First, sexual openness has become a social reality
The melons in 2023 are one after another, as if there is no intention of stopping, a series of dazzling public officials cheating incidents, the people should be more, Hunan women's pre-wedding party with many people to open a house.
Sexual openness has been accepted by Chinese as a matter of course. The reconciliation ending of the Dai Lu incident shows that whether it is the most conservative relatively older person or the college student who symbolizes the rising sun, the transformation of Chinese by the culture of sexual openness has been fruitful.
Unmarried, without economic transactions, under the extremely vague premise that any intercourse is protected by law, this is the freedom of the individual, there is no doubt;
Those who are married still have to firmly believe that the ideal marriage in "Parental Love" does exist in society, but the proportion of cheating does not need to be listed data, and the survey proves that it should be improved year after year.
In the face of cheating, if the other party does have the intention to change the previous wrong, the acceptance of reconciliation should not be an exception, not to talk about similar reasons for "for children", this proportion has been on the rise among married people, and its essential factor is that divorce requires economic costs.
Second, the history of the development of new opening up in China
The record for "the longest continuous film in the world that has been shown in the same theater" is "Lushan Love" produced by the mainland in 1980, which is known as "the first kiss on the screen after the Cultural Revolution".
The impact of "Lushan Love" on society and culture is extensive and profound, and kissing in front of the public at that time was unimaginable.
From the 80s to the new century, there were countless literary works on "sexual culture", the most famous should be Jia Pingwo's "Waste Capital", even if it was read in an abridged version at that time, it is still difficult to forget the plot of Tang Wan'er standing on the windowsill and closing the window after receiving Zhuang Zhidie's high heels, people generally sympathize with Tang Wan'er's tragic ending, she was destroyed by her husband and gang to her body and mind, and Zhuang Zhidie as a cultural person chose to flee the waste capital.
Whether it is Yu Hua's "Alive" or Wang Xiaobo's trilogy "Black Iron Age", "Bronze Age", "Golden Age", or a series of works by Mo Yan, there are Chinese denunciations of sexual bondage and sexual oppression.
We began to spit on the traditional Chinese culture symbolized by the chastity archway of "starvation is a small matter, and a big loss of festival" is attributed to the poison of feudalism, even if Cheng Yi wanted to express the original meaning: if a woman wants to observe the festival for her dead husband and cannot remarry, then if the man's wife dies, as a husband, she should also observe the festival for the deceased wife and should not remarry.
Third, the new opening up has changed China's traditional concepts
The "place" that symbolized purity before marriage is abandoned
For modern young men and women, "virtuous" is no longer a pure compliment, a symbol of self-purification, but a lack of experience, as if it is a derogatory term.
"Hatred of taking the wife" equals "the hatred of killing the father"
Don't let anger get carried away, and even if the other party offers financial compensation, don't accept it because of the alleged extortion.
Is sexual openness an evolution from the perspective of animal evolution?
In nature, whether it is primate monkeys, lions and many animals, they fight for mating rights and protect mating rights, bleeding, and as thoughtful and conscious human beings, they begin to pursue freedom and begin not to care about the ownership of mating rights, which is an evolution.
Is the ultimate goal of sexual openness that human beings should have full and free mating rights?
Is sexual openness one of the crystallization of Western culture?
Dante's seven deadly sins in the Divine Comedy, lust is one of them;
In the Galatians of the Christian Bible: "For lust and the Holy Spirit are in contention, and the Holy Spirit and lust are in contention." These two are against each other and prevent you from doing what you will. "The trinity of the priest, the Holy Spirit, and the Son of God, the Holy Spirit is a part of God, and therefore lust is God's enemy.
Western Wedding Vows:
Pastor: May God bless you; Today, the Church gathers before God for a holy and solemn wedding ceremony for you in the Holy Church. Marriage is blessed, sacred, and precious; Therefore, do not neglect to be rash, and should respectfully, religiously, and thankfully take an oath before God to fulfill the requirements of Christian marriage!
