Yang Mi: While being exposed to spending 540 million yuan to fight for the custody of her daughter, she was scolded for not being a good mother

"It is rumored that Yang Mi denounced 540 million to fight for custody, Liu Kaiwei vowed to stay in Hong Kong", Sven didn't even have to look for news sources, just looking at this headline, Hong Kong media has always loved to do things, and the smell is about to break the screen.

This is the news on August 8, and some local media in Hong Kong broke the news that Yang Mi will spend 540 million yuan (about 500 million yuan) to compete with her ex-husband Liu Kaiwei for the custody of her daughter, she is determined to take Xiao Nuomi back to live in the mainland, and will return to Beijing to study in September.

Hong Kong media believe that "Yang Mi's desire to fight for custody has a trace", and the evidence is that she has frequently traveled to Hong Kong recently. When Hong Kong had just cleared customs in March this year, Yang Mi was photographed visiting Hong Kong in secret, the business Weibo IP she posted on Children's Day was located in Hong Kong, and the background of Yang Mi's daily photos popped by the studio last month was also in Hong Kong.

The media once photographed her stuffing her trunk with gifts and taking her parents to Hong Kong to visit her daughter. Some Hong Kong netizens also posted that they once met Yang Mi in a Central restaurant to take their daughter to dinner, "Yang Mi himself is so nice", and some people speculate that Yang Mi's travel photos in Hong Kong may be taken by small glutinous rice, and the relationship between mother and daughter should be very good.

In the view of Hong Kong media, Yang Mi uncharacteristically made his public trip to Hong Kong, and he came to Hong Kong to visit his daughter so frequently during this period is to pave the way for fighting for custody. There are even rumors that Yang Mi wanted to take her daughter back to live in the mainland as early as 4 years ago, but she had no choice but to suspend her plan because of the epidemic, and now she has decided to accelerate the "competition for women".

According to Hong Kong media, the reason that prompted Yang Mi to make up his mind to fight for the custody of his daughter was that Liu Kaiwei had a new girlfriend. There were also rumors that he would remarry and marry Li Xiaofeng, although there were also reports that Xiao Nuomi and Li Xiaofeng got along well, but Yang Mi still felt that it was more appropriate for her daughter to be taken care of by her biological mother than to her "stepmother".

In case everyone does not care about Liu Kaiwei's relationship status, here is some relevant information about Li Xiaofeng. She was originally the host of Anhui Satellite TV, and later turned into an actress, and her more out-of-the-loop works include Hao Shuwen in "Fanghua" and Ren Meimei in "The Twenty-Eight Laws of Love".

One of the points that Lezi people like to watch is that Li Xiaofeng interviewed Liu Kaiwei when he was the host, and he did not dig the points of Liu Kaiwei and Yang Mi in the program. And Yang Mi plays the elite lawyer heroine in "The Twenty-Eight Laws of Love", Ren Meimei is her sister-in-law and best friend, the heroine not only helps her catch adultery, but also helps her fight divorce lawsuits, and they are best friends.

Liu Kaiwei and Li Xiaofeng's relationship was not less on the hot search when it was exposed, in addition to the fact that the media mistook the woman for You Jingru's oolong at the beginning, and the two parties were keen to rely on the "My Overlord Neighbor" series of short videos to show affection, and the result was regarded by netizens as a rustic joke, mixed with the ancient Mary Sue and the literary sense of déjà vu of middle-aged idol dramas.

Netizens commented that their show of affection was "embarrassing and dirty, greasy but addictive", curious friends can poke → [Li Xiaofeng and Liu Kaiwei, who are almost 100 years old together, how did they talk about the middle-aged overlord's love for two tons of oil? ] 】Make up your own lessons~

At that time, Yang Mi and Liu Kaiwei loved each other with a high profile, although few netizens could continue to marry a second after the first marriage, but Mr. Liu Dan was very satisfied with his son's new girlfriend. As early as when their relationship was first exposed, the old man said that he was happy for his son, and said that if Xiao Nuomi learned that his father had talked about his girlfriend, he should not be angry but very happy.

At the beginning of the year, Li Xiaofeng made a video call to Liu Dan to greet the New Year, and the old man praised again, saying that she was a cheerful person, cute and beautiful, very polite in speech, not pretentious at all, and said that his son was not young and knew how to see people. Even revealed that Xiao Nuomi chatted very happily with the other party on the phone, and should like her very much.

This evaluation was sprayed "good tea" by netizens, thinking that the old man was stepping on and connotating his former daughter-in-law Yang Mi, "the contrived you understand seems to be different from the contrived we understand", "there are enough yin and yang weird", "passers-by feel ugly to eat", "not Yang Mi fans will be speechless", "can only say that Yang Mi's divorce is too correct"...

