Does your child call you "Mom" or "Mom"? It seems to be a word difference, but in fact, there are many secrets

Does your child call you "Mom" or "Mom"?

When your child is young, "mother" and "mother" around you all day long keep calling, making you irritable. But I don't know when this "mother" became a short "mother".

Mom, I'm going to hang out.

Mom, I want to drink water.

Mom, help me get some clothes.

……

There used to be a hot search on Weibo: from mom to mom's age.

What seems like a common topic has attracted 400 million views and more than 30,000 discussions. Many mothers have told the story of their babies changing their mouths below, and their words are full of loss.

The reason for the loss of mothers is that the title from "mother" to "mother" seems to be only one word missing, but it seems that after calling it so, it seems that the relationship between themselves and their children is not so close. Just like when we give our partners various intimate nicknames "baby" and "well-behaved" during the honeymoon period, after this period, it is already very good not to call the daimyo directly.

But in fact, from the child's point of view, this change in title is a sign that they are physically and psychologically mature and independent.

1. The language system gradually matures

When children first learn to speak, they start from overlapping words, such as rice, juejue, father, mother, because overlapping words are easier to pronounce, and this sense of repetition can also reduce language pressure, which is suitable for children who have just learned to speak.

For example, if the child says juejue, you know that he wants to sleep, and when he says sugar sugar, you know that he wants to eat sugar. Using simple expressions, parents can know what he wants to do, and communication is very smooth.

And from a psychological point of view, overlapping words is a very cute child's language, or it can also be called parent language, mother language.

Therefore, when many parents speak to young babies, they always use this kind of childlike language to express the emotions of spoiling and pity.

Similarly, couples in love often use overlapping words to express their deep affection, if you don't believe it, you can review your love period to see if this is the case.

Therefore, the baby uses overlapping words to express his ideas, because the language development is not yet mature, when the child is older, his language system will develop more mature, want to express more things, will pursue a more concise way of expression, overlapping words will not be willing to say.

2. A manifestation of the child's psychological maturity. 

Rogers once said, "The change in the way a child is addressed is a natural process, part of the child's growth and development." ”

From "mother" to "mother", to "mother", "mother", "mommy", etc., these changes actually reflect children's different cognition of the role of parents, and also represent that children begin to psychologically detach themselves from "real mothers" and desire independence and autonomy.

As we said earlier, overlapping words is an intimate act from the heart, expressing dependence on the other party, and when the child grows up, he will pursue an independent self, and is more eager to be able to make his own decisions about everything, this psychology is expressed in language, that is, the title of parents and the dialogue with parents are shorter, directly expressing their needs.

This is especially evident in adolescent children. Most parents will find that at this time, children not only completely change their parents, but also become more silent than before, and talk less.

In fact, this is a very normal phenomenon on the road of children's growth. For example, everyone's energy is limited, and when his vision is broader, he will shift a large part of his attention to other things, so that he pays less attention to the people around him and the things around him.

Moreover, the reason why the child does this is actually a sign of sufficient security, because he knows that his parents will always be by his side, so that he has the courage to go further.

Therefore, from "mother" to mother, in fact, it is really just an expression of language change, and it does not mean that there is something wrong with the relationship between your parents and children, and you really don't need to be too glassy.

03. How to properly deal with the change of children's titles?

All parents are contradictory, we not only hope that our children are independent and mature, and have their own opinions, but also hope that our children can rely on us and talk to us about everything.

But as long as it is a child, he will grow up, and what you can do is give him a pair of strong wings when he wants to fly, where to fly and how to fly, let him decide for himself.

Similarly, from "mom" to "mom", what changes is the title, not the affection between you, so you don't have to get tangled, but from these aspects, help your child exercise a pair of wings that can make him flutter his wings:

First, help children establish a sense of independence. Let children explore their own world, try new things, develop abilities and interests.

Second, maintain a smooth communication channel with children, deeply understand children's inner needs and feelings, and give them due attention and care.

Third, be a strong backing for children, but whenever they are tired of flying, they can have a harbor to live in.