Every family has old people, and when we contact with the elderly, we often smell a "strange smell", the kind of smell that emits from the elderly and makes people feel a little uncomfortable, known as "old people's smell".
Most elderly people will have an "old smell". When I was young, I didn't understand the reason, and I thought it was a trace left by the years, a special sign that was naturally formed and could not be changed.
It wasn't until I saw an interview with Zhang Quanling that I suddenly realized.
When the host Zhang Quanling was interviewing an old lady, she talked with each other very happily, so she didn't hold back and asked: "Grandma, how often do you take a bath?" ”
The old lady hesitated for a long time, and said embarrassedly: "I generally don't bathe, I'm old, bathing is very dangerous, if I fall alone at home, I have to add a burden to my children..."
It turns out that behind the "old man's smell" in the elderly person, it is such careful consideration, the silence that takes into account the overall situation, the forbearance that understands the great righteousness, and the consciousness of understanding the children.
Bathing, washing, and keeping yourself clean and tidy are common things for most people. However, for the elderly, it is a very difficult task.
Because of old age, physical mobility difficulties, energy and physical strength can not keep up, even if I want to wash from head to toe, but the reality is that I can't do anything, I can't do anything;
In addition, the bathroom is slippery, and young people still have to fall accidentally, not to mention the elderly with reduced mobility?
Some elderly people who live alone, once they fall in the bathroom, are called every day and the ground is not working, even if they try in every possible way to contact their children, in addition to causing trouble for their children, they also lose their face.
Indeed, when people are old, they will be very concerned about their image in the eyes of their children, and they will also be very protective of their dignity.
Although people are old and have difficulty moving, as long as they still have a little ability to take care of themselves, no one wants to be regarded as a disabled old man by others, especially not to let their children feel that they are worthless.
Perhaps, this is the stubbornness in the heart of every old man, they want to live a worthwhile and dignified life, and want to live in the respect of others, instead of relying on others for everything, looking at the faces of others everywhere.
If even such a private thing as bathing has to fake the hands of others, then they will only feel that they have no face to live in this world, and feel that they have dragged down their children and descendants.
In fact, after people get older, in addition to the inconvenience of bathing, there are many inconveniences in life.
In real life, many elderly people prefer to endure all kinds of inconveniences silently, rather than tell their children, on the one hand, private things, embarrassed to tell their children; On the other hand, it is afraid of troublesome children and adds a burden to their children.
The grandfather of the Internet celebrity Country Little Joe is 85 years old this year. Who would have thought that the grandfather, who seemed to be physically healthy and moved freely, had always had an unspeakable hidden in his heart.
Since he got older, his grandfather's toileting has become a big problem. Because the bathroom at home is a squat pit, after grandpa squats down, it is difficult to get up. So, for nearly seven years, every time my grandfather went to the toilet, he hid in the room, used a relatively high bucket as a toilet, and then quietly emptied it ...
Xiao Qiao, who learned about this situation by chance, immediately changed the toilet that his grandfather could sit on, and also intimately installed a few railings so that when his grandfather sat and got up, he could have a support.
Seeing that the squat pit at home was replaced by a toilet to sit on, and the railing was customized for him, Grandpa couldn't help himself with excitement. After years of dilemma, it has finally been resolved.
In fact, if it were not for the situation of the Internet celebrity grandfather, the young man would never have thought that behind the seemingly smooth progress of the old man, there are all kinds of unspeakable embarrassments.
However, for the elderly, they would rather settle a little and be aggrieved than cause trouble for their children. Chinese parents are like this, always thinking only about their children, but never really thinking about themselves.
Recently, there was an incident in Anhui where "an old man ran away with pesticides".
The elderly suffer from long-term illnesses and need to go to the hospital several times a year for treatment, spending almost all of the family's savings. In order not to cause trouble for her children, she chose to end her life.
The old man made the last meal for his son, then gulped down a bottle of pesticide, endured severe pain and walked out the door, never to return. The old man has been away from home for several days, and his son has searched for many ways, but he has never found his mother.
The old man chose to separate from his children in this way, not only fulfilling the reputation of his children, but also leaving himself with the last dignity.
She didn't want her children to feel guilty when they saw the scene of her tragic death, and she didn't want to drag her sick body all the time and become a drag on her children.
There is no greater love in the world than the love of parents for their children.
When parents are young, they do their best to give the best to their children; When parents are old, no matter how difficult or bitter they are, they are not willing to add the slightest trouble to their children.
The love of parents for their children cannot be described as great.
As the descendants of children, when parents are old, they must give them enough attention and patience, so that they can no longer be embarrassed in life and enjoy their old age with dignity and dignity.
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