In March this year, Hong Kong media broke the news that Li Xiaofeng was two months pregnant, and when the media asked Liu Dan, his answer was, "I heard about this, but I don't know, look forward to good news!" ” 。 Although Li Xiaofeng wore a dress to attend the event in May and broke the rumors of pregnancy with a flat abdomen, it was clear that the old man liked her "son's new girlfriend".

In addition to the attitude of the old man, Liu Kaiwei's side was also revealed to be resolute in not giving up custody, the evidence is that he took Xiao Nuomi to Canada in July, Hong Kong media broke the news that he was suspected of changing his daughter's nationality, wanting to prevent his ex-wife Yang Mi from competing for his daughter's custody.

However, some people familiar with the matter said that Xiao Nuomi will continue to stay in Hong Kong with his father and grandparents to live and study in the future, which means that Yang Mi "failed" in his daughter, and Liu Kaiwei has no plans to get married for the time being, and has no intention of remarrying Li Xiaofeng.

The melon is actually such a melon, to say whether Yang Mi really intends to fight for the custody of his daughter, whether he really has to spend 500 million for this, whether Liu Kaiwei plans to remarry, Xiao Nuomi wants to be with his father or mother in the future, if Yang Mi really wants custody, then why... After all, we are not parties, and no one can judge what people think.

Hong Kong media has always loved to do things, and has sent a lot of fake news to sensationalize, even if it is real news, they love to exaggerate, and the main one is not too big to watch the excitement. From Sven's point of view, I don't even believe that Yang Mi will go to court with Liu Kaiwei for the custody of the child.

First, when they divorced, they said that they would raise their daughter together, and they have persevered for so many years, according to netizens, the relationship between the child and both parents is also good, what is the need to fight? The second is that Xiao Nuomi is 9 years old this year, she has her own ideas and judgments, a pair of parents who really love their children, presumably will not let their daughter who has long remembered see them tearing X.

And Yang Mi, as a famous decent person in the entertainment industry, from being estranged from good sisters, to divorcing Liu Kaiwei that year, and then to recently terminating her contract with the company, her emotional intelligence, wealth, and experience are enough to support her to make the most appropriate decisions.

So instead of exploring the truth of the news, what makes me think it is worth savoring is the reaction of netizens. Some people are very sensitive to the figure of 540 million, and immediately doubted "why does she have so much money in a play", and "why does it cost 540 million to fight for custody", and even began to calculate on this basis, "what are the odds of Yang Mi winning if she fights for custody".

Sven brushed a lawyer to analyze that changing custody will indeed incur a certain cost, but if you really want to take 540 million for changing custody, then the probability is not only the basic cost. Yang Mi, as a high-income star actor, may be to show that he has the ability and conditions to raise children.

A large part of this huge amount may be paid directly or indirectly to Liu Kaiweifang as one of the conditions for changing the custody of the child.

Moreover, changing custody is not an easy task, and many factors need to be examined, including whether the child himself wants to continue living with his father, and whether Xiao Nuomi, as a girl, living with a father of the opposite sex and a possible "stepmother" as she grows older, is still conducive to the child's personal healthy growth.

In addition to these netizens who are particularly sensitive to numbers, most people's attention is still on Yang Mi. Some people questioned that since she wanted custody, why didn't she fight at the time of divorce, and had to wait until the children were older to bring them before fighting, wasn't it because she chose a career in her career and daughter?

Indeed, in the cultural environment familiar to mainland netizens, when the child is still young, the parents divorce, if both parties love the child and both want custody, then when the parents' economic situation is similar, the custody of the child will usually be given to the mother. If the economic situation of both parties is much worse, then it is often the better condition that the person can get custody.

Under such cognition, netizens will think that "the child was so young back then, but she wanted to sentence her for sure, so she chose to give up", which is also an important reason why many people attack Yang Mi as "not a good mother" and "not loving her daughter enough".

But according to netizen popular science, Xiao Nuomi was born in Hong Kong and is a Hong Kong hukou, and the divorce regulations there are different from those in the mainland. If the child is over two years old when the parents divorce, then the mother actually has no priority, because the grandparents bring more children, and the child awarded to Yang Mi will lead to changes in her life and growth environment, so the man has more advantages.

Netizens who helped Yang Mi speak believe that the reason why the child followed his father was that at the moment of divorce, Yang Mi either thought that it was better for her to continue to live in Hong Kong, so she compromised and did not fight for custody. Either she has actually fought but failed to fight, so she took a step back and became "co-parenting".

