Recently, a sibling love has become popular on the Internet.
A 40-year-old woman married her best friend's 25-year-old son.
The woman was born in 1980 and turns 40 this year, while her best friend is already 43.
They have known each other for 20 years, from girlfriends to mothers-in-law and father-in-law.
She watched her best friend's son grow up, but she didn't expect that just by looking at him, he would become her husband.
They married after only two months of dating.
In the face of doubts from the outside world, these two people also came forward to clarify that they posted on the Internet to encourage everyone to boldly express their love, and ultimately hope that lovers around the world can get married.
Although she is 40 years old, she has fair and firm skin, no wrinkles, and a slim and curvy figure. Standing with her husband, who is 15 years younger than herself, there is really no sense of discord.
But many people also expressed unacceptability.
Some netizens expressed many people's feelings about sibling love: 10 years later? 20 years from now? 30 years later?
Whether it is appearance or true love, the physical and psychological gap between siblings is a real problem that women have to face.
"Big men and small women" is the most common mode of marital love.
But this pattern is gradually being broken.
According to research, sibling marriage has reached 40%.
People are increasingly accepting brotherly love.
But whether men or women, women need the same thing in their relationships: security.
The sense of security comes from two aspects: a clear plan for the future, and a man's ability to provide for his family.
To put it bluntly: commitment and money.
However, in sibling relationships, men do not value these two items much.
You might say that if a man has love, you can make money yourself.
But when a woman is in love, she will try to maintain her figure and beauty, and want to give birth to him.
You can use hyaluronic acid to treat an aging face.
Decreased physical function is impotence.
Therefore, sibling love must be cautious.
Unless you want process, passion, and romance.
For example, "little genius in love" Xiao Yaxuan.
The family background is better, and the career is relatively successful.
But people come out to sing because they don't want to inherit the family business.
How willful.
Emotionally, you can flirt as much as you want, and you've never flirted just with young people in their early 20s.
It's nothing to date hundreds of men.
She has no intention of getting married, does not need a man's commitment, and does not need his money.
There is also a kind of woman, like Xiao Yaxuan, who only pursues short-term intimacy.
They like what they want and change when they don't.
But at the end of the day, this is only a minority.
Most women, especially those over the age of 30, are more concerned about results.
No matter how old a man is, he wants to have results after falling in love.
For example, Yi Nengjing. Knowing that "you look young, but your physiology is irreversible", you still want to give birth to your husband.
In order to prepare for pregnancy, repeated examinations lead to sudden obesity, weight loss, and even fainting due to anemia.
In addition to physical pain, he also had to endure gossip from the outside world.
Qin Hao said forget it, it's too difficult, you will accompany me for the rest of my life, you are more important than children.
The mother-in-law also said not to be too involved, not to be tired, and to protect the adults.
Although her husband doesn't care about having children, she loves him because she wants him to experience the joys of parenthood.
So he was determined not to give up.
Take medicine every day, exercise, maintain physical strength, and experience painful egg hunting and disappointment again and again.
But that simple wish still sustained her, risking her life to give birth at the age of 47.
"A woman who loves a man must bear him a child."
This sentence deceives many women, but it is also the voice of many women.
Even Xiao Yaxuan, after her boyfriend, who was 16 years younger than her, moved in, also had the idea of helping her have a baby.
Because of this, women in the relationship between siblings, at the beginning, are intentional, and in the end often want to leave for the rest of their lives.
The movie "Picking June Flowers" is about brotherhood.
The male protagonist is Max, 27 years old, a successful advertiser.
The hostess is 43-year-old Nora, a waitress at a burger restaurant.
Max was meticulous, his shirt and suit were always flat, the rough edges of the carpet were smoothed one by one, and he lived in a good-quality, well-lit house.
Nora is an elderly man who lives in a dilapidated house on the outskirts with a messy living room and fruit peels and grocery bags all over the floor.
Two very different people met in a bar.
