The Buddha said:
"All laws are born of fate."
In this life, being able to be brothers and sisters is the fate of several lifetimes of cultivation.
In addition to parents, the people closest to them are also siblings.
When I was a child, we frolicked and played together, grew up together under the same roof, and when each other really grew up, everyone walked out of a different life path.
Even if everyone receives the same education together, because of each other's different personalities and mentalities, their respective fates are clearly different.
In a family, the best mix of siblings is often these 3 types of people, see which one they belong to.
1 People with a positive and optimistic attitude are the luckiest
Psychologist Maslow said:
"Mindset changes, attitude changes; Attitudes change, habits change; Habits change, and personality changes with them; When personality changes, life changes with it. ”
To be precise, a person's mentality determines his words and deeds, and also determines his future.
I read a report that there was a girl in Jiangxi who had been married for less than a year, and her husband died in a car accident.
Before she could come out of her grief, her patriarchal mother-in-law threw her and her daughter, who was just a few months old, out of the house.
Her parents' parents also did not agree with her return, believing that it would be inconvenient for her to marry after taking the child.
Whoever puts such a blow on may be a disaster, making people breathless.
However, she has always been positive and optimistic and has never given up.
She took her infant daughter and began to deliver food by electric car in a different country.
Many people sympathize with her and feel that her life is particularly difficult.
She didn't think so, smiled and said, what's not easy, I'm still young, it's the time to suffer!
Some people say that now she relies on her own efforts to give her children and herself a small house, a warm home.
There is a saying that says:
"Optimists see opportunity in every disaster, and pessimists see disaster in every opportunity."
In real life, setbacks and tribulations will always happen unexpectedly, catching people off guard.
With a good mentality, everything will go in a good direction.
If you have a bad mentality, life will hit a wall everywhere.
The more positive and optimistic the person, the smoother life will be and the sharper life will be.
2 People who do things responsibly are the most reliable
"Little Curtain Ghost" writes:
"If you do not take responsibility, you will have no worldly cause."
No matter when a person is, he should know how to take responsibility, do not shirk or evade when things happen, in order to make himself a trustworthy person.
Zhou Bingkun in the once popular TV series "The World" is a man with feelings and righteousness and dares to take responsibility.
The eldest brother and second sister are not at home for many years, and he independently assumes the obligation to support his parents without complaint.
Treat his wife Zheng Juan and prove to her with actions how much he cares about her and let her have happiness.
When he lived in a new house, he also gave the old house to his friends Guoqing and Wu Qian.
It is precisely because of Zhou Bingkun's responsibility and reliability that when he encounters difficulties, friends will also extend a helping hand to help him tide over the difficulties.
Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan's days will also become more and more prosperous.
The more responsible a person is, the easier it is to gain the trust of others and the easier it is for him to succeed.
Among brothers and sisters, those who are responsible for doing things most reliably and sincerely treat others, and their life path will be smoother and smoother.
3 People with vision are the most successful
There is a philosophical phrase in the movie "A Generation of Grandmasters":
"A person has to look into the distance, and when he crosses the mountain, his horizons are broadened."
Whether a person will have a good future, or whether he can achieve greater success, is directly related to his vision.
A narrow-minded person is like a frog at the bottom of a well, and can only look at square inches.
People with a long-term vision can open up their own pattern, improve their insight and realm, and make it easier to succeed.
There is such a story.
In one village, farmers wanted to drink water and had to go to a small river far away to fetch water.
The village chief gave the two young men the task of carrying water, and promised to pay them for each load of water.
The two began to work hard day and night to fetch water, and they both felt that it was very good to have such an income.
One of the young men imagined building a house and marrying a daughter-in-law in the future, while the other imagined that fetching water took up too much of his time, so he plotted how to lead the river outside the mountain to the edge of the village.
He wanted everyone to pay for the pipeline together, but many people opposed it.
Together with a few friends, he bought pipes to direct water to the village, and everyone was happy to buy it.
Years passed, another young man lost his job, and he became a well-known rich man.
The I Ching reads:
"Take from above, get from it; Take from it, get from below; If you take it, you will not get anything! ”
How big a person's goal is, then how big his achievements are, and if his goal is small, he may end up with nothing.
People who really have vision are also people with a big pattern, they have a very long-term vision, and they can make their lives go further.
Also living in a family, fate is always accustomed to favoring those who are positive, optimistic, responsible, and visionary, so that their lives will go more and more smoothly.
However, whether you are successful or have an ordinary life, do not forget the friendship between brothers and sisters, unity and harmony with each other, so that the whole family can prosper more and more.
Even though brothers and sisters have different life paths and different personalities, they are the closest people in the world, and they must help each other and work together.
As long as everyone can correctly recognize themselves and follow their own path, they will also reap their own success.
I hope everyone can shine on the ordinary road and live their own style!
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