to time, but when she thought of her husband and young daughter, she once again and again plucked up the courage to continue to persevere.
Dashed hopes
Treatment, examination, retreatment, Yan Hongwei is tormented in such a cycle. After the fifth chemotherapy course, the follow-up data showed that the cancer cells in Yan Hongwei's body were not only not suppressed, but had spread to the lungs.
For the sake of his family, Yan Hongwei still has a lot of energy to understand the treatment plan.
By chance, she learned about Anderson Cancer Center, an authoritative cancer treatment institution in the United States. It represents the highest expectations for cancer treatment in the world, and there have been some cases of recovery.
After discussing with Wu Zaibin, they decided to win a glimmer of life. Yan Hongwei sent his medical records, and the other party replied that they needed to go to the United States for further examination. With Wu Zaibin's firm support, Yan Hongwei decided to give it a go.
But the cost of treatment in the United States has become a difficult problem for them. In the process of previous treatment, the family's savings have been spent. Therefore, Yan Hong withdrew slightly, she did not want to leave her husband and children with heavy debts, but Wu Zaibin resolutely sold everything that could be sold at home and scraped together the cost of going to the United States.
At this time, Yan Hongwei was also like a soldier about to go to the battlefield, and once again puffed up his fighting spirit. In December 2018, the couple flew to Houston, USA.
Anderson Cancer Center receives an extremely limited number of patients per day. On the 7th day after arriving, Yan Hongwei met the attending doctor, and the 30-minute consultation cost more than 600 US dollars. Yan Hongwei prepared for a lung puncture on the advice of his doctor, but the operation could only be scheduled after 10 days and cost up to $21,000.
In desperation, they asked their families in China for help, which made up the cost. In order to wait for the puncture operation and the results, they stayed in the United States for another 1 month, and the living expenses of this made the couple stretched, but they could only grit their teeth and insist.
The final test results gave them a glimmer of hope, and the diagnosis showed that Yan Hongwei "tested positive for estrogen receptors, not a typical triple-negative breast cancer, and could be restored through endocrine therapy." ”
This is undoubtedly good news, but the couple also have a doubt, this diagnosis is completely different from the previous domestic conclusion. With ambivalence, they quickly embarked on the return journey.
The last days
With a glimmer of hope and doubt, they took the results of the examination in the United States and once again found a specialist consultation. The doctor also conducted a detailed examination of Yan Hongwei, and the results showed that estrogen was still negative, which was very different from the positive test in the United States.
After consultation and explanation by the doctor, they understood that the reason for the difference in the results of the two examinations was the heterogeneity of the tumor. The negative positive of multiple lesions in the patient's body is uncertain, and the United States happens to be a positive lesion.
This result poured cold water on the couple. After traveling thousands of miles, spending all your savings, only to get a meaningless result.
More unfortunately, the data shows that during this period, Yan Hongwei's lung condition expanded again.
Yan Hongwei wanted to give up, but thinking of the old mother and lovely daughter who were waiting for her at home, she had no way back, she could only wipe away her tears and continue to look for life. Finally, she resorted to targeted drug therapy.
Yan Hongwei went to Hong Kong and bought 1,400 yuan a capsule of pabucinil, and a box of 21 pills cost 30,000 yuan. She once said that "this medicine is much more expensive than gold", but still gritted her teeth and bought 3 boxes. This is her and her family's last hope.
Unfortunately, targeted drugs did not alleviate Yan Hongwei's condition. Her illness expanded again, and everyone knew that it was almost time to say goodbye.
Yan Hongwei chose to go home and took his daughter back. The family eats together, goes for walks, plays games with their daughter, and tells stories. Time is too short, there are too many things to do.
In February 2019, Yan Hongwei had to be readmitted to the hospital due to his deteriorating condition.
