China is a country that cares about kinship, blood ties bind people closely, and the concept of "family" has always existed in people's ideas, and it has become a common thing for relatives to take care of each other.

But the relationship between people is also close and distant, parents, brothers and sisters are naturally the closest and the ones who pay the most for you, and relatives are relatively worse, so there will be some contradictions and conflicts, and those relatives who "can't see you well" have also begun to emerge.

"Love to chew the root of the tongue" is now the evaluation of many college students for relatives, whether it is study or work, marriage and childbirth, etc., will see some unfriendly relatives, and many relatives will belittle students to say reasonably, and the appearance of these "bad relatives" is indispensable to the promotion of parents, netizens with their own experience to unveil the scene of parental hypocrisy.

It is customary for parents to belittle your relatives, and netizens share personal experiences to expose the hypocrisy of parents

I remember that the author heard a sentence that "relatives just can't see you well", no matter how well the student is doing, it is inevitable to become the conversation of relatives after tea, and all kinds of derogatory words come casually, even in front of the student's parents.

As the saying goes, "it depends on the owner to beat a dog", why can relatives be so arrogant? It's not the mentality of parents yet, so netizens have said the conclusion that "demeaning your relatives are habitual to parents".

And this conclusion also made the comment area explode, and they began to share their experiences, thus uncovering the fig leaf of parents and letting people see the hypocritical side of parents.

For example, some students say that their parents always like to "show the ugliness of the family", and seek attention and resonance by belittling their children in front of outsiders, without paying attention to the feelings of students, which has caused great trauma to students' hearts.

And there are also such examples around the author, obviously the student's grades are already very good, relatives will also say that it is not good enough, it will be difficult to take the prestigious school in the future, and parents even feel that relatives are right, and follow together to "persuade" students to study well.

There is also that it is difficult for college students to find employment now, it is not easy to find a similar job just after graduation, and it is normal to earn less, but in the mouths of relatives and parents, it becomes "books are read in vain, there is nothing big", these words sting the hearts of students fiercely.

Knowing that students are bullied, parents do not think so, and the wrong mode of getting along directly disintegrates family affection

Whether students are excellent or not will hear some negative voices, even if they are good enough, some relatives can always pick out your faults, education, work, appearance and even marriage and children will be picked out.

This phenomenon is not uncommon in life, and when students are "bullied", some parents pretend not to see it on the side, or bully students together, even if the student has clearly shown dissatisfaction, parents are not impressed.

The most fundamental reason is that there is a problem with parents' educational concepts, always feel that students should always be mentioned, and even some parents in the name of "good medicine and bitter mouth, loyal words against the ears" to count and belittle students, ostensibly for the good of students, in fact, invisibly caused serious physical and mental harm to students.

Always living in a demeaning environment, and not getting the help and encouragement of parents, students will generally go to two extremes, one is that the rebellious heart becomes stronger, rises up to resist, and conflicts with parents, and the relationship between them will become more and more rigid.

The other is that students become very unconfident under the continuous debasement, and their personalities have become submissive, even without their own opinions, and parents are even more dissatisfied when they see this, so the vicious circle will pit students' lives.

The harmonious and beautiful family atmosphere is falling apart in such a wrong mode of getting along, so whether it is parents or relatives, do not only find faults, but also know how to understand and respect, otherwise it is only a matter of time before the family relationship is disintegrated.

In addition to blaming students for their lack of family affection, parents should also find reasons from themselves, and don't just shirk responsibility

Now many students are reluctant to go to relatives, especially when facing some elders, they are very impatient, so parents blame students for not understanding things, and even say that students have weak family affection and do not know how to respect elders.

But have parents ever wondered why students think and do what they do? Students from croaking to adulthood, are living under the education of parents, then the words and deeds of students also reflect the results of parent education, but where there are places on students that parents can't see, it means that there are loopholes in education or even have gone off.

In fact, growth is a compulsory course for parents and students, and each family has different modes of getting along and education methods, but parents must still give students enough love and care, and be able to give students enough confidence and security, so that students can have the strength to move forward.

Although protecting the calf is not a good thing, but you can't watch the child being bullied, or even help on the side, then you can only disintegrate the relationship between parents and students step by step, and when it really comes to fall apart, it's too late to remedy it.

【Author's Note】There will always be some unfriendly relatives and friends in students' lives, so learning to deal with these complex interpersonal relationships is the only way for students to grow, of course, as parents also have to self-reflect, students are likely to be used to parents, don't just complain that students are not sensible, immature, more from themselves to find reasons, don't wait to really lose the child's love and feedback, only to know how wrong they are.

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