Some people have a similar attitude to the Hong Kong media, feeling that the Liu family refuses to give up the custody of their daughter because Yang Mi is not a good mother at all. She has always been a famous "desperate third lady" in domestic entertainment, how intense the work is, the time and energy that can be allocated to her daughter are limited, this is the case in marriage, the "co-parenting" said after the divorce, and most of the grandparents are helping to bring up the children.

The evidence they came up with was that although Yang Mi said that she could reduce her work for the sake of her family, she actually hurriedly came back three months after giving birth, for fear that the public would forget her. 365 days a year, Xiao Nuomi does not see her mother for most of the time. During the epidemic, due to the lockdown problem, there was no mother-daughter reunion for three years.

Although there are indeed mothers in the world who do not love their children so much, how can we, as outsiders, accuse a female star of "not being a good mother" or even "not loving her children" because we have eaten a few mouthfuls of incomplete melons?

Don't look at the entertainment industry, let's talk about us ordinary people. What working woman has to go back to work and work hard to support her family after giving birth and confinement? When the child is young, the parents work outside for a year, and the elderly at home help with the child, and they can't see each other several times a year, don't they love their children?

When children grow up, they also go to the big city to wander and fight, and only go home to reunite with their parents during the New Year holidays, then are we not filial and do not love our parents enough? Not to mention that Xiao Nuomi was involved in the issue of customs closure in Hong Kong during the epidemic, even if we and our parents are in the same mainland, because of the epidemic for several years, there must be not a few, right?

I admit that companionship is important in any relationship and is one of the proofs of love. But when we look at other people's relationships, we don't comment on the full picture, first of all, whether Yang Mi has gone to see the child and how many times we don't know, and secondly, for a strong woman like her, not having so much time with her does not mean not loving ah.

Yang Mi has never lacked topics and traffic 85 flowers, their group of female stars are often ridiculed for "their faces are in the rivers and mountains", and netizens often attack her "girly Mi" side more than "good mother". But in fact, Yang Mi chose to get married during the rising period of his career, chose to give birth to Xiao Nuomi when he was the most popular, and many trips were picked up to go back and forth to Hong Kong to visit his daughter.

She is so network-sensed, so playful, and so often on the hot search, can she not know that making herself a "good mother" can effectively reverse the wind review? But compared to showing her daughter, basking in her mother's love, and creating a "good mother" persona for herself, Yang Mi chose to protect the little glutinous rice well, she would rather lose this part of the exposure than her children being disturbed by flash.

For a top female star like Yang Mi, the latter is twice as difficult and thankless, but she still chooses to do so, isn't it just a proof that she loves children very much and is willing to protect her well? Netizens think that she values her career and gives up accompanying her children, do you know if she wants to give her children a healthy childhood, even if she is misunderstood, she refuses to eat this dividend?

Sven feels quite ironic, according to the standard that some netizens bite "Yang Mi does not love little glutinous rice", it seems that her strong female identity and good mother cannot coexist. She has not much time to accompany her children for her career to expire, but this does not change the fact that she loves her children, but netizens will grab her itinerary and say "Look, it's really not a good mother."

So what about female celebrities who choose to temporarily return to their families and spend a lot of time with their children? Unless they completely return to the family and never return to filming, at most only participate in some parent-child variety shows, otherwise like Tang Yan, Liu Shishi, who have greatly reduced their production because of childbirth, netizens will not say that they are "good mothers", but will only complain that they "have no career".

Let's look at the N ways of scolding married and childbearing female stars: slow body recovery is not dedicated enough, and body recovery too fast will be questioned surrogacy. Bringing a baby for too long is scolded for not being career-minded, and taking a baby for too little time is said to be not a good mother. Those who often post babies are sprayed with children for show without a bottom line, deliberately reducing the sense of existence of their own children, and are suspected of not loving children enough.

Female celebrities have nannies to share the pressure of bringing babies and housework, and there are fans waiting for them to come back after giving birth, and it is still difficult to achieve "family and career balance". Life is as good as they are, not to mention us ordinary women. Too many mothers around me who have given birth said that family and career cannot be balanced at all, and they can only choose the same in the short term.

It may be better to ask parents to help take care of the children, but for ordinary people, there is so much time and energy in total, and it is inevitable to neglect the children when distributed to the workplace, and it will lose competitiveness in the workplace when distributed to the children. We ourselves know that people can't want both, and why should we require female stars to be decathlon?

Let's take a step back and say, even if there is really that kind of perfect super female star, what is good for ordinary women? With such a perfect "model woman" in front of us, we ordinary people will only be forced to roll up and suffer more questions about "they can, how can you not".

It's not that I have to help Yang Mi speak, I just want more people to understand that it's normal for mothers to not balance career and family well, after all, a family will not be composed of only one mother. When we question a mother as "not a good mother," think more about why the father in the family is invisible.