"Yuan Quan is my third girlfriend, she is not the 100% suitable person in my life, but she is the person who forms 100% with me."
This is what Xia Yu wrote in the third year of their relationship.
Xia Yu has always believed that there is no dependency in marriage, but a strong union of two people.
And Yuan Quan is the strong, stubborn "fate".
From the beginning of the two acquaintance, Xia Yu wanted to use resources to "curry" over Yuan Quan, but was scolded by Yuan Quan, and turned around and deleted Xia Yu's contact information.
When Xia Yu spread the scandal, Yuan Quan did not complain, turned his head and turned away, without any thoughts.
After the two got married, Yuan Quan never used Xia Yu to make a hype, even if the two appeared together in "The First Part of Fengsheng", they were also rivals.
Even when the reporter of the press conference of "The First Part of Fengsheng" was interviewed, it was Yuan Quanlai who was the speaker, and Xia Yu was the same as the "wronged little daughter-in-law" from beginning to end.
Yuan Quan used his "strength" to blaze a trail of his own.
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Yuan Quan's "strength" is not innate, but cultivated.
Her father is a coach and her mother is a teacher, both of which belong to the type of profession that "teach".
From an early age, he began to cultivate Yuan Quan's self-confidence and self-improvement.
Once Yuan Quan saw his father singing, ran and jumped in front of his father and said: "Dad is so powerful, singing is so good." ”
The father just smiled, stretched out his hand to rub Yuan Quan's little brain melon and said: "The most powerful thing about dad is that there is such a little genius as you." ”
Regardless of whether his father's words were true or false, his father's words did open Yuan Quan's heart.
Unlike most families today, who pursue repressive education, Yuan's parents clearly prefer praise education.
This education model didn't just make Yuan Quan's childhood happy.
It was even subtly made Yuan Quan understand that her parents loved her, and she herself was the most important.
Children's brain circuits are actually sometimes very simple, even parents like me, who doesn't like me?
Even my parents think I'm doing the right thing, what else is wrong?
In this educational model, Yuan Quan became extremely "confident in himself".
This is also an important psychological guarantee for her to be so "strong" in the future.
In addition, parents are still consciously cultivating Yuan Quan's judgment and execution.
When Yuan Quan was 11 years old, the Affiliated High School of the Chinese Opera Academy came to the school to recruit students.
After testing, it was found that Yuan Quan had a very good talent for opera, so he asked Yuan Quan to go home and discuss it with his family.
The admissions teacher's statement is also a common human feeling.
After all, teenage children are not mentally sound and are easily disturbed by external things.
So in general, some major decisions are chosen by parents.
Some strong parents don't even think about asking their children for their opinions and ideas.
With the parents' thoughts, it must be for the good of the child, do not want the child's childhood to be troubled by too many troubles, and make a decision that they regret for life.
But it is precisely this pattern that can easily lead to children's unassertive and cowardly personality.
But Yuan Quan's parents are the opposite, they fully respect Yuan Quan's opinion.
After Yuan Quan told his parents what the teacher said, his parents did not rush to make a decision.
Instead, he listed the hard work of learning opera, and the advantages and disadvantages after learning it.
The rest is left to Yuan Quan to decide.
Yuan Quan went to learn drama, and his parents supported him; If Yuan Quan doesn't go to school, then his parents won't say much, just continue to study at school honestly.
After thinking about it again, Yuan Quan decided to study drama.
In this way, Yuan Quan packed his bags and began a seven-year journey of opera learning.
What are the takeaways from this journey? Yuan Quan couldn't say, after all, whether in later life or in acting, Yuan Quan did not show that he had a strong opera foundation.
Do you want to say that this journey is regretful? Yuan Quan definitely does not regret it, or in her dictionary, there is never the word "regret", and the consequences of all the decisions she makes are something she can bear.
This kind of temperament is reflected in all aspects of Yuan Quan's life, and it is also included in her relationship with Xia Yu.
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Xia Yu is one year older than Yuan Quan, and he is also a senior who is one year older than Yuan Quan.
Yuan Quan is considered to be 96 level in Chinese opera, while Xia Yu is 95 in Chinese opera.
In terms of the "gold content" in the school alone, Xia Yu's current session is actually not as good as Yuan Quan's.
Xia Yu's level 96, full of calculations, you can also say Tian Yu and Yang Yuting, two slightly famous actors.
But Yuan Quan's current session is different.
Not to mention that Yuan Quan and the same Zhang Ziyi, Qin Hailu, Zeng Li, Hu Jing, Zhang Tong, and Mei Ting together form the title of "Seven Golden Flower".
On Liu Ye, Niu Qingfeng, and Qin Hao alone, this is a well-known "powerful person" in school.
It is the existence of the teacher who can become a horn after hand-picking.