Until this time, she still insisted on cooperating with the treatment. Wu Zaibin took his daughter to spend a happy Valentine's Day with Yan Hongwei in the ward, and he also wrote on Weibo: "... Hope is not extreme and Yuntai, He is not interested. Happy Valentine's Day! ”
But no matter how nostalgic she is for this world, no matter how much her relatives pray from the heart, Yan Hongwei is still emaciated and weakened day by day, and she sleeps longer and longer.
On the morning of March 18, 2019, Yan Hongwei never woke up again. Wu Zaibin was overwhelmed with grief: "Hang the most beloved person on the wall with my own hands, all the beauty is frozen into cold photos, and the sadness that gushes out from the depths of the soul cannot be suppressed at all..."
Life goes on
The broadcast of "The World" made countless viewers worry for Yan Hongwei and this family.
The death of his wife made Wu Zaibin unable to accept the facts for a while. For a while, he frequently went in and out of the cemetery and wept silently in front of Yan Hongwei's tombstone. He would also pour his sorrows with wine as a way to anesthetize himself.
But Wu Zaibin has not forgotten his promise to his wife to take care of his daughter and parents. Therefore, Wu Zaibin fought strongly, not only to take care of his daughter, but also to visit Yan Hongwei's parents from time to time to comfort the old man's loss of his daughter. At the same time, he also had to pay off the debt he owed for treating Yan Hongwei.
Life is not easy, but it has to go on.
Once Wu Zaibin met a nurse working in a hospital because he was sick. This girl has watched "The World", and she takes extra care of this man who is very emotional.
Gradually, the two became acquainted. The girl fell in love with Wu Zaibin from sympathy, and Wu Zaibin gradually opened his heart to her.
In March 2020, Wu Zaibin, who had been silent for a long time, announced his new relationship on Weibo and confided: "In the days to come, I will leave my thoughts to you and give her love." ”
This is his true intention, perhaps to inform Yan Hongwei in heaven, or to share it with netizens who have always cared about them.
But he didn't expect a stone to stir up a thousand waves, except for a small part of the comfort, most of the comments were questioning his behavior and accusing him of being sentimental, because the time when he announced his new relationship was only 1 year after Yan Hongwei's departure.
After that, various speculations and rumors followed, containing a variety of information, pointing out that Wu Zaibin had cheated in marriage and so on. Under the heavy pressure of public opinion, Wu Zaibin's love affair ended without a problem, and he fell silent again.
In the Spring Festival of 2021, Wu Zaibin and his daughter celebrated the New Year together at Yan Hongwei's parents' house. His mother-in-law, who had already treated him like a son, also asked about this relationship, and Wu Zaibin told him all the truth.
Mingli's mother-in-law comforted him and wanted to look forward, and said that they were not opposed to Wu Zaibin remarrying, as long as the woman could be good to the baby.
In the following days, when her daughter reached the age when she should go to school, Wu Zaibin took her from her grandmother's house, and the father and daughter lived a peaceful life. But without the hostess's home, there is always a hint of fireworks.
Han Shijun, who also appeared in "The World", was fiercely criticized on the Internet for remarrying a year after the death of his wife Zhang Lijun, who suffered from pancreatic cancer, and was rumored to have passed the child to her cousin.
Wu Zaibin, who is connected to the same fate, can understand the pressure and pain Han Shijun endures very well. After all, the Sri Lankans are gone, and life goes on.
As the surviving party, they have the yearning for a normal family life and the right to start a new life at any time, which is understandable. Wu Zaibin never denied this, but he did not want to and did not dare to show his life to the public.
There was a time when Wu Zaibin named the foreign exchange investment code he designed - MEMORY OF WEI to place his nostalgia for his wife.
But sincere feelings don't have to be proven by dying alone.
Yan Hongwei once changed her daughter's name from "Siyan" to "Yizhen" when she was seriously ill, because "Siyan" means "Siyan", presumably Yan Hongwei in heaven also hopes that both father and daughter can let go of their worries and look forward, she hopes that Wu Zaibin can spend the rest of her life happily more than anyone.
The deceased is gone, may the living be well.