Max was young and handsome. After his wife died in a car accident, he has not yet come out of his grief. There are many young beauties around him, but he does not have any sexual interest.
Nora is old and infirm, middle-aged, grief-stricken, and living alone, and her pain can be seen at a glance.
They had an unforgettable evening.
They started dating as a couple, and each time they met, she sent different flowers and cooked candlelit dinners herself.
Nora was pleasantly surprised, it was the first time he had cooked for her.
Nora makes Max forget about losing his wife.
Max makes Nora feel respected.
As their relationship heated up, their dating changed from the inside out.
During the walk, Max knelt down to help her tie her shoelaces, which was very intimate.
But seeing something familiar, Max made an excuse to avoid it.
He said he couldn't live without her, but he didn't say he loved her or introduced her to relatives and friends.
At first, Nora just wanted a one-night stand.
But after dawn, he hopes to meet again the next day.
After a few dates, Nora wanted Max for a while. Eventually, Nora falls in love with Max and wants recognition.
She plucks up the courage to confront Max's relatives and friends, but Max doesn't really accept Nora. The 16-year gap and the difference in identity still embarrass her.
In the end, Nora decides to leave it alone, leaving only a note saying I love you, but leaving is the best option for you.
Because "you can never look at me with kindness and say I won't embarrass you." ”
The director finally brought Nora and Max together.
But a movie is a movie.
But what about after being together?
They want to return to their daily needs:
Nora is still a waitress in a small restaurant, working hard every day but receiving only a meagre salary.
Max wanted to find a new job in order to make a living in an unfamiliar city. He rented a small apartment with a small stove and a Xiaoice box, big enough for two people, but outside the window was a pile of smelly trash cans.
In the movie, you can believe that they lived happily ever after.
In reality, poor couples are sad in everything, and even the most beautiful love has become a piece of chicken feathers.
This is a true story: a love story between siblings.
The woman, 28 years old, has completed her work.
The man is 20 years old and a college student.
When the two began dating, she was worried that the age gap was too big and it was a long-distance relationship, so she hesitated.
But the man vowed: "It's okay, I don't care if my family disagrees, it's a big deal I won't go back to my hometown." ”
After these two people were together, the relationship was very good.
He resigned 3 years later.
After the long-distance relationship ended, she began to plan the future of the two.
But the little boyfriend began to become indifferent.
In the winter of 2019, my little boyfriend said we were going to break up.
The woman disagreed, saying why don't you stop running in?
He still holds on to his last hopes. But the other party's answer completely disappointed her.
"I want to marry someone my age, if you are ten years younger than me, I will accept you, don't tease me!"
The three-year sibling relationship ended.
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The meaningless ending is unfortunate, but it also makes sense.
I guess for siblings with a large age gap, this is also the destination of most people, right?
Because there are too many problems to continue.
First of all, it is a fertility problem.
You are 30 years old, he is 20 years old, and you are afraid that he is too mature to have children.
Ten years later, he matured and took responsibility.
But you have to start worrying about the risks of fertility for older women.
There are also outsiders' prejudices and worldly pressures.
Of course you can say I don't care!
But what about the parents of the other half? What about the other family? What about the other person's social circle?
How can you not care?
Even if your heart is extremely strong, what about the other party?
To be honest, it is really rare for a man who truly desires love to not care about the pros and cons of the other party, the age of the other party, and the prejudices of the world.
This does not mean that sibling relationships cannot be discussed.
A gap of three to four years is harmless. But if you are over 10 years old, you can only advise as a passerby: choose carefully.
After all, most of us are not in Dura.
Talent, fame, financial resources, including luck, are not comparable to him.
Most of us want to be normal. Also just a layman.
You want worldly love.
World security.
With the blessings of family and friends, we can gather rain or shine.
Instead of starting out like a war, facing internal and external troubles and worldly opposition, we have been fighting. This confrontation itself consumes the most love and the most people.
Author: Watergate Weasel