In terms of the overall strength of the grade, Xia Yu is indeed not as good as Yuan Quan, but he can't hold his luck well.
Before going to college, Xia Yu was favored by Jiang Wen, who had just transformed into a director.
starred in Jiang Wen's first film "Sunny Day".
For the first time, it was always so sacred and extra serious.
Most directors have a bad first work, just because they have no experience and no resources.
But Jiang Wen is different, he is an actor himself and has his own unique understanding of movies.
Moreover, Jiang Wen's connections are so powerful that others can hardly imagine it.
It is a high-ranking cadre in itself, and it is easy to squeeze into the core circle of the Beijing circle with this identity.
Not to mention, when he was ten years old, he befriended Yingda, and the two grew up together.
Looking at the cast list of this "Sunny Day" alone, Siqin Gaova, Feng Xiaogang, Wang Shuo, Wang Xueqi, Jing Jing, Tao Hong...
All of them are well-known figures in Beijing circles.
With the help of these big guys, this "Sunny Day" is unsurprisingly popular.
Even Xia Yu, a newcomer, was completely fired.
Just one best actor at the Venice Film Festival is enough to make Xia Yu famous.
Xia Yu at this time is undoubtedly proud.
It's a pity that the proud Xia Yu met the equally proud and powerful Yuan Quan.
The two met by chance on campus, and Xia Yu fell in love with Yuan Quan at first sight and wanted to pursue it.
It's a pity that Xia Yu at this time is more or less unable to speak.
When asked how he felt about Yuan Quan, Xia Yu didn't want to blurt out: "I feel that her face is fat, very different..."
Is Yuan Quan fat? At its peak, it was only 120 pounds.
And isn't it rude to say that a girl is fat?
Therefore, Yuan Quan's initial impression of Xia Yu was very poor, and he directly rejected Xia Yu's pursuit.
Although Xia Yu came to apologize several times, Yuan Quan was still unwilling to forgive, and he didn't even see him.
In the words of her classmates, Xia Yu asked Yuan Quan ten times at that time, and it was groundbreaking to see him twice.
It's just the saying "good women are afraid of pestering".
In Xia Yu's persevering pursuit, Yuan Quan's heart gradually changed, and he no longer felt rejected by Xia Yu.
On a thunderstorm night, the two were naturally together like in a fairy tale.
Successfully chasing her "goddess", Xia Yu was proud in her heart.
More than once bragged about his relationship with Yuan Quan in front of outsiders.
But in this regard, Yuan Quan has always been very unhappy.
She doesn't like to hype up her feelings, and she doesn't want to be recognized in the circle because of some kind of resource.
So for a long time afterward, Yuan Quan chose to enter the drama industry and study his acting skills with peace of mind.
This is a strong contrast with Xia Yu's character.
Although Xia Yu also attaches importance to acting skills, he originally relied on the "support" of the Beijing circle to get to the top.
After becoming famous, it is natural that he also needs to give back to the Beijing circle.
So there are many good dramas in Xia Yu, and similarly, there are not few bad films shot to support newcomers in the Beijing circle.
This contradiction between the two did not seem to be anything at the beginning, but as time went by, these contradictions became more and more serious.
Even in the end, Xia Yu began to use drama scandals to hype and make someone popular, which was the most intolerable to Yuan Quan.
So much so that the pursuit of the two completely parted ways.
Even with the feelings of the two, they completely parted ways.
The two broke up, not because they had no feelings, but because of the different directions of future development, they chose to calm down.
But at this time, Gao Yuanyuan suddenly appeared, and she and Xia Yu came together.
For a time, the emotions about Xia Yu, Gao Yuanyuan, and Yuan Quan were spread.
Yuan Quan never responded to this, but Gao Yuanyuan kept saying himself in advance and intervening.
Whether this is "again" a hype, outsiders do not know.
But less than a year after this incident, Xia Yu chose to return to Yuan Quan without warning.
Gao Yuanyuan is like a clown, jumping up and down but bearing the infamy of "knowing three when three".
Xia Yu didn't do anything and got the reputation of a "good man".
No one expected that the biggest beneficiary of this matter was obviously Xia Yu, who was surrounded by two beautiful women.
After Yuan Quan reconciled with Xia Yu, he renegotiated three chapters, including not hyping up love.
After that, Xia Yu really didn't have any scandals again.
Even in 2009, after Xia Yu married Yuan Quan, the two never used their marriage contract to hype.
Up to now, Xia Yu has become a veritable three-material actor.
And Yuan Quan has also won the grand slam of the drama session, and also cut off the queen of the Hundred Flowers Film.
It is up to now that Yuan Quan has used his "strength" to achieve his feelings and career.
On the other hand, Xia Yu has not had any eye-catching works for nearly 15 years.
I have to say that love yourself in order to get love.
Yuan Quan has already walked out of his own road with his "strength".