Chen Jiru wrote in "The Mystery of the Small Window": "Young people should be busy, and if they are busy, they will take breath; The elderly should be idle, and idle will be happy. ”
It is best for young people to be busy and not idle, so as to reduce the exaggeration in their hearts and be down-to-earth. It is best for the elderly to have a little leisure, feel the world with their hearts, and enjoy the rest of their lives.
As for middle-aged people, then it is "half and half". Half busy, half free. Busy is to make money to support the family, leisure is to cultivate the body and mind, work and rest are combined, and life is long.
It's just that the ideal is plump and the reality is skinny. The "half and half" that middle-aged people hope for may not become a reality. Because middle age is the most difficult age of life.
When it is time for you to suffer, you have to suffer; When it's time for you to be unlucky, you can only admit it; When it is time for you to endure tribulation, you can only be forced to endure it.
The darkest time in people's lives is when they are 55 years old, and they encounter these bad omen.
First, encounter the accident of "impermanence".
There are ordinary things, all in our control. Impermanent things are always mysterious and elusive. When impermanence will appear depends on Providence.
Some people get rich while walking, and that's their good luck. And some people get hit by cars while walking, and this is their misfortune. Everything is fate, not by anyone.
When we are young, we are strong and strong, we still have enough energy, naturally we are not afraid of anything, and we can carry any problems we encounter. And middle age is different, the body is not good, there are too many worries, so that it is difficult to step by step.
It's actually quite easy to understand. When there is no family, I am alone, and I am not afraid of death at all. After having a family, looking at our close family, we suddenly became very afraid of death.
Life doesn't like jokes about people who are alone, but jokes about people who have concerns. The so-called "hemp rope is specifically picked and broken, and bad luck is specifically looking for people who are suffering" is this truth.
Whether or not to encounter impermanence is not in our consideration. All we can do is go with the flow.
Second, the body has gradually become a "medicine jar".
The old people around them often say: When people are old, they can eat and sleep, and they can jump and jump, then they are very happy.
When I was a child, I didn't understand, isn't this the life of ordinary people, why is it still happy? Later, I understood that for countless people, the life of ordinary people is a luxury.
Those middle-aged people who are not in good health, they do not eat well, they do not sleep well, they either go to the hospital today or have surgery tomorrow, and the future of life has become bleak.
Because of this, these middle-aged talents especially desire to be healthy, disease-free and painless. At least, you can't live like a "medicine jar", otherwise, even if you live longer, you will just live to suffer.
There is a poem Yun: "After many things in the world, Fang knows that peace is worth thousands of gold." "If you have not suffered from illness, you will not understand the sweetness of good health.
What position of power, what career fame and fortune, in the face of physical health, is something outside the body. Without good health, all this is meaningless.
Third, the family, to the brink of "collapse".
What is the most heartwarming scene in the world? It's the lights of ten thousand homes. Every family has a time to reunite, and each family has a harmonious and warm atmosphere, which makes people feel at ease.
There are lights in the house, people in the room, dishes on the table, rice in the bowl, light in the eyes, love in the heart. In this way, isn't it "worth the world" that everyone dreams of?
Of course, not everyone can realize the wish of "worth it on earth". As Mr. Lu Xun said, tragedy destroys the valuable things of life to people.
Some people hope for family harmony, but they don't expect their relatives to fight in the den, and they like their own people to beat their own people; Some people want family reunion, but they do not expect that the family will be torn apart and the family will go their separate ways.
The so-called "every family has a difficult scripture." "No family is perfect, and no family is completely happy. This has led to different tragedies.
It can only be said that cherish everything you have in front of you. You know, beauty, after all, is temporary, there will be a day of loss.
Fourth, life has come to the edge of "mountains and rivers".
When it comes to life, you have to talk about "money". The reason why the world does not live freely and dashingly is not because they do not want to be free and dashing, but because there is not enough money and poverty and sickness.
It has been said that most of the ailments in this world, except for physical ailments, are associated with the word "poor".
When people pass fifty, children grow up and need to start a family, and parents have to empty their families. As for what the old age and the future holds, no one will think about it. With such exhaustion, the results are often not good.
After people pass fifty, it is more and more difficult to make money, and there are more and more places to spend money in life. In this way, happiness becomes "the moon in the water, the flower in the mirror", and the embarrassing dilemma is the truth.
In order to cope with poverty, we can only work hard to earn money when we are young. You know, when you are idle, you earn and spend it in a hurry, and digging a well when you are thirsty is not ready-made.
Making money, like doing business, can never be "temporarily held Buddha's feet". Only long-term deposit accumulation is the way for middle-aged people to live and survive.
Text/Shushan has deer