The pastor asks - (bride, groom), on behalf of the church, I ask you before the Most High, the Most Holy and the Most Loving and Pure God: Would you sincerely marry (the bride and groom), obey God's commandments in the Bible, and live with her godly for the rest of your life; Whether you are happy and poor, rich or poor, good or bad, healthy or sick, you respect him or her, help him or her, care for him (her), and love him or her with all your heart; Faithfully build a Christian family with him or her for life, and glorify God and benefit others! Would you like to?!
The bride and groom answer - I do!
Exchange rings
Pastor: May God bless this ring as proof of your eternal vows, and may you love one another, never separate, bind one another, and be one forever from now on
The Lord Jesus said, "Those whom God has appointed shall not be separated." The love of this lifetime is perfect because of today. ”
Pay attention to the key word: lifelong loyalty
Sixth, the erosion of sexual openness culture on society
In the era of highly developed Internet, male stallion novels and female romance novels are included in online literature;
Since the compilation of cheating cases in the media, the legal narration of cheating incidents, especially the countless "ambiguous" series of graphic videos seem to master the traffic password, brushing people's emotional views over and over again, family views: women are stupid and can't distinguish between twin husbands and little uncle series, female bosses and male subordinate series, not listed one by one, to determine that there is no violation.
I think in the face of a series of cases of public officials cheating, there will definitely be a series of "husband and wife wars" that lie down on guns, and the relationship between husband and wife is covered by suspicion; At present, the best paid content sold online is "Extramarital Affair Emergency Practical Course".
Frequent cheating incidents also bring trouble to women's rights, and with achievements in the workplace, promotions and salary increases will be described by people with bad intentions as the result of power trading, and have formed a career view that undetected power trading is a shortcut to personal ascent.
Frequent cheating incidents also enhance the fear of marriage between unmarried men and women, non-marriage has become one of the main social phenomena, in the birth rate of the population year by year decline, the effect of the two-child three-child subsidy policy is not obvious, how far is the current situation in South Korea from us?
Individuals will ultimately be responsible for their own actions
As early as May 2005, when Southern People Weekly interviewed Ms. Zhu Liya, the only female college student in China's AIDS community who disclosed her condition, Zhu Liya said: "I hope that college students across the country must have a sober sexual behavior." ”
In marriage, cheating is forgiven by the partner, but most people's peaceful and dull life is definitely affected, one party strengthens control due to suspicion, one party resists control, and the quality of marriage is bound to be greatly reduced.
In "Life", when Gogarin loses Qiao Zhen, his heart must hurt terribly. Life needs to be managed, and experience tells us that the more difficult it is to get, the more cherished it is. When we wantonly pursue freedom, we often ignore what we have now.
8. Article 10 of the United States
The first of the 1951 Ten Commandments of the United States: Try to use material things to lure and corrupt their youth, encourage them to despise, despise, and further openly oppose their ideological education, especially communist dogma. Create interest and opportunities for them to engage in pornography, which in turn encourages them to engage in sexual promiscuity. Let them not be ashamed of superficiality, vanity. It is necessary to destroy the hard-working spirit that they have emphasized.
Judging from the current situation, the US China strategy is still very fruitful.
IX. Zi Yu: "I have not seen good virtue as a womanizer." ”
Often people use "food color sex" to justify sexual freedom, in fact, the "color" here is not sex but generally refers to prosperous and beautiful things,
Zi Yu: "I have not seen good virtue as a womanizer." The translation is to say that Confucius had never seen a person who liked virtue as much as he liked beauty. Moral character is not innate, but acquired, some people have good moral character and are respected because they are good at controlling those weaknesses in human nature, do not let them control their body and mind, the process of cultivating virtue becomes the process of controlling human weaknesses.
When Western scholars have extensively studied the impact of traditional Chinese family culture on society, the family is the stabilizer of society, we cannot let the behavior of cheating that destroys the foundation of family culture fall on deaf ears or treat it as normal, and freedom of marriage is by no means equal to sexual freedom.
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