Why is my boyfriend willing to buy me an 8,000 mobile phone and not let me buy a 5,000 bag? Background: I am a graduate student, and the school allowance plus the teacher's allowance add up to more than 3,000 a month. My boyfriend and I are current classmates and have similar financial conditions. The other day, my roommate and I had a whim to save a few hundred yuan a month and buy ourselves a bag of 2,000 to 5,000 by New Year's Day 2024. Before the plan could begin, our boyfriend said he couldn't understand it. They all believe that this act is comparison and vanity, and that the bag itself has no practical value. They think that if we want to buy four-figure bags now, we are overspending. "People can't buy things that don't match their consumption level" "Your mobile phone is old, I'm willing to buy you a new mobile phone of eight thousand, but I don't support you to buy five thousand bags" "I don't support the matter of you buying bags, but if you want to buy, I can't object" This is all what he said when he debated with my boyfriend last night, I thought I set a goal with my roommate to satisfy my vanity, there is nothing wrong with it, and now is not the time to save money, even if you don't buy bags, the money is eaten, drink and spend. My boyfriend thought he was right, and he said let me ask Zhihu to see what everyone thought.
8,000 yuan can buy a very good mobile phone, and the difference between different prices of mobile phones is quite large, 8,000 mobile phones can also bring different experiences, such as image ability, photo body liter and so on! But for bags, 5,000 yuan is already a mid-range consumption level, as an ordinary migrant worker, I remember when dating a girl, she also had a lot of bags! But basically the price is between two hundred and six hundred!
Designer bags have also been discussed before! She said that she did not have very important social occasions, nor did she go to the circle to meet rich people, why should I buy such a good bag. Sometimes a bag of hundreds of dollars is also used longer than a bag of thousands of dollars, more practical and durable, why must you buy such an expensive bag, the practical value is not high!
So this question, let's bring in different values and perspectives to talk about! Therefore, different people may have different opinions. Let's analyze the views your boyfriend may hold from several angles:
Practicality and values
Your boyfriend may think that the mobile phone is a necessary tool in daily life, and the 8,000 yuan mobile phone may have more obvious advantages in function and performance than the 5,000 yuan bag, so he is willing to support you to buy a more expensive mobile phone. As for bags, he may think that its practicality is relatively low, just an item for decoration, and does not have much practical help for daily life.
Economic concepts
Your boyfriend may be more focused on rational consumption and think that it is unwise to buy items that exceed his own consumption level. In his opinion, buying more than 5,000 yuan of bags may be overconsumption, and your current economic situation does not support this behavior.
Social perceptions
In some societies, comparison and vanity are seen as bad behavior, especially when it does not correspond to one's financial situation. Your boyfriend may be worried that your purchase of more expensive bags will be misinterpreted by others as a comparison or vanity, which will affect your image and relationship.
Future planning
Your boyfriend may be more inclined to use the money for more meaningful things, such as future investments, savings, or other more practical expenses. He may think that spending money on bags is not a wise decision in long-term planning.
Although you and your roommate have the right to decide how you spend, your boyfriend expresses his views to you and does not force you not to buy bags. He is also willing to buy you a more expensive phone, which also shows that he is willing to help and support you. This is a question worth communicating and understanding, you can try to understand his concerns and opinions from his perspective, and discuss future consumption plans and goals with him. Communication and compromise between the two is the key to building a strong relationship. What do you think about this, welcome to follow my entrepreneur Li Meng and communicate with me!